Marriage & Divorce - 12 June 2007

about 2 months ago my husband cheated on me (we both work at the same place) with one of our co-workers, word was that she was watching him for a while and they had sex one 4 occasions and it is over he is sorry that it ever happened and for a while he could not look me in the face,and slowly we are moving on day by day ,but last week we had a fight about my trust issues and he called her on the phone and talked to her and he admitted to he talked to her several times and when he realized how much this hurt and upset me he said he wont ever do it again and now i dont know what to do .

2007-06-12 10:17:31 · 15 answers · asked by er5199 1

2007-06-12 10:17:24 · 3 answers · asked by tripven 1

If you've never done it I don't expect you to reply. I really want to hear from those women who've been "so deep in love" with guys who were married to other women at the time, who've cheated on them, dumped them and etc. I'm just trying to get some idea of what it is about these types of guys that you love.

2007-06-12 10:17:14 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

Is the divorce final after the hearing?

2007-06-12 10:16:11 · 5 answers · asked by blue eyes 2

me and my hubby to be have decided that next year we will go on holiday to Vegas. Not bad eh. but now his mates have decided to come, i dont mind the guys and i dont mind if my hubby to be wants to spend time with them i have no problem with that. the problem is the mates wifes. i just dont get on with them we have nuthing in common, every time they arrange a gals night out recently i feel so uncomfortable with them they are a bit stuck up and so ive decided i rather not go, in fact i dont think they like me as they dont invite me no more they only did as im the mates wife. but this holiday how can i get out of it, its already provisionaly booked i cant stand to with them for a second just to think 1week i would kill them. BTW the are older than me by a few years im 25. i have no common ground with them. They guys are cool. what do i do. and it doesnt matter how much alcohol i have it wont help!!!!!

2007-06-12 10:14:22 · 10 answers · asked by aarti 2

2007-06-12 09:57:44 · 20 answers · asked by boozerc77084 1

Do you guys know of any legal document that my boyfriends "baby momma" can sign to move his visitation date from Wednesday 5:00 pm -8:00 pm to Thursday 5:00 pm - 8:00 pm.

See he has night classes at night and she agreed but if she gets mad at him for some odd reason he can show up on Thursday and she could deny him because it's not what the court order says. He gets her every weekend but we do love to have her during the week those few hours.

Anything...

2007-06-12 09:57:05 · 6 answers · asked by stepmom of 1 2

2007-06-12 09:55:42 · 8 answers · asked by mostafa s 1

My husband is a wonderful man, he works hard at work (not at home), he is a good dad and he loves me. But It seems as though he does not understand about the stuff that keeps a marriage alive. He is a firm believer that you don't have to try any more once you are married and he only has to be pleasant and sweet to me when he wants "lovin". He spends more than we will ever make in a life time, and he refuses to work with me on a budget. He tells me "stop worrying everything will be fine because I said so". It is like he floats on this cloud believing he has life by the *** and does not realize that you have to maintain everything in your life in order to keep it. I have stopped trying to talk to him about it because I am not getting through to him. Anyone have "real" advice.

2007-06-12 09:54:36 · 10 answers · asked by Ladybug 2

We're gettiing married in 70 days. He is 40 and has never been married. He is established but by no means rich. He states it's a fairly standard practice.
We each have an daughter from previous relationships. He says he's doing it to protect her--if he died
tomorrow, he wants to make sure she isn't left w/ nothing. I understand he wants to protect his 401k, retirement that he has earned thus far in life. But at the same time, by him asking for the pre-nup he is making me feel like he has no faith in me and it isn't going to last."  He says, "I'm not doubtful. I expect it to last forever, or i wouldnt do it. I love you verymuch." He's trying to convince me that this is a normal thing to do. I NEED HELP PEOPLE!!!!!!!
 

2007-06-12 09:48:41 · 34 answers · asked by nikki 2

My sex drive has increased since having my daughter and he says he wants it but doesnt do anything. I try starting it for awhile and get sick of always being the one to initiate it. I thought men are supposed to pursue. I dont mind going after him but i would like to feel like i'm wanted to. He has had a problem with porn in the past and sometimes i feel like because I dont look like a whore he doesnt want me. Its also been almost two years since his mother and sister died and sometimes I feel like he blames me for not being around them more when I told him I didnt care what he did just not to force me to be around people who wanted to get rid of me anyway. I did love them too and wanted things to work out with them but they were mad because my he chose me over them. Anyway I dont want to leave . I love him very much and we almost never disagree about how to handle the kids. I dont know what to do. He commits himself to his job and sports but not to me or what I care about. HELP!!!

2007-06-12 09:44:56 · 11 answers · asked by answerteam 3

In most cases the only thing marriage counseling does is cost money that could have otherwise went to the kids and the relationship still ends. I have seen several studies that show the divorce rate for people in marriage counseling is actually slightly HIGHER then for couples with no counseling yet the answer to every question here seems to be "see a marriage counselor"!

2007-06-12 09:39:23 · 18 answers · asked by Steve J 2

2007-06-12 09:38:59 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-12 09:28:05 · 11 answers · asked by Joshua Seesua Khakie 1

READ TO UNDERSTAND OTHERWISE DON"T BOTHER TO ANSWER.We are both married & both curious about people outside our races.We agreed to try it, just once.Oh Well, that once turned into 2 yrs.He has been married for 6yrs, has 2 kids,I ve been married for 4yrs & no kids.I know we were wrong,so you can call me all the names you want BUT thats not my question now.The problem is he has taken this affair very serious.He filed for his divorce 2 months ago & moved out of the house he shared with his wife.He wants me to do the same.I can't to leave my Husband yet bcoz,I want him(my husband)to father my children.My husband & I plan to ve children in 3yrs when we buy a house for the children.My lover says he can father my children but i want to ve 100% black children.He has a 100% pure white kids.I don't want to ve kids that will be confused & bullied bcoz they are mixed.Mixed kids in my days at school were bullied.My husband is Afrocentric, dislikes white people.I'm confused, what should I do?

2007-06-12 09:24:34 · 31 answers · asked by :( 1

Been married for thirteen years, just wondering ladies and gentlemen, do all men just sit there and seem like they have no "thoughts, feelings, etc?" I don't consider myself a demanding wife or hard to life with, but it seems my husband just doesn't have any type of interesting things to discuss ever-He seems kind of like a shell, with no substance? Is this true for others as well?

2007-06-12 09:24:13 · 19 answers · asked by sara l 1

What was her reaction?

2007-06-12 08:58:13 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

I think guys addicted to porn sex are mostly unattractive and this is a way of seeing all those naked chics they cant have in real life.They have been raised in strict familys and have low selfesteem along with there appearance,I mean really think about it .Its the ones that cant have it that get really into it........

2007-06-12 08:53:32 · 24 answers · asked by jessy 3

My ex-husband and are dont really get along. we still argue and what have you. we do have a daughter together. recently he told me that he wouldnt have a problem with me and him sleeping together. Mind you he has a g/friend for about 6 years and she is head over heels for him but he will not marry her nor have a child with her. Me and my ex husband have gone out together with our daughter but that is all. We have many issues underneath our belt that even if we try to reconcile we will end up hurting one another once again. I was the bad person in the relationship. I made some stupid mistakes needless to say. And not it had nothing to do with another man. I married him for the wrong reason. I was with child and my parents disowned me and I married him b/c i had no one left. Do i love him yes but being that time has gone by so much, we will end up arguing and etc. what should i honestly do.

2007-06-12 08:51:07 · 12 answers · asked by sunluciano3030 1

2007-06-12 08:47:15 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

If your boyfriend asked your best friend to have sex? I called him some bad words but now he is not talking to me at all and still ants her! I really love this guy, but I also want revenge. What would you do to get revenge?

2007-06-12 08:46:24 · 12 answers · asked by Emily Allan Poe 3

I just confronted my husband about some text messages I saw in his phone, Basically I went through his phone and messaged the girl he was chatting with, turns out that she works in the same company as we do and I met her for lunch and she told me everything! She claims they never did anything but they would go out on dates or just hang out. The best part was that we both walked out together and just to see the look on my husbands face was "priceless". We talked when we got home and says he was sorry and doesnt know why he did it, I still love him but I feel hurt and betrayed, the worst part is that we have a 5 month old baby, I dont know whether to believe him or even stay with him, Any advise would help. Thanks

2007-06-12 08:44:41 · 33 answers · asked by geowen02 2

to seek out other women that are in the similar miserable situation... Before you start suggesting that I am not a good lover, let me tell you this... Our love life was fantastic for like 10 years, but now she lost every interest in sex, but I sure haven't. So I feel betrayed and ready to embarked on this quest!

2007-06-12 08:37:54 · 29 answers · asked by Ronnie 2

2007-06-12 08:37:53 · 10 answers · asked by Linda W 2

my STB Ex-husband and I are doing very well at being friends with each other. For mother's day, he got me flowers (we WERE separated then, too) and a card. I've already gotten him a card, but I dont know what else to do. He's VERY hard to buy for anyway, doesn't like much of anything specific. I was thinking of getting our daughter to do somethign hand made for him, but also, i wanted to get him something. I can only spend $20 on him (for 1 that's what he spend on me, and for 2 i'm not getting child support, so i'mbroke). Any suggestions on what "hand made" gift he might like (he DOES like these things) and what other gift I could get to go along with it?!?! I've never had trouble before, but it's different now that we are separated.

2007-06-12 08:36:08 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I got married right out of high school and had 3 little boys soon after. We're now 23 and still married. In my opinion, we're doing pretty darn good. I know that the odds were against us, but it seems like we're beating them so far.
Unfortunately, we've both changed over time and I think that we're both disapointed about the changes in the other one. My problem is my sex drive. I very rarely want it and he wants it ALL THE TIME. I know this is completely normal, but the bad thing is that I used to want it all the time too. Sometimes he acts like he wouldn't have married if he would have known that I would have lost my drive. Well, obviously I didn't expect it either. My dissapointment comes from his anger issues and lack of physical affection towards me. He's literally angry ALL THE TIME! He yells at me non-stop. A lot of his problem comes from the fact that he holds everything in. He keeps his issues bottled up until he explodes. I've tried on numerous occassions to..

2007-06-12 08:31:11 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

A couple of months ago a ''GIRL'' came to my door looking for my man and had said they had been together and i tend to believe her due to i found text messages from her.He said there was nothing going on and to this day he still says she was crazy trying to mess up my head.What do you all think?

2007-06-12 08:21:24 · 28 answers · asked by shwn_hancock 1

Have you ever cheated on your spouse? If so how did you feel about it after?

2007-06-12 08:20:53 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

Lets say out of blue....a married man is shopping at the mall & he is . approached by a gentleman and he expressed that your are a a very handsome man and he want to buy you a cup of coffee. what would you do?

2007-06-12 08:18:52 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I have gone through a spell where he rarely shows me any attention or affection, is very distracted with work, never compliments me or asks about my day, no hugs and only attention in the bedroom. He basically takes me for granted. I get attention from other men, one particular man - whenever I see him, he actually acts glad to see me, smiles, gives me a hug. One time we went out to eat and he showed up with some other people and when I left, he had left a bottle of wine for me to take home, which was very thoughtful. I have asked my husband to show more affection, and in turn he shows less. Should I just be content with attention from other men, and this man in particular, or what? If I had my husband's attention I wouldn't need it elsewhere.

2007-06-12 08:10:26 · 29 answers · asked by casey308 2