Just a little background....My ex-husband and I have been seperated and divorced since May of 2006. Two weeks ago my car broke down so, I have been driving the car he has...that I paid for. Last Friday the state finally started taking child support from him, and he is mad.
On the day of his sister's wedding, while I am getting my daughters hair fixed for the event he comes and takes the car from me and my four y.o. daughter is basically stranded until my mother comes home and I can use her car to pick her up. Well because he did that to my daughter I told him that she couldn't be in the wedding. His mom was pissed because they bough a dress and shoes...but I told her that since her son stranded my daughter, he didn't care enough about her so my daughter didn't need to go...to which she replies.."to hell with you and to hell with the children"
Was I wrong?
2007-06-18 10:56:58 · 6 answers · asked by Neea_Gastino 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would never use my daughter as a tool to get at him. I have always gone out of my way to make sure that my children see him and try to make sure that he is a part of their life. He has never wanted to take the responsibility
And I bought the car he put it in his name. When we divorced he didn't have a second car..so I was nice enough to let him have the car so he could get to and from work.
2007-06-18 11:15:01 · update #1
You were put in a tough situation and you made a decision that you thought was the best thing for you and your daughter. Speaking from experience, you probably should have just let your daughter go and continue with the wedding. Here's the thing. Two wrongs don't make a right. Your ex was definitely wrong, but by turning the other cheek you are continuing to be the good person which would only help your case. Once the wedding was over with, you can than go to the courts and change your custody due to the fact that he is putting your daughter at risk. By showing that you continue to do good and he will do bad it will be to your benefit. If his mom chooses to not want to be a part of your daughters life than that is on her. She will be the one to miss out. It isn't your fault that her dad and his family want to play hurful games. Good Luck!!!
2007-06-18 11:31:53 · answer #1 · answered by !~!~Edward~!~! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being divorce the car should of belonged to only one of you and not been shared back and forth.
Your actions of withholding the daughter from the wedding seemed spiteful. No where did you even say whether or not the daughter wanted to go or no to the wedding. Little girls like to dress up and a wedding is an excuse to do so.
I would tell my ex that they were being an *** and then be the bigger person and let the child attend the wedding.
2007-06-18 19:05:57 · answer #2 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a little difficult to answer because you didn't mention under what circumstances your husband agreed to let you drive the car, and who's name it's in. If you paid for it, then why does he still have it. It's not fair to let him drive it, then take it away as you see fit. However, if he agreed to this, then, I find it quite immature of him to come and take the car, leave his daughter stranded, just to get back to you because you're receiving child support. As far as your not letting your daughter in your sister-in-law's wedding, why punish your sister-in-law and your daughter? I'm sure they were both looking forward to the event. Sometimes you can't rationalize with ignorance, such as the actions of your husband and the statement from your mother-in-law. But, never bring yourself to their level by allowing your actions to be characterized like theirs. Be the mature one and do the right thing, at all times. You're making history for your child and that's all that matters. When she grows up, she will be able to tell the difference between who was ignorant and selfish. Just make sure she doesn't put you in that category. Good luck and live life for your kid in mind!! Forget what they're doing.
2007-06-18 18:16:27 · answer #3 · answered by havanablu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait a minute...you told him that your DAUGHTER couldn't be in the wedding? Why in the world would you do that? What did she do?
Too many times kids are put in the middle of adults acting foolish.
To all divorced/divorcing parents out there:
STOP PUTTING KIDS IN THE MIDDLE. THEY DID NOT CHOOSE YOU AS PARENTS. THEY GOT STUCK WITH YOU! THEY DID NOT ASK TO BE BORN TO TWO PEOPLE WHO CAN'T GET ALONG.
2007-06-18 18:31:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me that the one who is being most punished is your poor little daughter. You and your ex have basically used her as a stick to beat each other with.
Grow up. Your daughter should have at least one parent who behaves like an adult, and if it isn't her father it has to be you.
2007-06-18 18:07:01 · answer #5 · answered by Karin C 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope you called the cops on him, and the hell with his side of the family moron's!!!! Get a lawyer if you need to, the car does it belong to, who,....... in the divorce one or the other owns the car, so what happened here???
2007-06-18 18:06:38 · answer #6 · answered by kim t 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋