Marriage & Divorce - 12 June 2007

i recently just got a divorce,, and he has already moved on,, he has moved on during the seperation,, i on the other hand didn't,, i chose to wait until the divorce papers,, he didn't. now i find myself constantly thinking about him and his new girl, i have nightmares, i cant eat, i'm a mess, i cant seem to get over him,, or just stop thinking about him,, we been seperated for 6 months, and i still cant shake it,, please help,,,

2007-06-12 12:55:26 · 27 answers · asked by mngnyc 1

2007-06-12 12:49:31 · 17 answers · asked by playmate 2

My hubby is 25 and is working however his job does not have the opprotunity for advancement, and his job could be gone in a year. He is attending college in the fall full time which means quitting his job to do so. We have a 3 month old baby together and i am very worried that the support that he pays to his ex for his 6 year old son will continue. My question is... Does anyone know if child support stops when going back to school, or does it continue?? I really really need some help with this. Thanks to everyone. :)

2007-06-12 12:40:40 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

I know I know - but I really do want it every day...my husband is so hot I want it all the time. I buy and wear lingerie, we do different things in different places, I make sure to always mix it up and I know he's tired. And I realize after years this can be hard to keep up to and he is aware of my wants...any ideas?

2007-06-12 12:13:58 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

So, im sick of having the whole idea of marriage pushed on me and looking like the black sheep because I logically cannot bring myself to do such a thing, I told my girlfriend, and my previous one as well to answer my one simple question, How do I benefit from being married??? I can potentially lose at least half of everything I have ever worked for?? wow where do I sign up for that!?

Please feel free to give examples on how I as a man would benefit, but please remember marriage broken down to simplest terms does not guarantee happiness, in simplest terms it is a contract.
I'd love to hear your ideas..

2007-06-12 11:57:33 · 27 answers · asked by ? 3

Face it, on average, the woman expects more from her man than she expects of herself. I suppose that there is a time when the children are very young that this can go the other way, but otherwise it's usually as I've stated. If a man is being unfair or unreasonable in his perspective, she'll point it out in an argumentative way. But, if he even hints that she's being unfair or unreasonable,......he'll be in the doghouse. Her 60 hour week being a stay at home Mom MUST be more stressful than his 45 hour week in corporate America, even though she counts having coffee with her friends as work...because the kids are along. I think this is mostly because boys mothers (but also fathers) teach them this is just the way it is. What do you think?

2007-06-12 11:46:08 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

My in laws have invited my husband and I to join them (and a few other extended families) on a camping trip. I went with them last year, and my husband did not come. I want to go again this year, but my husband, again, doesn't want to come. He LOVES camping, and I am trying to convince him to go but he feels he is too busy with his work. What if he doesn't go? Would it be weird if I went without him again? He doesn't care, he won't be offended or anything, but I think it will be a lot more fun with him.

2007-06-12 11:30:16 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous

Have an attractive husband and wonderful son....woman next door has a son close to our son's age and recently they have been playing together very often...she (the woman) is friendly, but has been wearing less and less lately...my son just came into our computer room asking to go outside to play with this woman's little boy and when I looked out the window to make sure he was outside in his yard, she (the woman) is wearing a little top and SHORT cotton shorts where I can see her cheeks hanging out...literally.

To top this off, my husband and I usually go outside together to supervise the boys playing and to chat with this woman. I just feel her attire is a bit much and makes me uncomfortable. I'm sure it's good eye candy for my husband, but she's been talking to him more and more...and for some reason, I feel she has an alterior motive....call it nuts....but it's just odd!

I won't budge to go outside right now, I just feel uncomfortable!

2007-06-12 11:26:10 · 37 answers · asked by Lovin' Life As Mama & Wife 6

we still care very much for each other, not sure how to handle this situation?

2007-06-12 11:23:45 · 24 answers · asked by John V 1

They have 2 kids, and they are planning on joint custody. She wants the divorce because she is not in love (blah, blah) but wants everything to be amicable. She even said that she would pay him alimony. She agreed to pay 20% of her income, even if he or she remarry. She feels very guilty and wants things to be fine between them after the divorce.
Is there any way to make this legally binding and what if she stops working?
Second question - they have a house, he is going to move out, she's going to stay and pay all the expenses. The idea is after the divorce, the house would remain 1/2 his. If she remarries and stops working, can he have a legal agreement that says the house becomes his? She's agreed to this in principal, but can the legalities be worked out?
Also - please no negative comments like is she crazy for agreeing to this. My sister-in-law makes over $200,000 a year and wants to move on with her life while my brother is a devoted husband. Marriage counseling has failed.

2007-06-12 11:18:30 · 9 answers · asked by KI557 2

How often would you say is normal to have sex with your husband, how often do they really want it?

2007-06-12 11:17:17 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

We would like to just get married by the courthouse, but they are closed on the weekend. Where can we go to get married on the weekend, but have it just as easy as going to the courthouse here in Florida?

2007-06-12 11:15:01 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been married for less than a year. I am well educated and live in elegant home in an upscale community. I married a man younger with a lot less education. He appears to have adapted well to my life style. His family is uneducated, poor, and unsophisticated. They arrive at my home with containers to cart off all the left over food. The children of his ex-wife whom he calls step children soak up his resources. My husband does not make much money and contributes little to our expenses. I become upset when his side of the aisle uses up his meager resources then I have to make up the extra because he has even less to contribute to our lifestyle . These people don't have the manners to ever tell me thank you for gifts, flowers or anything that I send. When I mention any of this to my husband he becomes angry with me and defensive of them. It is destroying our relationship. I never met them until the day of our wedding.

2007-06-12 11:14:30 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

The guy is not a usa citizen/

2007-06-12 11:12:24 · 6 answers · asked by genebean 1

Me and my girlfriend, I'm 36 and she is 37, have been married only once to another and spent most our lives single and not dating much before we met. Things have been going really great until one day she seemed different. Then the next day she would not tell me she loved me and when I asked she told me that her emotions aren't there any more. We have not been fighting and I know she has not been cheating on me. Now, every time she looks at me she feels hatred and she does not know why. I told her that I will move if it will make her happy and she told me she doesn't want me to go and she doesn't want any one else but I can see it in every aspect that she can not stand to look at me and I nor she don't understand why. I have not cheated nor has she.
What is going on with her and has anyone else experienced this problem and if so why????

2007-06-12 11:09:53 · 18 answers · asked by lifescircle 5

I have sole physical custody of our children, and he has supervised visitation rights because there is a long history of abuse and neglect from him towards the children.
I have been offered scholarships to continue my education closer to my family, and wish to move back home. This is the state that the divorce decree is from. I need to know how I go about moving, and what will be entailed legally.

2007-06-12 11:06:57 · 8 answers · asked by sammbertt 2

For happy couples:
- What has been the #1 contributing factor to the success of your relationship?
- What is the most important lesson you have learned that has helped your relationship?
- What has made your relationship stronger?
- What have you learned from your partner/husband/wife?

2007-06-12 11:06:17 · 14 answers · asked by Fathiya 3

what do you do thats exciting in your bedroom. what do you do differently after years of doing the same thing. what are things i can do to makae it more exciting for us. we tried different positions but what are some good ones other than the usual: doggy style, missionary, me on top, him on top, spoon, 69. and what other things can i do to make it funner

2007-06-12 11:04:28 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

I want to forgive somebody who has hurt me a great deal. But he hasn't apologized, probably doesn't know he hurt me - and I won't ever see him again after next Friday. To be more specific, we had an affair, have since moved on with both of our families (we are both married), and are working on repairing our tragic situations. Even with that said, I hold a lot of resentment for some of the things he did to me. I ultimately hold myself accountable, but can't deny the hurt and burden I've been carrying. So I really want to get this burden off my back, but don't know how to forgive him. Do you do it to his face? Do you do it silently, with God? Help - any advice would be great !!

2007-06-12 10:49:50 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

So, my partner and I have sort of...separated. We agreed we would keep things out of courts for the children. He demanded I draw up a visitation agreement and that he just doesn’t trust me. No hesitation, I agreed, I feel it’s only safe anyway. We signed it, done. He said he’d draw up a Child Support agreement in the future when he gets on his feet, I agreed. Now that I have asked him to draw one up, he replies, “Attached is the agreement, feel free to make suggestions or improvements. I don't really want to do this, I know I'm going to pay and it seems like a low
move. But perhaps this will give you some assurance which makes it worth it.” Can you believe him?!

2007-06-12 10:47:21 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

It is a tradition in many cultures for two families to be united this way, knowing that both partners come from good families. Do you think that they can grow to love one another?

2007-06-12 10:43:36 · 21 answers · asked by Ziya 2

I am in a role reversal marriage. I am the breadwinner and my husband is home performing the homemaking role. There are a lot of reasons for this, but right now it made sense for him to be home. Siunce my earning power is high, we agreed that after the baby is born, i will take a short maternity leave - then he will stay home full-time. Why does everyone assume I will be the one to do it?

2007-06-12 10:42:11 · 19 answers · asked by Claudia 1

I was just wondering because I learned how to play chess in grade school, but never had anyone to play with. Perhaps, I should play chess with my children, instead.

2007-06-12 10:40:41 · 8 answers · asked by BeautifulGirl 2

My friend was telling me her husband tells her not to moan(if thats the right word) when they are making love. They only both 34. they have 1 child. I aksed her if it was loud and he maybe feared the child would hear it but she said no.She says she only moans that only someone very close to their bed would hear it.

He told her it was just for teens or unmarried people to moan and that it's stupid for adults to do that.So she says she just lies there like a log.

So don't married people with children moan. I thought moaning was a way of showing your partner you were enjoying what they were doing to you.

what's your take on her situation, married people? How to you avoid the noise so your children don't have to hear it.Is it immature to moan in bed when married..This was the first time i was hearing this.

2007-06-12 10:40:19 · 50 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am 23 living in Hawaii which is really expensive so i live with my BF's family. We have a 5 mos baby together, not married. We both have full time jobs but he gets paid twice as much as me. I want to join the air force reserves so my child can have the benefits and they can help me pay for school. The thought of Iraq doesnt bother me as much as the thought that if he chose to, he could pretty much leave me homeless, and take away my daughter because his situation would look more appleasing to the courts than mine. Is it selfish of me to want to establish some independence and security or just stupid to think that he would ever leave me (besides this issue, he is a really really great man)? and is it selfish of HIM to not let me join but at the same time not help me so that i can possible give up work and go to school? ps...my daughter currently gets her benefits from me so quitting means no med/dental benefits for the both of us.

2007-06-12 10:36:51 · 14 answers · asked by mum_mum 2

with children and full time jobs. If your wife stays at home with your children, what do you do (besides work full time to support your family)? I was just wondering if I expect too much.
I stay at home with our children...and I also take care of...
-the finances
-laundry
-cooking (and all of the clean up afterwards)
-dishes
-housecleaning
-appointments for everyone (including the K-9)
-shopping (he does help with grocery shopping)
-garbage (he puts it out on garbage day...after I get it ready)

Don't get me wrong, I love & appreciate my husband...But he doesn't "help" with the kids much. He isn't home a lot after work, so all of the child care falls on me (which is fine). I just get frustrated sometimes when he won't even mow the lawn (we have a tiny yard).

Your input would be GREATLY appreciated!! Thank you for reading my long question!!

2007-06-12 10:33:48 · 37 answers · asked by casper 5

We've been married for 3 years now, and I just never exspected for things to fizzel out so quickly, we talk all the time and we have fun together we only fight for a few hours at the most and we never have the need to raise our voices. But we haven't made love in 2 months. He says he's not gay, and he doesnt seem to be, he seems more, absinate, but not in a religous way. He doesnt have secret porn stashes around the house (the only stuff we have WE bought together- and he doesnt even care about that) Its like he has NO sex drive. I worry its because he cheats, but he comes home for lunch and so early in the afternoon that he'd have to loose hours at work to pull it off.

2007-06-12 10:31:46 · 24 answers · asked by littlefariemom 2

He has trouble remembering to answer his phone. Should I tie it around his neck! Or throw it at his head!

2007-06-12 10:25:09 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

...personality and was your true love? Let's say the first love girl you marry, but you are not happy with here. Stuff is okay, but she does not take care of you the way you want. The true love girl, on the other hand, you know can take care of you the way you want and you feel she is worth true love. Would you leave/divorce the first love and marry the true love?

2007-06-12 10:22:09 · 12 answers · asked by BeautifulGirl 2

2007-06-12 10:22:04 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous