What do you think about arranged marriage?

Question

It is a tradition in many cultures for two families to be united this way, knowing that both partners come from good families. Do you think that they can grow to love one another?

Answer 1

Arranged marriages..sounds scary like prison or something. It's so arrogant to think ones family is so good that the bloodline(money,cows?) has to be carefully monitored. Love? Maybe, but how will they ever know? They aren't even married for that reason....and how will they ever know what love is if they aren't allowed to trust their own feelings and choose and pick what they like in a mate? Chances are they will find love, but it may not be with each other...More problems......see you when those come up. Those will be some interesting questions...keep me posted. Best wishes.

Answer 2

Arrange marriage is a very decent way to get married provided it is followed in a proper manner . Parent finds a family .Child get a chance to choose his/her partner. Parents are suppose to just find a family , not impose the family on the child . But sometimes it is taken too far and that is an abuse of the system . Leaving the child on her own to find a partner is somewhat risky . And when that happens in a society. society has to find a way out . So divorce is common in such society . Having 3 - 4 relationship before marriage is quite common . Every adult knows that at this age child is more inquisitive about sex less for a lifetime commitment . 'love' is often confused with 'desired to mate' . If you are looking for long term commitment you will compromise .No two humans are equal . But it all depends how you want to reach there .

Answer 3

I don't care what tradition it is, but a marriage is suppose to be between two people who love each other and have the same dreams, not one that is arranged by the parents. Big deal if they both come from good families. This isn't for the parents to do. The bride and groom should be mature enough to be able to decide who they marry. I would find it hard to grow to love someone else. I'd probably resent this person even though he was in the same situation as me.

Answer 4

It can be a whole lot better than one might think. Sure in America today there is this great notion that you meet someone, fall in love with them and then marry them. What almost no one every wants to deal with is 50% of the time those choices will end in divorce, ruined lives and a mess for any children. Before a couple gets married, no matter how much they feel in love, they might as well just flip a coin because it's 50-50 if they stay married or not.

Now, sure there are horror stories about arranged marriages and the notion seems almost un-American, but on the other hand, the success ratio in arranged marriages is MUCH higher than when the person chooses themself. The happiness ideal is also much more present in arranged marriages. This is not just a dream, this is reality.

Do what you want to do, but at least be informed as to the success and failure rates of each.

Answer 5

Arranged marriages are for poor people, Sacchi. It is how the economically deprived attempt to remain solvent as a family. They may work when dire socio-economic factors are at work within certain cultures, but only when crushing financial problems are a part of everyday life. As soon as prosperity of any sort is realized on a cultural level, the entire concept is scrapped. I don't know where you live, but why don't you leave? Come to America and find good fortune!

Answer 6

I think it is a good thing and it should be done more often. I know I feel comfortable if several "other" family members have input into the marriage. Might avoid a lot of headaches down the road. Of course there are no guarantees, but why shouldn't this be an option?

Answer 7

everyone that i work with has that kind of family where there marriage is arranged and from being on the outside of it, i feel that they do truly love each other but not the same way that one person would love another if they choose their own mate. there feelings for each other aren't as strong bc it's like they're being told for this to happen so they have no choice but they do love that person, just in a different way. there is this kid that i love at my work and we're planning on getting married but we chose each other and we see our affection is much more strong then our bosses whose marriage was arranged. their love is in a different way

Answer 8

I think that they can grow to love each other. But just as often they can grow to resent each other. I would think that if they grew up knowing each other then you might have a better idea as to if they would get along and the arranged marriage would have a better chance of success. but thats just my random thought ;)

Answer 9

I think it is a terrible concept that should have died with the dinosaurs. I think parents who force their children in arranged marriages are no different than parents who sell their children for sex. I could never force my daughters to marry some toothless old bastard for a few camels or whatever parents get for doing it. I want my children happy and married to the one they love. It is not my place to pick their mate. I just really hate that in 2007, this bullsh.it still goes on.

Answer 10

I think it is VERY UNAMERICAN... VERY UNCHRISTIAN LIKE... AND VERY DEMEANING TO THE WOMAN!!! Im sure you do it so you will have one of your many virgins, the men probably think she is not smart enough to pick a man on her own so the men get together and find the biggest pig friend of theirs and shove the kids together at ten or eleven and bearing kids at twelve... whats next how about cutting out her cL*t? oh wait you already do that too... YEAH I dont support it in the slightest, i will take my 50% gamble and Marry American.