to seek out other women that are in the similar miserable situation... Before you start suggesting that I am not a good lover, let me tell you this... Our love life was fantastic for like 10 years, but now she lost every interest in sex, but I sure haven't. So I feel betrayed and ready to embarked on this quest!
2007-06-12 08:37:54 · 29 answers · asked by Ronnie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think she is just waiting for some new suggestions:
Swings, whips and chains, leather, velcro walls, threesomes, swinging...
Drove my wife and her best friend crazy....you're welcome.
2007-06-12 08:54:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
So what ELSE changed around that tenth anniversary? Does she have any health problems? Did y'all have a child? Move? Anybody's job change? Lose anybody important to her? Something changed, and it affected your relationship. Because healthy adults don't just suddenly "lose every interest in sex" with a good partner, Ronnie. Either YOU changed, SHE changed, or something about your relationship changed, significantly.
Sex isn't your problem. Your marriage is the problem, and you need to stop thinking about your crotch and figure out what's wrong at home. I think you probably know what it is, don't you? Or, at least, you have some kind of idea. Be a man worthy of the word and deal with it.
If you don't, the only women who are going to get involved with you will be skanky tramps. None of them will be as good as your wife. You'll constantly be comparing them to what you had, and they won't be able to measure up. They'll be after you to dump your wife and marry them. They'll be wanting to know how much money you've got. Do you have kids? Forget finding a good stepmother while screwing around. Come on - do you really want the kind of slut who screws around with married men around your kids? No!
Go home and remember how to be a good husband, Ronnie. You'll be happier for it.
2007-06-12 08:58:09 · answer #2 · answered by TechnoMom 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The 2 of you need to talk this out. Maybe her everyday bump and grind is wearing her down? She could be tired and need help with her chores and/ or work load, and this could be shutting off her desires.
You do not say how old she is, but I am 39 and married 12 years, and I can tell you that my passions are rising and not falling.
It can get better, but you need to discuss this with her, and get to the bottom of what is eating her.
Whatever you do though, do not on impulse go after another woman, it can only cause heartache and tragedy, maybe even STD"S. Then you will lose it all, wife and self-respect and more importantly...your health.
Do ask her what is wrong, and help her cope and you will find that she may respond to you.
2007-06-12 08:47:41 · answer #3 · answered by Midnight Winter WOLF 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you have any interest in continuing a relationship with your wife, then extramarital activities will blow that. Fix the problems you have with your wife. It may just be a 'spell' she's going through -- there may be a host of things going on (some of which you might even be creating for her). If you two can't work it out together, seek therapy - get someone else's input on what's wrong and how to fix it.
2007-06-12 08:46:47 · answer #4 · answered by Jeremy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Before you even make advances to any women, while you are still married. I would suggest speaking to your wife about how you have been recently feeling. Let her know that you are a bit displeased that she doesn't enjoy love-making with you anymore, and that you are on the verge of cheating. Perhaps, when you tell her what you are on the verge of doing, this will give her a wake up call........hopefully.
2007-06-12 08:54:52 · answer #5 · answered by Tiff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How rude of you wife to betray you like that.
Women seem to forget that marriage is a balance of many things including sex and if they are selfish enough to not keep the sex going then everything will fall apart and its all their fault.
Its clear to me that since your wife has discarded her sexual responsibilities that you have a defaulted permission to go find someone else.
Another woman ruining her marriage out of laziness.
2007-06-12 08:50:36 · answer #6 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your married to her, what is going on in your marriage that might cause lack of interest. Is she over worked at work and at home. Are you helping with things around the house or with any children you might have. Marriage is more then just sex, or having a maid. Possibly she's sick. you left a bit out. Have you talked to her.?? I don't want to offend you but your question didn't show much respect for your wife.
2007-06-12 08:49:49 · answer #7 · answered by fuzzykitty 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Was this issue in your wedding vows? "I promise to be faithful as long as you're putting out 3x a week....."? Grow up, man.
Grow some kahunas and show your wife the respect of asking for a divorce and filing papers BEFORE you go out and dip your wick. She deserves at least that. In this day and age it would certainly be her right to know that she is being exposed to potential STD's (that's 'sexual transmitted diseases', in case you didn't know)
I feel quite sure that's not going to happen, but you know it's the right thing to do.
Oh, .....and get a lawyer.
2007-06-12 09:04:03 · answer #8 · answered by TJ 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm with you friend....
Of course it isn't alright...but it is understandable.
Kinda like a new mother that wants to strangle her baby because it cries to much...understandable but not right.
At any rate, I'm finding it harder and harder not to seek out women such as you are considering. Monthly boinks with the kids downstairs just doesn't cut it.
Good Luck, Be Careful, and Happy Hunting
2007-06-12 08:50:45 · answer #9 · answered by scott_v1963 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you have kids together,cause that would explain a lot!!!There are always ups and Downs in a marriage, if you don't love your wife anymore, than just leave her.But if you still do,fight for your marriage and work things out.
2007-06-12 08:50:27 · answer #10 · answered by Cherrie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So that would be called cheating.... no why not again revisit your concerns with her....communicate...marriage isnt only about one person your definition of frequency may be 3 times a day...so if you are hung up on that then explain your feelings rather than cheating on a 10 year committment you have had with her...
2007-06-12 08:46:24 · answer #11 · answered by GA 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋