Does anyone take responsiblity for their actions on here?

Question

Sure, I had an affair, but it's because my spouse ___" (fill in the blank with any old BS) or I love my wife but she just won't love me back.. I've tried everything.. Every now and then, I'd like to see some honesty: "Yeah, I screwed up all right, I slept around on my husband/wife and I deserve whatever I get for it."

Answer 1

They seem like cowards. If they was brave enough to cheat. Why can't they own up to doing it?

Answer 2

Admitting you made a mistake is taking responsibility. Just because a person wants to change or work on things and recognizes their spouse's role in the problems doesn't mean they are avoiding responsibility. Saying, "I deserved what I got," is, in essence, throwing in the towel and giving up.

Answer 3

It is hard to say that and not try to find an external excuse, but it can be done(speaking from experience). I think that if I had tried to lay the blame anywhere else and not where it belonged, my husband might have decided I wasn't worth giving a second chance.

Answer 4

Both partners are guilty of going back on their vows and promises.

At times everyone acts in ways they wish not to or in ways that are harmful to the relationship. The most important thing is being willing to accept it and to do what it takes to put back into the relationship with what it was you did took out.

Answer 5

It's always easier to point the finger at someone or something else. Those that are unwilling to be held accountable for their actions are probably in relationships that are doomed. In my opinion, it's impossible to love, honor & respect your partner if you can't be responsible for your actions. In saying that, your partner has no business trusting you as far as they can throw you if you can't be held responsible for anything either. As always, this is just my opinion.

Answer 6

Oh quit trying to blame others!

Seriously, I agree - and I've also noticed that when one responds honestly to a post, they get a lot of "bad answers" against them.

I enjoy coming here to read the questions - and I even asked one myself...

It is amazing though that regardless of the question, if you don't post exactly what one wants to hear, they get kind of testy.

My favorites are the ones asking "how can I make him (or her) love me...or trust me...or believe me...

Answer 7

I would....But I never screw up! Back to reality though. Most screw ups on here are about extra relationships. In that, I have never had one within my marriage. So I guess that I was right after all when I said that I never screw up! Great question though.

Answer 8

It is so tempting to give you a truely honest response. However, most people wouldn't believe it because they are not here for honesty, just to see or give criticism or make themselves feel better by making others feel worse.

Answer 9

You make a good point.

I know I haven't always been the best person in the world, but every day there is a new chance to try to make it better. Apologize when and where you can, then learn from it and try to do better.

Answer 10

It's tough to admit you did wrong, that's for sure...I try my best to admit my screw ups and fix 'em (if I can). I'm sure I haven't always, especially when I was younger.

What I try to do even more though is not make any (easier said than done but I do try live by the whole 'do unto others...' idea).

Answer 11

Good ?~ I like how "littleviv2000" put that. Don't point fingers @ others for the choice that you made. You know it's like. If you were so sure of what you were doing ~cheating~, that you didn't stop & ? what you were doing. Why try & blame others are put them down, I feel if they knew in their heart what they were doing was wrong. They could of prevented it from happening.