I am separated from husband..should i not talk at all with him?

Question

hi, i have separated myself from my mentally abusive husband but my son lives with him and sometimes when i talk to my son he asks questions..or wants to talk to me. I have been civil with him but since i have been away i feel soooo peaceful without his presence and i just dont want to communicate.. at all. should i or shouldn't i..? thanks

Answer 1

If you have seperated from him, why go back to that situation?

Answer 2

Like it or not, you and your husband have a son together and will, therefore, be a part of each other's lives forever. You can keep the contact to a minimum; and you can try to restrict it to matters concerning your son. But there will be some contact.

BTW, can't help but wonder why you would have left your son in an environment that you describe as "mentally abusive".

Answer 3

What kind of mother feels content without her children!?!?

I don't buy the mentally abusive crap. That's what women say to their friends when their husband has done nothing wrong and they just want another man with money or success.

Stop making excuses for your own actions. There is a reason that you are not telling us about why he is with the children and you are not.

Answer 4

Talk to him for matters you don't have any choices meaning your son. Other then that take all the time you need before starting chit-chatting with him. If your son is with him it's probably because he's a teenager now and he can pretty much talk to you directly for what concerns him. There is no need to play ignorant but no reason either to rush into being nice to each other.

Answer 5

You have a child involved so you will need to speak with the ex regardless. You don't have to speak with him in regards to personal issues but only things that will directly effect your child. The only things your ex really needs to know is where you live so that when the child is with you he has a contact place, a phone number and your place of employment. Anything else is none of his business. You don't have to answer any questions your ex asks unless it involves your son. When your son is with you, anything that goes on at your place with your son stays with you, unless of course your son let's his father know, and that is definitely going to happen. At the same time you need to make sure that you don't go asking him the wrong questions either. Good Luck!!!

Answer 6

Let me get this straight..
Your son lives with the abusive parent???????
Do you want him to grow up to be like his father becuase that is who is teaching him. Oh wait, he is only abusive to you? That child will learn and repeat this behaviour.

Answer 7

children who grow up with mentally abusive parents, become mentally abusive themself. you've had your time alone, now get your son out of there. if he becomes a monster later in life, it will be your fault of not saving him when you had the chance.

Answer 8

As hard as it is do not talk to him any thing you say or do will be held against you, they are always nice when they want something, I know after 30 years guess what I've had it, maybe next month we will be finally be divorced!!!!! Got questions, email me ok????

Answer 9

if you are feeling good without him and his words, then definitely do not talk with this person. i been through something similar and i feel excellent now that me and the fool do not talk anymore.

you should move on and not look back.

Answer 10

This is a good case of good riddance to bad rubbish,Good you got out.Now you Don't have to live with his filthy mouth again

Answer 11

I think u should talk.
just take it easy, forget the past and think about your future.
pherhaps you can make some changes to your life.