I have a child with her. And We have been back together for a few months.. She wont tell me any details...who, what, when, where, how, or why
2007-06-18 11:23:39 · 39 answers · asked by cmrlssme 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What did you do during your separation?
2007-06-18 11:28:19 · answer #1 · answered by la buena bruja 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
That's pretty gross but if you two were not together at the time LET IT GO! It's only going to keep eating you up inside the more you know. What do you expect to get out of knowing the details besides a sick stomach? The past is in the past, just like before you knew each other. Leave it there and start focusing on the present so you don't end up seperated again.
2007-06-18 11:31:12 · answer #2 · answered by rinrin 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you were celibate during your separation, then you might have room to be upset.
But if you sowed some wild oats of your own, it is more like being jealous that she had more fun than you did.
Quit torturing yourself. Knowing the details won't make you feel better, it will only make you more jealous, especially if you know the guys involved. So quit asking for details. Unless you want to invite a friend in for a threesome, forget about it.
In my opinion, your wife was not too smart to have told you as much as she did.
The fact that she had sex while you were separated is not terribly important. The important thing is do you love her? Does she love you? Do you want her to be part of your life? Everything else is unimportant.
Doc
2007-06-18 11:35:42 · answer #3 · answered by Doc Hudson 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Then how do you know she is telling the truth? Is her being with two guys really any worse than her being with one? Were you doing anything during this time? Just some thoughts. This really depends on how seperated you two were. If you were splting up with no intentions of getting back together then she was free to look else where. Though she should of waited for divorce as you should too.
2007-06-18 11:30:27 · answer #4 · answered by ronnny 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're patently a youthful virgin, so i ask your self the place you get a number of those information from. a million. there's a element at which men do not decide for youthful virgins and can like a woman that is familiar with what she's doing. 2. i don't think of all men like "screamers," yet i'm particular those that do in simple terms like listening to that they are doing something precise. a woman would properly be silent and nevertheless tutor emotion, yet a woman it is laying doing/announcing not something isn't any exciting. 3. woman will could answer that for you. 4. in all probability. that's the same with something 5. do you comprehend this from watching pornos? yet quite moving around and doing issues in any different case retains the act from getting uninteresting and stimulates different areas. Grabbing the legs and shifting them is the finest pass.
2016-11-25 22:17:28 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly? i don't know if i could get over this either. it would be like an obsession for me. i don't know why she told you in the first place. i don't blame her for what she did while you were separated, because you were officially separated -- but on a personal level, i wouldn't be able to get it out of my mind either.
however, YOU have a child together. for the sake of the kid, at least try to work it out. go to marriage counseling, if possible. this might help you forgive and forget. you owe it to your kid. IF you walk away from this relationship, make sure that you give it a good chance, so that you can walk away with no regrets.
2007-06-26 07:20:33 · answer #6 · answered by karen_schik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you both were separated and going out with other people or just trying things out like you were not together then you have no right to be mad . you weren't together.All these guys on here saying leave her would be congratulating you and saying its no big deal if it were the guy having a threesome during a separation. You say now you and her are back together--i take that to mean at the time it happened your weren't together.you need to just drop it. you aren't with her it happened . did you have sex with anyone during separation??
2007-06-25 06:12:50 · answer #7 · answered by lsp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want to know the details? It'll only make things worse. Anyway, if the shoe were on the other foot and you had sex with two women at the same time while you were separated from her and then told her about it..............
2007-06-26 09:26:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need any details. You need to forgive her, forget it and move on. Being cheated on isn't the end of the world. Even if you were seperated, it is still considered cheating because you two were still married. Don't let it take control of your life.
2007-06-24 18:10:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure I'd stay and ask if I could watch the next time. What were you doing during the separation???????? staying virginal? how long was the separation? Maybe she needs a little spice in her sex life.
2007-06-25 10:19:32 · answer #10 · answered by panndora 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well did ya'll decide to see other people? and if so i think she saw other people like ya'll had arranged..isnt that what seperation is? If you didn't want her seeing other people then you shouldn't have seperated. I would still be with her because she was still in the boundaries of seperation.
2007-06-26 05:18:53 · answer #11 · answered by Lizzy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋