I am a divorced mom, I have been with my boyfriend for a little over two years. I am ready to get remarried to him, but he is stalling on asking me.
He has told me countless times that he wants to marry me, and we live our lives and plan for the future as if we are married.
I love him very much, and want to be with him as his wife.
How long is too long to wait for him to ask me?
I think the old saying that "why buy the cow when the milk is free" saying might be true.
What do you think?
2007-07-05 07:02:49 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you're right. Two years is enough time to know whether or not you want to marry. Take the cow and the milk to a different pasture. If he really loves you, he will come get the cow, pay for her and enjoy the milk for the rest of his life! Good luck!!
2007-07-05 07:20:30 · answer #1 · answered by historybuff33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-30 23:01:08 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that if he doesn't agree to getting married by a certain deadline, then he probably will never be ready, and that you want to be married and will no longer invest your time with someone who doesn't have the same goal and you will be ending the relationship and moving on.
You didn't say whether or not you are living with him, but if you are, that is why he hasn't asked. Get separate residences.
2007-07-05 07:09:13 · answer #3 · answered by Teresa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A guy who says he wants to marry you and then fails to set the date is keeping you on a chain with no intention of making the commitment. The way to tell him you're not willing to wait "forever" is fairly simple. You say you are ready to get married but you understand that he may not be. Tell him to leave and not contact you until/unless he has a date set. Then if you are available and still want to marry him, you will. But remind him you may not be available or may have changed your mind. Then you show him the door.
Then you go on with your life!
2007-07-05 07:09:33 · answer #4 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm thinking why you're so anxious to make the same mistake. If he's not ready, why push it. Do you want another divorce? Jesus, be patient. He's told you he wants to get married. Were you this pushy with your first marriage?
2007-07-05 07:08:38 · answer #5 · answered by ron-D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's time to talk like 2 grown adults and give him 6 months to propose, give you a ring and set a date. If he doesn't or won't do that, move on. Be a better role model for your kids.
2007-07-05 07:07:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't you ask him to marry you? Why wait and give him the power? If you love each other adn are planning a life togethr anyway, does it really matter who asks who? He may be surprised and flattered!
2007-07-05 07:06:32 · answer #7 · answered by Lovely Lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do I think? I think you're wasting your time. There obviously is a reason as to why he's hesitating. Make you demands known. If he gives you another answer to stall you then toss him aside. His loss...your gain.
2007-07-05 07:15:21 · answer #8 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he worth waiting for ? only you know this, do you live together now ? no ? good, marry before moving in together, yes ?, not good, he has no reason to "marry" you, already has the benefits, extra income, cook, house keeper, sex,,,
2007-07-05 07:09:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
TALK TO HIM!!! A relationship is based on trust and communication. You need to be open with him and let hime know exactly how you feel.
2007-07-05 07:08:36 · answer #10 · answered by elb366 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋