Marriage & Divorce - 18 June 2007

I am engaged, to be married in four months. Almost a year ago, I expressed my feeling that some of his interactions with other females were not appropriate at the level our relationship was going (we were about to be engaged). We discussed it, and while he felt differently than I, both agreed that since I was uncomfortable with us (either him or I) spending time with the opposite sex without the other person there, we wouldn't. From that moment on, his friend (female) has been having a difficult time with our decision. She has asked on several occasions (to my fiance) what would make him happy? He tells her that he wants to remain friends, but at a distance and appropriateness. She continues pushing, claiming me being jealous and controlling-and saying it is unfair that she cannot see him unless I am there. She calls & emails him, in attempt to somehow change the decision we have made together. I am fed up. He wants to remain friends with her, with these boundaries..she's pushing. HELP

2007-06-18 11:48:17 · 16 answers · asked by anenkletos21 1

2007-06-18 11:41:28 · 18 answers · asked by Bien Chula 5

We planned on getting married soon and we both love each other so much. lately we haven't really talked about much besides the general 'what'd you do today' conversation. I really want this to work, but he thinks I treat him like a child because i ask him where he's going, and i call him. I don't think i treat him like a child, because when i go somewhere he does the same. I know he's busy and i try to be supportive. but i miss the time we used to spend together, and i know its i little selfish asking him to drop what he's doing just to hang out with me. I'm worried that he's going to get irritated with me and just end it all but i dont want that. i just really miss him, i miss our conversations and just being with each other. How do i get some time with him, without nagging? And how do i get him to believe that i'm not treating him like a child?

2007-06-18 11:40:14 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm currently very unhappy working fro my dad and living at home after travelling overseas, no idea how i ended up here as i had big plans for my life, i cannot continue in this direction, i have the option to move interstate with a girlfriend, go back overseas ot the uk to use up my visa or stay in melbourne, try and get a new job and move out.........none of them are going to make me happy again as i have completely stuffed my life and have been a horrible person, i dont want to be like this anymore, if i do leave i'm pretty much leaving my family and friends and not sure what i will come back to, but i cannot stay so unhappy like htis either......any ideas for me?

2007-06-18 11:36:42 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

My girlfriend and I had just broken up (for reasons that i will exclude so that i can get some unbias advice...and no, i didnt cheat). We have only been going out for over three months now and this is our first break up. Regardless of the reasons that we broke up, I can tell that she still has feelings for me. I want her back as well, but she is unwilling to take me back at the moment. She says that we might get back together, but no garuntees. I know that every serious relationship comes with a few break ups in between, and i know that i can get back together with her. I just dont know how i should go about it. My question is how should i proceed? what signals should i be sending her? what hints should i look for coming from her? what have past ex's done for you to get you back? what works and what doesnt? How can i get her to fall back in love with me? I think that she wants me back, but she just needs a little encouragement. So i need some tips from all of you relationship experts

2007-06-18 11:30:49 · 16 answers · asked by Capone 1

My husband only finds me sexy when i smoke a cig or wear panty hose. He gets excited from that but doesn't really do any thing to get me in the mood I told him we should try different things but he wont. he really isn't romantic and just expects me to get on top all the time and i told him how i feel and he just shrugs it off. I have worn see through things and such and no prevail. I am hopeless and lost and don't know what to do. How can i get him to be romantic with me? how do get him to do more with me instead of me being on top all of the time. I need to feel things not just get on top all the time. is it wrong for me to want to be romance once in a while? I am being crazy?He only touches my legs when i where the pantyhose and lately he barely does that. NOt to mention it is too hot to wear them now. Being nude dont do it for him. it not like i am over weight. I just don't know is it me? what do I do?

2007-06-18 11:24:59 · 30 answers · asked by sassylassy2876 4

I've asked this before but no one had any good ideas.

I met a guy who's a chef and I need good excuse to go to his restaurant and see him. I don't want to just show up with a friend and ask for him because that's too obvious.

2007-06-18 11:23:53 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a child with her. And We have been back together for a few months.. She wont tell me any details...who, what, when, where, how, or why

2007-06-18 11:23:39 · 39 answers · asked by cmrlssme 1

I am in a relationship with someone I love. However, I tend to be clingy where I need to know what he is doing all the time and I don't give him space. I guess I am afraid of losing him. How do I make my relationship with him better so that he doen't feel like I am stifling him.

2007-06-18 11:19:44 · 10 answers · asked by honeyluv_2010 4

I caught my husband speaking with a woman on the phone. He knew her several years ago and seemed to have feelings for her. (platonic I thought). He was to see her a year ago and I found out and got it stopped. Now it's to happen again. He says he wants to find out what his life might be like with her. We've been married 30 years. I admit I'm not as excited about him when he walks into the room like I used to be. I have gotten out of shape and can't do some things, but I am willing to try to change. I am beside myself with this breakfast. I want to call her and threaten her...or Maybe I'll "show up" at it and make a scene..or I'm considering just getting into the car that morning and refusing to get out. If he wants to go to breakfast with her, he's taking me too. I am hoping counseling will help us and I called someone today but haven't heard back when we can get it. In the meantime WHAT do I do about this meeting he has planned. Help me figure out what to do!

2007-06-18 11:12:38 · 28 answers · asked by Debra S 1

They both have due dates in late July. Obviously I can't be in two places at once. Can I talk my girlfriend (or wife for that matter) to induce a little earlier? I don't want to miss out on either birth, but I really don't want either of them to know about each other either.

2007-06-18 11:08:58 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous

back on deployments? Or stay and we will be financially safe-but he may have to be gone? We have $10,000 in debt and a 1 year old. Hes been in 9 years. No idea where we would live/work if we get out. What would you do? He's a tank mechanic also..and I have no prior experience anywhere( except also being a tank mechanic in the army-but i dont want to do anything like that again!lol) Less than a year from getting out. And still not sure what to do

2007-06-18 11:03:26 · 14 answers · asked by Brenda Sue 2

I hear people on here say all the time they had sex, but that it didn't "MEAN anything". Is that possible? Can two people have sex, and it not mean anything? I must be "old school", but to me, if two people have sex, it OUGHT to mean something! They SHOULD have feelings for the other person. Do you agree, or disagree? Have YOU ever had sex that meant nothing?

2007-06-18 11:03:00 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am recently married and encounter pain when I am intimate with my husband. I am also pregnant. When I had ultra sounds I had intence pain. My husband is my first intimate experience. Every time when I try to be intimate with him I get pain. My husband said I should talk to my mother. But since I am a married grown adult I don't think I should discuss it with my mother. He said if he had any problems like that he would discuss it with his mother. He said his parents have many years of experience and they would give good advice. Is is nortmal for married person to discuss their intimate problems with their parents? I am affraid he might talk to his mom about my situation. He said he wouldn't talk about me but if he had any problems in his area he would talk to her. I don't want to discuss anything like this with my mother or his parents. Am I being paranoid?

2007-06-18 11:01:29 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife I have been married for 18yrs have to wonderful daughters. The wife works from home during the day and teaches school at nite. We recently been having some issues in our marriage (communiction type issues) and I am partly to blame for this. Then I stubble upon text messages on her phone that got me thinking. Messages that said meet at my house at a certian time. I miss you too can't wait till Monday ect. I conforted her about this and she swore there was nothing going on. So I thought I was just acting stupid . Then she told me she had to go into school early one day.Then on my way home for work that day I ran across her and asked her what she was doing she said she was shopping at this store but where i seen her she was no where around this store no where close. I don't know what to think I really help I'm just paranoid. What do you think

2007-06-18 10:59:33 · 28 answers · asked by trout17366 1

hi, i have separated myself from my mentally abusive husband but my son lives with him and sometimes when i talk to my son he asks questions..or wants to talk to me. I have been civil with him but since i have been away i feel soooo peaceful without his presence and i just dont want to communicate.. at all. should i or shouldn't i..? thanks

2007-06-18 10:57:56 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband wants to move to closer to his children, understandable right? Only this move will mean that I will be 2 1/2 hours away from my children. When we married he relocated to where I live and he has been the one with the 2 1/2 hour distance between he and his children. This was only six months ago and now he wants us to move. I am feeling sick to my stomach over the whole situation. I share custody with my ex-husband of my two children, but they would stay with him if I move due to the school situation. He has physical custody of my children, but I see them as much as possible. The distance would significantly alter my abilty to see my children as often as I do now. I am almost ready to tell him to move if he wants but I am staying put!!!!

2007-06-18 10:57:03 · 12 answers · asked by ? 1

Just a little background....My ex-husband and I have been seperated and divorced since May of 2006. Two weeks ago my car broke down so, I have been driving the car he has...that I paid for. Last Friday the state finally started taking child support from him, and he is mad.

On the day of his sister's wedding, while I am getting my daughters hair fixed for the event he comes and takes the car from me and my four y.o. daughter is basically stranded until my mother comes home and I can use her car to pick her up. Well because he did that to my daughter I told him that she couldn't be in the wedding. His mom was pissed because they bough a dress and shoes...but I told her that since her son stranded my daughter, he didn't care enough about her so my daughter didn't need to go...to which she replies.."to hell with you and to hell with the children"

Was I wrong?

2007-06-18 10:56:58 · 6 answers · asked by Neea_Gastino 3

Did it work out ok?

Would you do it again?

2007-06-18 10:56:20 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

He wants me to make the appt. for tomorrow, even though I made it for after he gets off work today. I said that this just shows how we rate and he told me to make arrangements to egt him there and hung up on me. This is becoming the norm for his behavior as of late...we were always so happy and got along great, and anymore he is so selfish. Why would he do this and how do I handle it??

2007-06-18 10:55:56 · 15 answers · asked by Smilingcheek 4

I know alot of girls that don't consider it "cheating" if they are sleeping around with other girls. And I know guys who think it ok to get a B J from another guy when their married.

I still think it is cheating.

2007-06-18 10:55:19 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous

I told her to just be up front, cut ties, and go on with life. She says that its easier said than done... So, does anyone have any "good lines" out there, (lol, for a lack of better words???)

2007-06-18 10:53:44 · 11 answers · asked by sunflowergal 4

What is the best way for me to support him? He was let go with no notice or pay.

2007-06-18 10:51:48 · 7 answers · asked by Susan R 2

It's my parents 26th wedding anniversary on June 27. I have idea what to get them. I have 2 sisters and one is married so we usually all go in on something. We like to spend 30 - 50$ a piece. For fathers day we got him a gc to go golfing and my mom will go with him. We've gotten them gc to go out to eat and they never use them. What do you think? any ideas?

2007-06-18 10:48:43 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm 25, he's 30. Been together one year, were friends for 3 years before that. We both live in California. He once said that if he couldn't make things work out here, he would contemplate moving back to Virginia, where he's from and that he would definatly want me to come with him. I talked the other day about my interest in maybe relocating for the sake of saving money, getting more for my dollar, etc...and his response was that he didn't think I'd be able to survive the cold and that he's lived in so many other climates but I haven't and I wouldn't make it. My question is, isn't he being a hypocrite here? If the decision to move was his, I would be expected to move but if it were mine, he doesn't seem as willing....Thoughts?

2007-06-18 10:48:08 · 12 answers · asked by Dr. Kat 5

The married couple in our neighbourhood often fights. They usually yell at each other, smashing dishes and other noise is heard. There is probably some physical violence too. They also have three small children. I think they are from 1 to 4 years old boys.

Yesterday at night they had an especially hard fight. It woke me up. The children were crying and screaming and I was very upset by this. I was very sad for the kids that have to grow up in such an enviroment.

Anyway I dont know the couple by person, I only see them on the street from time to time. They also dont seem to have any contact with their neighbours.
I would like to do something, at least to help the kids.. Next time I decided to call the police if such incident occurs, this time nobody of their neighbours did that, I think. The police should then contact social department, but that probably will not help much.

Does anyone have an idea what could be done?

2007-06-18 10:46:52 · 16 answers · asked by GoldenRule 2

2007-06-18 10:45:07 · 15 answers · asked by mo 1

Over the weekend, I was at my girlfriend's parents house(They already don't appreciate me).

I used their toilet and I basically did a number (2) but, what I didn't know was that their plumbing wasn't all that great. So, the toilet overfilled with all the extra ingredients but, that's not where it gets worse.

I basically used their towels to sort of clean up the mess and threw it out of the bathroom window. Hoping nobody would find out. Well, let's just say the dad was on the side of the house BBQing.

I was very apologetic but, I still feel stupid for the remainder of 5 hours that I was there.

Does anyone have an idea how I can recover from such emarrassing moment. Specially when the family doesn't like you to begin with?

2007-06-18 10:43:02 · 7 answers · asked by Cerealkiller 2

When a couple gets serious and they want to further their lives together.

2007-06-18 10:40:42 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

My ex-husband has moved due to job reasons. He has sole physical and legal custody of our 15 year old daughter.

The home that they were living in has been sold. Now, our daughter has to move to where I live, stay in the same state with her grandmother or move to where her Dad lives.

I think that he does not want to take responsibility for her in the new town that he is living in.

Her grandmother lives in another city. So, either my daughter would have to change schools or her grandmother would have to drop and pick her up from school each day.

I am willing to have her come stay with me. Yet, my ex-husband does not want to send her to me.

I don't know how things will work out. I have repeatedly asked my ex-husband to send our child to me. He does not agree.

He wants us all to move to the new town where he is and live as a family.

I am hoping and praying that things work out for the best....I don't know what else to do.

2007-06-18 10:36:16 · 8 answers · asked by Stareyes 5