is there ever any excuse for a man to put his hands on a woman in anger?

Question

29, not married, 15 year relationship, 3 kids...... confused

Answer 1

Well, when women get angry they kinda lose control sometimes, so with a woman in anger, if she's so angry that she can't control herself, then maybe the guy could get a grip on her to try to calm her down. Or if she's so angry that she's beating on the man, I think he would have the right to defend himself from her abuse. I guess it just depends on how angry she is and if she can control herself.

Answer 2

No absolutely NOT! under any circumstance should anyone be allowed to put their hands on anyone in anger....if that is what u are dealing with u need to find the strength and courage to get ur kids and go some where away from him. I know it is hard I have consouled many women over this situation and it is always so hard for them to just walk away but somewhere deep inside of u ...u need to find the strong woman inside of u and take the first step out and the rest will be easy....and u will be happy and ur kids will be happier....Take care God bless....

Answer 3

NO. Unless the woman is beating him to death then he can put his hands on her to mover out of his way so he can leave the situation. Under no circumstance should a man hit a woman especially out of anger. I grew up in an abusive home not only does it affect the woman whose getting hit, but the kids in the home are traumatized by it. And sometimes they grow up thinking that kind of behavior is appropriate. How can you end domestic violence if your teaching it to the kids?

Answer 4

Its the same excuse that anyone has to put their hands on anyone in anger. Just because one is a man or woman change the argument especial if they are to be equals. My father told me that I should never hit a women, but I always should defend myself.
My wife and I have both studied Tae Kwon Do and she once attacked me from the back and instinctively threw her. I never asked to be forgiven for defending myself and she learned not to cross that line.

Answer 5

A man should never put his hands on a woman just as a woman should never put her hands on a man. It could be fatal for either one. If the relationship is that bad, then get out. No one should ever be subjected to physical or emtional abuse.

Answer 6

NO! No matter what there is NEVER an excuse for a man to lay his hands on a woman in anger.
Best advice: LEAVE. it doesn't get better. I watched my dad do the same thing to my mom for years. It only got worse. If you won't do it for yourself, do it for your kids. I don't know if you have boys or girls, but think of it this way: If you have sons, do you want them to think it's ok for them to put their hands on a woman in anger? If you have girls: do you want them to think it's ok for a guy to do that to them. Sadly, History often repeats itself. Break the cycle before it begins.

Answer 7

NO! Abuse and physical violence is never an answer. If he can't tell you how he feels by talking to you, then he needs to leave and cool off before he comes back and tries to explain to you again how he feels. If he isn't very good at saying how he feels, then he should try other methods (writing a letter to you, getting a third party to mediate, etc) but never violence or abuse. I would bring this issue up with him immediatley, tell him how that (would )make you feel, and explain that violence isn't ever the answer. If it doesn't work, suggest counseling, or leave.

Answer 8

Not offensively, but in defense probably if just for the reason of restraining her from harming him or any others such as children,or even herself, while she decides to "go off"! The best thing for a man to do who is angry at a woman, and feels the urge to "clip" her, is to walk away out of her vicinity and cool down. The best thing for that woman to do is to let him walk, and not to provoke him!

Answer 9

ABSOLUTELY NOT!!!!!!!!! I relized that the day my ex threw me into a wall....in all his rage and anger he broke six bones on me that day....there is never an excuse for domestic violence...EVER!!! If your spouse/bf is violent grab your kids and get the hell away...its the only option you have....i spent four days in the hospital....use the experience i had and never let it happen to you....i wish you all the best

May all things work out and i hope that no more violence comes to you or your children.

Answer 10

I think it'd depend on what the woman was doing. I've grabbed and held my wife in heated arguments, usually to stop her from taking swings at me or throwing stuff.

Of course that's a rare occasion, I think we've had 2 big blowouts in our entire marriage.

I don't think a man should physically fight with a woman, but he shouldn't have to sit there and take it if there's physical violence coming at him. I believe restraining is allowed.