my kids are a girl(6) and a boy(4). wife is cheating or atleast in love with some one i know, she doesn't know that i know, all she tells me is that she doesn't love me and doesn't care about trying to make it work. I have old telephone bills that show how many calls, how long, and how many text messages have been sent to this person. i saw a text calling her "mami" and "i love you". those are the clues i have and i'm desperate because i gave her everything. she didn't even finish high school and now with my help and support she was going to finish and get a career.
I live in a 3 unit home, my parents live in one and i live in the other. my kids love their grand parents and i know my kids are better if they live with me and have their grand parents close by. if she leaves with them, they'll live and deal with strange people. and i don't want them to see their mom with other men. they are just too young. what do i do?
2007-07-05 06:34:27 · 10 answers · asked by jj 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Depending on which state you live in, the laws are either going to favor you or, like here in MD, her. Your best bet is to talk to a lawyer in your state ASAP. I'd find a female one at that, so that if thing goes to court, you'll at least have that going for you.
If I knew what I know now about how courts favor women so unfairly, I would have had a pre-nup with my marriage, even though I trust my wife completely.
2007-07-05 06:39:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your wife and tell her you want to give her time to think things are, so you recommend you separate for awhile. Tell her that since you have your family so close that it might be easier to have her move out on her own and after a while you both will figure out what to do next.
The thing is once she is out of the house this will allow you to show that you already have a stable home life to raise your children. Since the courts don't like to disrupt the lives of children they just may let you retain the full custody you already have.
2007-07-05 09:02:57 · answer #2 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
File for divorce and say she is at fault. That she wouldn't be able to provide for them emotionally or financially like you would. You would insure that they keep their loving home and they will have family who loves them close by. That you don't need or want any assistance from her at all, you just want your kids. Just mainly talk from the heart and use your proof if her infidelities. It wouldn't hurt if you could find a receipt for hotel stay or jewelry that would help out your case.
2007-07-05 06:41:02 · answer #3 · answered by cinnatigg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your spouse is being egocentric and irresponsible. by having a married lover over, she is exposing your toddlers to a situation that they shouldn't even comprehend approximately! She is likewise exposing them to a severe-danger situation, as a results of fact she is permitting the married guy who she come into her residing house together with her toddlers and this guy's spouse would plan revenge which will harm every person who's interior the way, alongside with your toddlers. I purely at the instant study interior the paper approximately an guy who burned down his ex spouse's lover's residing house together with his ex spouse and thier napping toddlers in it. I think of they're sufficiently old to furnish statements in court docket approximately how the area is affecting them. They deserve greater helpful than to be uncovered to that form of crap. needless to say, they are not her priority and because you're finding out directly to no longer divulge them to something that's no longer good for them (i'm assuming), then with a bit of luck the courts will rule on your desire. i'm chuffed which you do no longer choose to harm your toddlers's mom, even however she harm you men. it somewhat is sweet for you and your toddlers. good success. i'm hoping she includes her senses. till then, purely take care of your toddlers and get court docket orders conventional so as that she can not deny you visitation each and every time she sounds like it. with a bit of luck, you will get regular custody and she or he would be waiting to in basic terms have visitation till she gets her priorities back interior the excellent suited order... if that ever occurs.
2016-09-30 22:56:44 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a lawyer ASAP, you proably have to fight for joint custody with you having residency with the kids, you won't win for sole custody, she isn't a bad mother, just a bad wife no means to take the kids away from her, she is not a danger to them.
2007-07-05 06:46:20 · answer #5 · answered by shorte716 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a limited ammount you can do, you can try to file for sole custody, but cheating isnt a crime and that alone wont give you custody, or more likely , get joint physical custody and have them half the time.
2007-07-05 06:38:36 · answer #6 · answered by debbie v 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that you can do is hire an attorney and tell him everything. Show him your proof and tell him what it is that you want from the divorce. Good luck.
2007-07-05 06:40:45 · answer #7 · answered by pappysgotitgoinon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer and let them do the paper work for you.
2007-07-05 06:39:05 · answer #8 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a divorce and take custody of ur kid and get all the information and phone bills u have and take it to court
2007-07-05 06:38:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
not much you can do. ----- Sounds like dejavu to me. Been there.........done that.......... lost my t-shirt. Nobaby cares if she acts like a whore. You've got to prove serious neglect or drug use, etc. Good luck. You're in for a wild ride!
2007-07-05 06:41:39 · answer #10 · answered by i know it all! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋