I am recently married and encounter pain when I am intimate with my husband. I am also pregnant. When I had ultra sounds I had intence pain. My husband is my first intimate experience. Every time when I try to be intimate with him I get pain. My husband said I should talk to my mother. But since I am a married grown adult I don't think I should discuss it with my mother. He said if he had any problems like that he would discuss it with his mother. He said his parents have many years of experience and they would give good advice. Is is nortmal for married person to discuss their intimate problems with their parents? I am affraid he might talk to his mom about my situation. He said he wouldn't talk about me but if he had any problems in his area he would talk to her. I don't want to discuss anything like this with my mother or his parents. Am I being paranoid?
2007-06-18 11:01:29 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you should talk to your doctor and not your mother. I would not talk to my mother about these types of issues. I don't think it is normal. They just don't understand. This is your private life and only you and your husband should know about it.
2007-06-18 11:05:35 · answer #1 · answered by Stareyes 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He probably already has spoken to her. But you need to speak with your doctor, and not a relative. The problem could be many things, both physical and emotional or in your head.
Not that that is a bad thing, but talking will help clear it up.
I had a hard time being intimate with my current husband after the things my first did. Especially when he was not doing me vaginally, but anal. I had no idea what to expect when I married again because I thought all men liked rear door action, all of the time.
It hurt too,when I finally did it the right way all of the time, and I learned that it was me and my mindset. I got over it and the sex has been wonderful.
2007-06-18 11:29:44 · answer #2 · answered by Midnight Winter WOLF 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I made better decisions in the past. If that were to happen, I would not have a poor selection in friends, I would be in a better educational instiute, I'd be a little more financially stable, and I would still be with my ex girlfriend. Too bad all that is unattainable.
2016-05-19 00:32:14 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how your mother will react. If she is always meddling and interferring, then no, Don't discuss it with her. If you feel like you can truly discuss it with her, without hurting your marriage, then talk to her about it. You can always talk to your OB or the nurses about it too.
Maybe you are best off to not talk to family members about it and speak with your doctors.
2007-06-18 11:20:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although talking to your mother about the given situation wouldn't be inappropriate (I suppose it depends on your mother) but, if you are having pain during something is wrong, you should definitely speak to a doctor.
And, backslap your husband if he even thinks about talking to HIS mother.
2007-06-18 11:13:26 · answer #5 · answered by ahhgodzirra 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is normal? If you don't feel comfortable, then don't talk to her. Don't try to control what he does. If you are experiencing pain during intercourse you should be talking to your doctor. There can be many reasons for this including STD's he may have carried and not know it (often HPV) and normal cysts which can be removed.
2007-06-18 11:24:24 · answer #6 · answered by Ranger D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not paranoid. I would try talking with a doctor for advice and to a close friend for support.
2007-06-18 11:08:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless your mother is a doctor I think you should just ask your doctor about the pain.
2007-06-18 11:14:51 · answer #8 · answered by lily 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
UHM.........................EWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW.....
There is no way I would ever discuss my sex life with my parents, and I am confident in the fact that neither would my husband.
There is only so much you should share with your parents, regardless of how chummy you are.
I can't see him talking to his mommy about not being able to get it up...no way. I don't care what he tells you.
See your doctor. Get professional help with your problem.
2007-06-18 11:36:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right. There are some things in marriage that should not involve your parents, this is one of them. You need to talk to your doctor.
You can ask him to please keep intimate details (yours or his) private and not share them with his mother. He should respect that.
2007-06-18 11:09:49 · answer #10 · answered by QT 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋