Marriage & Divorce - 18 June 2007

He's picked up the phone and called in flowers but never gifts or a cake. I'm feeling slighted since he's making an effort to personally go pick up a cake. Would you feel slighted and why?

2007-06-18 03:20:16 · 27 answers · asked by rosies42 2

I've heard this expression a few times in my life and I've always wondered about it:

"A woman marries a man expecting he will change, but he doesn't. A man marries a woman expecting that she won't change, and she does."

I haven't been married so I don't know, but I'm curious about about other people's perspectives and experiences on it...

-Thanks!

2007-06-18 03:13:35 · 18 answers · asked by impermanence 1

I am married to a wonderful woman. She is a terrific mother and wonder homemaker. Kind of a Martha Stewart type, but better looking. I love her dearly.

The problem is that she has absolutely no interest in sex whatsoever. Now, I'm not a sex addict, but I do need sex more than 3 times a year...and thats on a good year!

My question then is this...what do I do?? I need sex...do I pay a professional?...line up a regular booty call or just continue to "cuff the dummy?"

2007-06-18 02:57:37 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

My marriage is going downhill. It all began when my husband took sides with his sister who lived with us when we got married and the sister and I could barely get along. This took a big toll on our marriage. He does not think he did anything wrong and even went ahead to have an affair. His reason: because I was fighting with his sister and he needed solace. As if the sister was homeless without him!! I have forgiven him, but the betrayal is so much I feel like going away to a place where he will never find me again! How can I get out of the bitterness trap. We are not talking and generally we are doing badly. We've been married for less than 3 years!!

2007-06-18 02:54:44 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm not a scumbag but I have fallen in love with another woman who is my wife's friend. I didn't mean for this to happen and I feel like a moron. My wife has a minor mental disorder that has interfered with our relationship, but I still love her. However I find myself in love with her friend who I believe is attracted to me. I realize that my wife has not loved me equally, but we have two kids and I am a man who keeps his promises. I'm torn because I love this other woman. She not actively trying to break us up, she doesn't even know what I think. I feel caught between a marriage with a certain level of love and a relationship with a woman who has no such limits on her love for me. I didn't choose to fall in love. It just happened. Help!

2007-06-18 02:41:33 · 33 answers · asked by zulu36 1

I've been married for 3 years. My husband is 11 years older than I. We've have issuses just like all married couples. Between us we have 7 kids (his 5 are grown and gone and I have 2...one in college and one that's 12) These are my issues: -I can't seem to get our families to blend. He has all girls and they have very dull/dry attitudes and I don't know how to connect with them. -He does not do anything for my 18-yr old son in college. -He refuses to put my name on the deed to his house which he owned before we got married and this makes me feel totally disconnected within the marriage -He drinks too much -I'm a highly sexual individual and he is not so there is very little passion and intamacy between us -Lately, I'm finding myself NOT enjoying him -We hardly talk or sleep in the same bed -Sometimes I find myself saying I hate him and my life -I can hardly stand being around his girls when they are over because they shut everyone out. Is it time 2 let this go?

2007-06-18 02:40:50 · 9 answers · asked by akapinks 1

Some of you want to know more background.... I am soon to be 47, been married 27 years, I have 3 kids, 2 adult and 1 a teenager. I also have a 30 yr. old stepson and 2 grandchildren. I don't think I am in love with my husband!!! we met when I was 19 back then he was everything I wanted, biker, parties, long hair, rough and tough friends. He's changed he's a warm, caring loving man.....But I am so BORED.... and it has nothing to do with the bedroom (its all good) but this other man makes me LAUGH and he talks to me and is interesting to listen to. I can't ask my husband to be these things... he can't its not in him. I know its wrong and I don't know what kind of answers I'm looking for, maybe if I see it than I will know, Don't be to quick to judge my friend or his religiuos beliefs, he has come a long way from where he has been. Its not all black and white there are a lot of gray area's. I hope I have answered your questions . thanks to all by cyber friends for you advice...

2007-06-18 02:07:10 · 12 answers · asked by No Drama for this Queen 5

i have been with him 9 yrs 2times a month is all i get the rest of the time i am doing it .the other day i walk in and he's watching porn what the hell no kids just us .usually i don't have a problem with porn but he trie to lye when i caught him with my own eyes i love him and he fufills me when i get it but why are men so blind to the way they degrade us .As a freakish woman i am truly truly hurt

2007-06-18 02:05:06 · 8 answers · asked by blueeyesupnorthnow 1

My BF and I have been together for 10 months, we are both 42 and both never married. In the begining we TOTALLY were in to each other, It was GREAT. We even discussed marriage and a long future together, BUT over the past couple of months I can tell my feelings have changed. His have not, He totally adores me and treats me like a Queen....I doubt I will ever find a man who treats me this well again.....but can I stay in a relationship and get married to someone who I have No desire for physically?
How do I go about telling him this? I don't want to hurt him at all, and I know it will devastate him, which only makes this situation worse!
HELP!!

2007-06-18 01:46:55 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-18 01:45:26 · 19 answers · asked by msheartbroken 1

and that person was a friend of the husbands?

2007-06-18 01:41:26 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

Single life is so much fun and less restrictive. Just seems pointless to get married or in a relationship so early in life when there is so much out there to do without having that responsibility.

2007-06-18 01:37:31 · 19 answers · asked by Devin S 2

My situation is that I am white and my husband is hispanic and everytime that we go out together I always get dirty looks from the hispanic women why is that?

2007-06-18 01:32:08 · 21 answers · asked by sarah 2

Is being on MySpace bad for marraige and or relationships? My spouse does not like that I'm there. Do you use it? Does your spouse or significant other? How do you feel about it?

2007-06-18 01:22:51 · 15 answers · asked by No one 2

What is the best thing to do if you r unable to marry the girl you loved like hell and she marries someone else ??? Well i m in that situation .. I think suicide is the best answer !

2007-06-18 01:21:20 · 25 answers · asked by pizzadude 1

Can an unmarried person legally enjoy sex and then get married to another person? Can it convict him or her in future?

2007-06-18 01:18:31 · 14 answers · asked by sanjukta 1

Im the most kind, compassionate, loving man. And yes i have been married and divorced previous. But i feel as thought my divorce has left a black mark on myself since my ex wife and i didnt try to save our marriage. I feel as though no one wants me. I've been divorced for exactly 6 mo. and 4 days now. Am i wrong to think that no one will want me? I know it sounds stupid, but i still believe in opening doors for ladies, i've learned to compromise, romantic dinners, roses and wine, love to go out on the weekends, very affectionate. but yet after all this time i still feel out of place and again like no one wants me.

2007-06-18 01:12:15 · 13 answers · asked by joseph c 2

I have been with my b/f for almost 5 years , he's never had a stable job and everytime i ask him what are his goals in life he says he doesn't know?!! I go to college and work after classes and i have 3 children. I have a guy who is very interested in me and has goals and a stable job and is family oriented. We are friends but he wants it to be more ...he even asked me to marry him. I just wish my b/f would get it togather but it doesn't seem like he is anytime soon. He didn't even go pick up my kids on my birthday eve though i told him i was treating myself to a pedicure and manicure so i had to come all the way from getting pampered to go get my kids from school!! What do i do? I love my b/f but i don't think it's going to work? Should i leave and start a new relationship with someone else? Thanks.

2007-06-18 00:48:11 · 16 answers · asked by KK 5

i have heard that marriages among close relatives will lead to children with many disorders as they grow..? is it true....? can anyone clearly explain this..?

2007-06-18 00:23:46 · 14 answers · asked by ahtal 1

I'll try and make this short. Everytime she says something it is always negative. She upsets the kids, her family, and I. She sends me emails all the time asking me if I have found other women when I haven't done anything of the sort. She always says things like nobody cares for you. She doesn't ask anymore she just orders everyone around. Frankly her negative attitude has gotten me and my son so down that we don't remember how to smile. I don't have many friends anymore. What do you think I should do? I would appreciate answers from people who have expierence in this or similar type situations. Since we live overseas counseling is not really an available option to me. Anyway, it feels good just to get this off my chest if nothing else.

2007-06-18 00:00:23 · 9 answers · asked by dave f 1