He's picked up the phone and called in flowers but never gifts or a cake. I'm feeling slighted since he's making an effort to personally go pick up a cake. Would you feel slighted and why?
2007-06-18 03:20:16 · 27 answers · asked by rosies42 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He's the boss btw and he's picked up the phone to order flowers for BD but no gifts and no cake. Should I feel this way? Slighted, sick and heartbroken?
2007-06-18 03:22:01 · update #1
Yes, she's a woman.
2007-06-18 03:23:25 · update #2
HE'S THE BOSS, she's the supervisor. IT's a LARGE Corporation. He could of got his assistant or some other person to pick it up, but didn't.
2007-06-18 03:37:04 · update #3
Hecy yeah, I'd be upset. He is obviously making this person a priority with something he has never done with you who should be number one.
He should never do for someone else something he is not willing to do for you.
2007-06-18 03:23:33 · answer #1 · answered by Carol B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please dont get upset over this, but if you are getting all pissy over a cake are you sure there aren't deeper rooted issues at large here? I mean, its a cake, for an employee. He is running a business, sometimes to keep moral up in the workplace, the main boss/supervisor occasionally has to lower himself to the same level as the day worker, makes him look human and able to interact with the employees on a larger scale than the Yes sir no sir, you are right boss, kind of thing.
2007-06-18 03:50:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I'd instead have an engagement ring, or might be now an eternity ring. Much extra individual than a vehicle. Can't you shop up to your possess vehicle? Not realizing your hubby, I'd say the quality factor you would do is talk about it with him should you'd instead have a vehicle than a hoop. Assuming he isn't a brain reader, that's. In which case he's going to already realize.
2016-09-05 20:01:08 · answer #3 · answered by alleyne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh Dear God!!! Come on! So he bought her a cake. He was probably told to by someone else in the office. We have pitch in's all the time where I work. Everyone brings something for whoever's birthday it is. It isn't a big deal!!!
Pick your battles!! After 17 years together, I would think that you have more important issues to deal with!!!
If you want him to buy you a cake - tell him! Men need a lot of direction!!
You are being a little insecure about this. I really think you should just let it go - it isn't a big deal!!
2007-06-18 03:39:06 · answer #4 · answered by Kailey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there's no reason at all why you should feel slighted, get mad or feel jealous.....he's the boss and in the position to buy cakes for his staff if he chooses, however he could have and should have had someone else do it. But, maybe the company is a small one or maybe nobody else wanted to do it and he owed that person something (for doing a good job all year), and it surely is a heck of a lot better than buying them a present.
2007-06-18 03:26:35 · answer #5 · answered by sophieb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's probably just sucking up to the boss.
The cake is most likely going to be shared by the people at the job or office, himself included. This sounds like a work situation. Don't bother yourself about it. Next birthday or other gift type day give hints (on paper) about what you would like. Do you want a cake or would you rather him take you out to dinner where you can order dessert?
2007-06-18 03:27:18 · answer #6 · answered by psi2006 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you bake yourself? I ask because I do, and my husband NEVER buys me a cake, although he will buy one for the ladies at work from time to time. Heck, I even bake so that he can take cake to the ladies! Some men honestly just don't think though, so tell him how slighted you were, you may be surprised to find that he didn't know.
2007-06-18 03:45:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's jealousy that you are feeling - he's doing something for someone that he has never done for you. I doubt he thought of it on his own, someone at work probably suggested it to him so he ordered a cake for everyone to eat at work. A lot of men don't think about things like that. I have to flat out tell my husband when I want something because he just doesn't think of it - why? Because he doesn't need it. Men and women think differently - neither is wrong, just different.
Tell him that you would like a cake for your birthday, too, and remind him as the date gets closer. It's just how men are, okay? Don't take it personally.
2007-06-18 03:26:57 · answer #8 · answered by Stefka 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What do you have for birthday cake if your husband never gets you one? Does he even know that you want one? Are you always on a diet? Maybe he doesn't bring you cake because he thinks you won't want it. Also, what do you get for birthdays and christmas? You stayed with the guy for 17 years and he's never given you a gift?
2007-06-18 03:24:51 · answer #9 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No..no. Its his boss and everyone in the office is probably behind it. Maybe you are just a little jealous because his boss is a woman. But you shouldnt worry coworkers bring cakes in all the time for someone leaving, B-day, promotions, holidays doesnt really matter.
2007-06-18 03:34:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband bought flowers for a woman at work whose birthday it was, It made me mad because he never went out of his way for me. If he didn't do it for you yes, you can be mad but don't overdue it. He was maybe showing his "nice" side. Cake doesn't mean sex. He did buy you flowers, think of the good things he has done.
2007-06-18 03:27:45 · answer #11 · answered by Angelina N 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋