My ex and I broke up about a month ago, we were together for about 17 months. But now it's like we didnt even break up, we still go out. He still takes me to family events and such. So at this point I don't know where we stand. And I don't know if I should just stop seeing him.
2007-07-05 06:10:24 · 10 answers · asked by dlg1028 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He knows you both broke up so in his eyes...you are no longer a "couple." He may still care for you and enjoy your company, but if he really wanted to be with you then it would be clear and you would have no question about it. For your own sake, it may be worth having a frank discussion with him about your current friendship (I hesitate to say "relationship" since you both are still officially broken up) and what he sees in his future (and whether he sees you in his future in some capacity).
2007-07-05 06:14:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-06 01:15:08 · answer #2 · answered by Mariann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps the underlying question in this continuing non-relationship is whether or not you're sleeping with him. Maybe I'm WAY out of line to assume that you were sleeping with him in the first place, but I will make that assumption.
If you are still sleeping with him now, then the reason he keeps taking you out is obvious. He is having his cake and eating it too. He sleeps with you, has someone to take to family events, and yet is not tied down by having a "relationship" with you. If he meets someone he likes better, he can pursue her. You may not want to believe that he's just using you for sex and companionship, but the way to find out for sure is to stop sleeping with him and see how long he keeps coming around.
If you are NOT sleeping with him, then it may be that he still cares for you and doesn't want to let go. I don't know the circumstances of the breakup, but whose idea was it? Did he initiate the breakup and now has second thoughts, or did you initiate it and this is his way of hanging on? This is where you have to have the frank talk with him and say, "Are we boyfriend and girlfriend, or what?"
Good luck.
2007-07-05 06:39:14 · answer #3 · answered by Musicality 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES, you HAVE to stop seeing him. If there is no chance that your relationship is going to continue, then you have to let it go. At least for now. Maybe some day down the road, you can be friends. But right now, you're just pouring salt into the wound. You have to move on, honey, or you never will. I'm sorry, I know how much it hurts.
2007-07-05 06:22:32 · answer #4 · answered by Mel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like to me you are not broken up at all, since you are obviously still dating. Why did you break up to start with and whose idea was it? If you broke up with him you might rethink that, or sever your ties with him and move on. If he broke up with you and you want him back permanently you need to have a frank talk with him about your situation.
2007-07-05 06:14:55 · answer #5 · answered by zento1110 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you can not handle being just his friend i would tell him. Tell him you can not handle being his friend right now maybe in a little while but not right now and tell him you have to stop hanging out with him so much.
2007-07-05 06:15:23 · answer #6 · answered by knowssignlanguage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't forget him if you still see him. people that break up usually go their separate ways. if you don't want to go with him, tell him no next time he asks you out.
2007-07-05 06:14:57 · answer #7 · answered by wendy_da_goodlil_witch 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop seeing him and go out with someone else.
2007-07-05 06:13:42 · answer #8 · answered by son_of_glen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him and ask him whats up? if you still have feelings for him then stick around maybe he still feels for you
2007-07-05 06:16:11 · answer #9 · answered by hey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a new boyfriend
2007-07-05 06:21:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋