Is this petty? Woman next door wearing close to nothing?

Question

Have an attractive husband and wonderful son....woman next door has a son close to our son's age and recently they have been playing together very often...she (the woman) is friendly, but has been wearing less and less lately...my son just came into our computer room asking to go outside to play with this woman's little boy and when I looked out the window to make sure he was outside in his yard, she (the woman) is wearing a little top and SHORT cotton shorts where I can see her cheeks hanging out...literally.

To top this off, my husband and I usually go outside together to supervise the boys playing and to chat with this woman. I just feel her attire is a bit much and makes me uncomfortable. I'm sure it's good eye candy for my husband, but she's been talking to him more and more...and for some reason, I feel she has an alterior motive....call it nuts....but it's just odd!

I won't budge to go outside right now, I just feel uncomfortable!

Answer 1

you're not nuts, what your sensing is women's intuition, that's why we have it. Keep your eyes on her. Your husband should not encourage her, if arrangements need to be made for the kids to play, then you talk w/her. Next time she has more clothes on , compliment her...there are many women who just don't have any sense but then there are those who look to and fro for other's husbands...be nice but careful. To quote an old book, "be wise as a serpent but gentle as a dove..."

Answer 2

Well you probably have nothing to worry about. I'm assuming you didn't marry a dog so he's probably not trolling for women outside the marriage. Remember that he comes home to you. And because of that, make sure you love on him a little more. Don't make a big deal of the woman with the short shorts. Go out and supervise your son and hang with your husband. If she had designs on him then you being there will throw some serious salt in her game.

Answer 3

I agree that it's inappropriate for her to be so scantally clad around the kids...what's the purpose? However, you shouldn't feel insecure if you are in a solid relationship with a man you love, and have a wonderful son with. If your son has a fun time with her son, then by all means I don't feel like you should let your frutration or insecurity get in the way of it. Go out side with your head held high in a classy little number that shows off what a babe you are, without having to show it all, and have casual conversation with this woman. For the sake of both of your kids, just let them be kids and try to put your frustrations aside. Some people just find it appropriate to carry themselves that way. Unless she has changed over the course of knowing you and your husband with regard to her flirtatious behavior and dress then I think it's probably just the woman she is. (be proud you've got class!)

I'd be willing to bet that she isn't actually talking more to your husband but rather you're letting this woman creep into your thoughts more and more without realizing it. Speak to hubby about it, and see what he thinks. Most problems in relationships are caused over miscommunication, so just be open and honest with your husband. I wish you the best!

Answer 4

Well....at the end of the day, as long as she's covering the proper bits what she wears is her business. Not yours.

I won't argue that fact that perhaps she dresses in bad taste but what are you, the neighborhood dress code watch?

If she is a single Mom - then yeah - she might be more inclined to dress in a manner that attracts male attention. Whether you "agree" with this or not is irrelevant.

I'm not reading that your husband acts any differently around her, talks to her a lot or anything like that. Just that you're sure "it's good eye candy for him".

Agree with earlier responder that there may be a teensy-weensy bit of low self esteem issues on your part (I just won't budge to go outside now???? Now that's a tad dramatic don't you think).

I'm not saying your WRONG for feeling that your neighbor's dress is inappropriate. And whom you have on your property is your business and maybe, if it's that big of an issue to you, you need to stop inviting this woman over or having your son associate with hers.

But I strongly disagree that you "counsel" her on her clothing. It's none of your business and I think you need to put yourself in her shoes (or lack thereof) and try and think about how you would feel if someone came up and chastized you for your $9 ross dress for less slacks.

Answer 5

You should most definitely being going outside with him--especially if you suspect her motives. Less clothing always gets a man's attention.

You should try it yourself. Next time, put on a skimpy dress and NOTHING else! While the two of you are visiting with her, let your husband see that you forgot your panties--maybe even her too-just for the hell of it.

I'll bet your husband will want to go back inside with you RIGHT AWAY! I sure would. She'll get the message as well.

Not only will you solve the problem, but you'll wind up with multiple wild OMG orgasms!

Have fun!

Answer 6

Yes, I can agree that I would be uncomfortable with a Loose Lizzy next door. She is possibly looking for attention, where ever she can get it and I would let my man know, I sure hope you do not give her any!

I, being the type of person who is not two faceted, would tell her that I do not like her style of dress, and it is her right; however, I don't want my child exposed to seeing her butt cheeks when playing with her child. THEREFORE, THEY SHOULD PLAY AT MY HOUSE. I WOULD NOT LIKE HER IN MY HOME EITHER, I WOULD ESCORT HER CHILD HOME AFTER THE PLAY SESSIONS.

The woman has personality problems to dress like that. Sure, she may be attractive and all, but not in public. Flaunting ones body is definitely an indication of seeking attention~~the wanted and unwanted type~~THEN SHE WILL BE THE FIRST TO HOLLER SHE IS BEING DISRESPECTED WHEN MEN SAY NAUGHTY THINGS TO HER! GO FIGURE.

Answer 7

I don't think you are nuts. If she is wearing more provocative then she did when you first met her then maybe she does have an ulterior motive. I would definitely let your husband know you are feeling uncomfortable and you have concerns about this woman's attire. Your husband loves you and if you tell him you have worries you can figure it together. If you presence a united front hopeful she will back off any ideas of trying to take your man because it sounds like she is after your man.

Answer 8

If she has the body to do so, who cares? If she's wearing less and less lately, perhaps it has something to do with the fact that its summer. Generally people wear less when it's hot.

Sounds like you have some self confidence issues you need to work out. Don't worry about the neighbor.

Look, I'm not trying to be rude to you, but I don't see the problem. I have a healthy and fit body and I do work outside a lot in my bathing suit. It's not to attract attention, but I want to get some sun.

I mean, she's not shaking her booty at your husband is she? I'd just let the thing be and trust your husband until he gives you reason not to. Looking doesn't count. All men look.

Answer 9

You didn't say if this woman is single or married, but Yep, she is after your husband. My advice is to never leave her alone with your husband. If you see your husband outside with her, join them. They could be flirting behind your back and flirting can get out of hand very very quickly. Make sure that your husband never goes into her house alone for any reason whatsoever. Not even to pick up your son.

Next time you see the woman in such short shorts, I would say "Oh by the way, I heard nasty rumors about you from the neighbors. If she says what are they saying? You can say, "Oh I really don't want to say, but since I really like you so much, I thought you'd might want to know that your reputation is being ruined by the way you dress."

Answer 10

not petty...its a legitamte fear...is the lady next door married...where is her husband and how would you compare him to your husband looks wise. when i was younger (20) my neighbors wife wasnt getting it how she wanted it from her husband. She was fine as hell and much younger then he...he was like 50 she was 30. well i used to play b-ball outside of her house with no shirt on and shorts...she would watch me sometimes, then i noticed her and she noticed me noticing her. after that she would water her lawn in SCIMPY outfits and everything. well to make a long story short we ended up having sex like every day for almost 3 months until i went away to school. so yeah, be very suspicious.