my STB Ex-husband and I are doing very well at being friends with each other. For mother's day, he got me flowers (we WERE separated then, too) and a card. I've already gotten him a card, but I dont know what else to do. He's VERY hard to buy for anyway, doesn't like much of anything specific. I was thinking of getting our daughter to do somethign hand made for him, but also, i wanted to get him something. I can only spend $20 on him (for 1 that's what he spend on me, and for 2 i'm not getting child support, so i'mbroke). Any suggestions on what "hand made" gift he might like (he DOES like these things) and what other gift I could get to go along with it?!?! I've never had trouble before, but it's different now that we are separated.
2007-06-12 08:36:08 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
our daughter is 2 1/2, he's not paying child support b/c it's not yet ordered and he's not working. he made a nice gesture for me on Mother's Day, I am going to do the right thing and return the nice gesture for his Father's Day
2007-06-12 08:49:41 · update #1
My sister in law made a hand print of my neice along with a daddy peom and a picture on a nice frame and gave it to my brother for father's day. Very sweet, simple, and something he'll keep.
2007-06-12 08:39:59 · answer #1 · answered by ron-D 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter should simply draw "free hand" give her the crayons and tell her "this is for Daddy". (I am absolutely heart broken for that little girl by the way). Then let her draw and doodle until her hearts content. Since the STB Ex is an idiot, ask your daughter to tell you what she drew. Then, what EVER she tells you, you be certain to convey that message to the jerk.
As far as you are concerned - no card from you, no present from you, no nothing from you should be provided to this STB Ex. You deserved better kiddo - just keeping it real here. He is NOT a father and he certainly is NOT your husband. No mean words need to be conveyed on fathers day; however, no gift giving, and no show of emotion is warranted either. Be neutral, be strong, and be firm on this. I am disappointed that you would even consider giving this idiot anything other than a drawn card from your daughter. He should start to feel now what he is about soon to miss for the rest of his life. This isn't good for you either. Friends or no friends, you had a relationship together and a daughter - this isn't high school where you might see each other again in another class or down the hall.
Reconsider the gift from you to him. Your daughter is another matter.
Best to you!
2007-06-12 09:06:11 · answer #2 · answered by Gerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could have your daughter make him a nice card with her hand print and a poem on it--but it's hard to say what crafts would be good for her to do because you didn't give her age. And I would just get him a gift certificate for the $20 at a store he likes to shop at. I think it's great that you are thinking about him for Father's Day--not many soon to be exes can be friends.
2007-06-12 08:43:58 · answer #3 · answered by steeler_chic 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Get non-toxic finger paints and let your daughter stamp her handprints and foot prints on card-stock, also attach a little note and maybe her picture. You can get the whole thing laminated (there are a lot of places with heat laminators that will laminate anything) for a couple dollars and it will make a durable and inexpensive keepsake.
Also, you can get a temporary support order BEFORE you are divorced... you need to talk to a lawyer and file for one. Just because you aren't divorced yet doesn't mean he is exempt from child support.
2007-06-12 09:05:27 · answer #4 · answered by Heather L 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I wasn't planning on getting my STB Ex-husband anything for Father's Day. I figured if our son made something for him at daycare, I would let him give that to him. But I'm not going out of my way for it.
2007-06-12 08:45:36 · answer #5 · answered by Trisha 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
How about a hand delivered order for Child Support.
2007-06-12 08:40:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am going to buy my STB ex husband dinner for fathers day. Nothing fancy, as he works nights and I'd have to bring it to his office. I think its just nice to let him eat with his daughter.
2007-06-12 08:57:33 · answer #7 · answered by Tiffany 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
A gift card works fine for people who are hard to buy for.
2007-06-12 10:57:20 · answer #8 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your daughter make him whatever she wants and DO NOT buy him anything. If he is not paying child support why would you even spend a dime on him!
2007-06-12 08:39:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
What is STB? Why isn't he paying child support?
2007-06-12 08:44:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋