My ex-husband and are dont really get along. we still argue and what have you. we do have a daughter together. recently he told me that he wouldnt have a problem with me and him sleeping together. Mind you he has a g/friend for about 6 years and she is head over heels for him but he will not marry her nor have a child with her. Me and my ex husband have gone out together with our daughter but that is all. We have many issues underneath our belt that even if we try to reconcile we will end up hurting one another once again. I was the bad person in the relationship. I made some stupid mistakes needless to say. And not it had nothing to do with another man. I married him for the wrong reason. I was with child and my parents disowned me and I married him b/c i had no one left. Do i love him yes but being that time has gone by so much, we will end up arguing and etc. what should i honestly do.
2007-06-12 08:51:07 · 12 answers · asked by sunluciano3030 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It doesn't sound like you're meant to be together. Maintain a platonic relationship and move on. The kiddo doesn't need to be put in the middle of what sounds like would be a mess.
2007-06-12 08:55:38 · answer #1 · answered by Jeremy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I bet he "wouldn't have a problem" with sleeping with you - he sounds like he wouldn't have a problem with getting some anywhere. Don't fall for it. He'd be cheating on his girlfriend, anyway - and it would be way too confusing for you and for your daughter (how old is she?). It wouldn't help anything - just scratch a physical itch, maybe. And what if you got pregnant again? You said you don't even get along well with him! Tossing sex into the picture would also get in the way of you getting involved with a decent person if you meet one. There's no "reconciliation" to be had here, and he isn't offering you one - he's just a horn dog, honey.
And why is he stringing that girlfriend along for 6 years? Does she know he won't ever marry her or have children with her?
Establish boundaries with him - you're co-parents to your daughter. You can be friendly, but that's all you are. No cuddling, definitely no sex. Just parents to the same daughter. No gifts to each other, no favors that don't directly benefit your daughter, etc. You do have a formal custody/support agreement, right? If you don't, establish one.
Good luck!
2007-06-12 11:25:58 · answer #2 · answered by TechnoMom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Straight up - do not sleep together. Your priority as his ex wife, is to keep the relationship between him and his daughter healthy. If you sleep together, and your daughter sees him back in the house, she might begin to wonder if you two are getting back together. When the answer is no, there could be more hurt for her. Besides that, he is seeing someone. Don't lose your dignity by giving him sex when he has a "relationship" already. Go out, date, find someone that wants you for more than sex.
2007-06-12 09:02:08 · answer #3 · answered by danceon70 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write a book. This would get rare reviews some those romace novels.
Seriously, It shoulds like you don't love him any more. You didn't mention how you feel about his current girl, but sleeping with him now, wouldn't that be a little disrespectful?
Just leave this one alone, find yourself another, and let him point his cheating ways down another road.
2007-06-12 08:57:08 · answer #4 · answered by David G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would keep your relationship strictly all about your child. I wouldn't talk to him or see him or especially sleep with him! He sounds like a creep, you are ex's for a good reason! He is probably just bored with his current girl friend and knows that he can get under your skin, do not let him! that is a form of control he has, take it back girl!
2007-06-12 08:58:15 · answer #5 · answered by Paper Pusher 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've already answered your own question.
The only thing for you to do is be a parent to your child and forget a relationship with your ex. He has a gf and that line shouldn't be crossed. Explain to him the situation and continue to be good friends with him for the sake of your daughter.
2007-06-12 08:57:28 · answer #6 · answered by lwheavenlyangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In God's eyes you are still married so boink the man.
JUST KIDDING
"Love" and "in love" are not the same thing.
"Loving" someone is accepting them for who they are.
"In love" with someone is want some dream life together.
Stop trying to plan out your life. Go out together have fun, fight, forgive, move on. You are family.
2007-06-12 09:32:19 · answer #7 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to do what you feel is right, but sleeping with him not make things better, they will only bring back emotions that you may not want. good luck
2007-06-12 08:56:18 · answer #8 · answered by TE TE 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are lucky he is willing to even consider taking you back.
2007-06-12 08:54:47 · answer #9 · answered by Steve J 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So you are willing to be his botty call now?? Show some class. There is more to life than sex.
2007-06-12 08:55:37 · answer #10 · answered by mindovermatter 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋