why is it that 2 people can go 5 years in to a relationship get married and then seperate for divorce 6 months later and actually divorce 6 months after that??? so they were married 1 year legally. How does that work that 2 people can make a relationship work but when it comes to marriage its just thrown out the window as if vows werent anything
2007-07-05 05:50:06 · 16 answers · asked by evie1718 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Eventually that ball and chain suffocates you. No easy way out anymore, and you feel trapped. Marriage is a joke to most people.
2007-07-05 05:53:37 · answer #1 · answered by ron-D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because they were probably miserable for the 5 years of dating, but didn't want to break up. Then they decide to get married and are living in a fantasy world planning the wedding (not the marriage). Once you get married, you have to share money, a home, decisions, responsibilities, etc. People don't realize that a marriage is a lot of work and things do change. Once you are married, you really see that other person. If you didn't have a strong and good relationship before you got married, it only gets worse after the wedding.
2007-07-05 06:05:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People change after marriage. The person you married is not the person your spouse is. I know this to be true. I struggle with that fact everyday. And after 12 years of marriage (about 10 of which have been very unhappy), I can tell you this is an unfair generalization (which of course I make on these boards regularly, but then I am a cynical, bitter, sacastic, unhappy bast*****).
2007-07-05 05:57:03 · answer #3 · answered by s1lvermidnight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's an easy question, and an easy answer!
People find out who the other person really is when they live with them.
People have higher standards for marriage than for dating.
One more thing...people aren't as motivated to be as agreeable, make everything perfect and ignore the red flags once reality sets in. What they need is to be realistic before the ink is dry on the paper.
2007-07-05 06:09:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all goes to unrealistic expectations on "marriage".
Working on a relationship is a constant thing, but some people think marriage is the finish line and stop working on it.
2007-07-05 08:14:29 · answer #5 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
**** happens, and for 5 years they were just bf/gf. Getting married sometime changes a person view on life and relationships.
2007-07-05 05:55:40 · answer #6 · answered by harold 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess they fell claustrophobic in the marriage. Just only being in a relationship they ways think they have a way out.
2007-07-05 06:03:07 · answer #7 · answered by jimmy.parker06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all people respect their vows and take it as a joke and want the easy way out.
2007-07-05 05:55:00 · answer #8 · answered by *AntA mAriA* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It falls within the realms of responsibility. Once married, certain responsibilities are thrust upon individuals that aren't necessarily ready for them.
2007-07-05 05:55:11 · answer #9 · answered by pappysgotitgoinon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Their relationship was working. They thought being married would fix it. They were wrong.
2007-07-05 05:58:25 · answer #10 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋