If you've never done it I don't expect you to reply. I really want to hear from those women who've been "so deep in love" with guys who were married to other women at the time, who've cheated on them, dumped them and etc. I'm just trying to get some idea of what it is about these types of guys that you love.
2007-06-12 10:17:14 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No offense magster, but that's the dumbest thing I've ever heard of. Of course you have control over who you fall in love with. If you don't there's something surely missing from your personality.
2007-06-12 12:25:58 · update #1
i ask myself that same ques. almost everyday. although, i would NEVER mess with a married man. cuz what comes around goes around!
but my husband cheated and lied all the time before we got married. i left him for 6 months to prove my point, well, i actually tried to move on but couldnt. i dated several really nice guys that your parents actually want you with, but no sparks. no passion. so i broke down and took my ex back hoping he had learned his lesson. then another 6 months later we were married. my husband has changed his lying and cheating ways, but he is a jerk. he talks disrespectfully to me and acts like i owe him something and that he is the greatest man ever just because he comes home at night. sometimes i feel like a slave. but i love him. i dont know why. the only theory i can come up with is i was taught this by my mother growing up. she was always with crappy men that abused her and treated her badly after her and my father divorced.
2007-06-12 10:30:56 · answer #1 · answered by jenni 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately I have been there. I was with a man, I thought cared a lot about me at the time but looking back, I wonder if he even really liked me. I loved him so much, I would've done anything for him. It seems as though it is often times the bad boys that can shut there heart off and not turn it on for someone. And I use to love the bad boys. They kept life interesting and I felt so secure, and it was kind of nice having someone get jealous it made me feel like wow he really likes me. Now I have learned my lesson, I don't fall in love too fast anymore, when I use to I was more in love with the idea of being in love. It is usually the women who have a low self esteem on themselves, that get pushed around, cheated on, and are with someone who doesnt love them. Those women feel, that they don't want to be alone and no one else will love them.
2007-06-13 03:27:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because it is not only the person, but the chance of a different life.
A married man becomes your husband and the white picket fence becomes your dream life.
You commit yourself to escape your own life and try and steal that of someone else.
"Being in love" rarely has to do with the person as much as the dream of the life with that person.
2007-06-12 10:44:41 · answer #3 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cause they get brainwashed to believe that they have to depend on that person to live. That no one other than he/she cares about them. They get them to believe that they get treated bably but it's for their own good and that in the end it will still be ok. This is what I call the devil's plan. Why cause Satan will do the same thing to people...
2007-06-12 10:36:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well.. when you love someone, you love them... it doesnt matter wheather they are ugly as hell or if they are rly mean.. and the same thing goes for wheather they care about you or not... I guess you can be fooled into thinking its normal... and you dont rly want to admitt it... but sooner or later when they see what they COULD have, then they are gunna go for something better...
2007-06-12 10:22:11 · answer #5 · answered by %$*VoLcoM sTOnE*$% 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I fell "so deep in love" with ******* because my self worth was in the crapper...they were needy, and selfish, which made me feel good that I could provide for them. It's a stupid way to live, but it happens...
2007-06-12 10:25:00 · answer #6 · answered by Luvitall 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Their "edge." They are a challenge. It's also low self-esteem on the part of these women.
2007-06-12 10:29:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont know who you are going to fall in love with or why you just do its not something you plan or have any control over.
2007-06-12 10:26:10 · answer #8 · answered by Magster 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋