My in laws have invited my husband and I to join them (and a few other extended families) on a camping trip. I went with them last year, and my husband did not come. I want to go again this year, but my husband, again, doesn't want to come. He LOVES camping, and I am trying to convince him to go but he feels he is too busy with his work. What if he doesn't go? Would it be weird if I went without him again? He doesn't care, he won't be offended or anything, but I think it will be a lot more fun with him.
2007-06-12 11:30:16 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know girl that is might hurt you or make you sad that your husband is to busy to do anything. But you need to understand him just alittle bit. He is working to make you and others feel better he is working to provide what is needed.
but your husband needs to also understands you too cause it is not fair that you have to go out again without him and you need attention. but if he is working all the time....
I say girl talk to him again try to see if he would at least fix something with his job. so that he can get to go. You too deserve to be happy and to enjoy it.
if your husband do not go girl i will tell you to go
You need to get out and explore nature it will do you good it would do your hubby good too but since he is not going then you go and enjoy yourself you need to give that to yourself hey at least your husband lets you go out and don't feel offended if you go.
so be happy and communicate
2007-06-12 11:39:45 · answer #1 · answered by mary o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After reading your question two things came to my mind. First of all remember his family is yours too. You shouldn't feel weird going anywhere with his family if you get along with them. As busy as people get these days it's nice to have a family that takes the time to camp together. Second thing that came to my mind is do you know for sure your husband is staying home because of his job? I don't mean to be rude but some men do like to play when the cat is away. The only reason I bring it up is because it happened to me. I never suspected it at all but it happened never the less. I hope things work out for you. Go camping and have fun but try to get him away from the office for awhile. Tell him how much it would mean to you.
2007-06-12 11:39:17 · answer #2 · answered by Jenny J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you should go, only if you know for sure that your husband did not feel, abandoned last year. Sometimes men will fall into an affair with a "someone to talk to" when their wife is away from them too long.
If you have a strong marriage, by all means go. If it could cause 'hidden' problems. Don't go. Choose to do something together instead. Even if it is only for a weekend. Good Luck.
2007-06-12 15:15:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it depends on the sensitivity of your husband. You gonna have to recall his reaction from last year when you went without him. If he was ok then, then I think you don't have to worry at all. But again for the sake of little courtesy, just try and invite him again for this year's camping and see if he has anything to say before it affects your relationship. Just make him feel tempted with your convincing words. He'll all be yours in no time. Good luck.
2007-06-12 11:50:23 · answer #4 · answered by Ethan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let him know that because he's been working so hard it'd be nice to forget all that. Go either way because you shouldnt sacrafice your fun times and if he understands even better. Just let him know it's gorgeous, it's summer, and even better you love him and want him there to enjoy it. Maybe bring up something you guys can do together to convince him if you really want him to go. Like to hiking, or fishing, or cuddle under the stars with the fire on a clear night. Ask if there's anything you can do to help take the workload off (if you can).
Just let him know he'll be missed if he still says no and you two can plan something later on together.
2007-06-12 11:46:59 · answer #5 · answered by Angie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should definately force the issue somewhat with your husband to get him to go along for this trip. You say that he likes camping and it is his family that arranged this trip to begin with. Perhaps there is something about this trip that bothers your husband and that is why he is using work as an excuse not to go, perhaps he has had an issue with someone that is going on this trip?
Husbands and wives sometimes forget how to court each other, they think that once you get married that you have to stop going on dates and buying flowers and doing the things you did when you were dating...every married couple makes that mistake from time to time, so it is so important to spend as much time getting to know each other more, going away together, going out to dinner, your spouse does not stop growing just because you got married, there are still so many things to learn about the person you chose to spend the rest of your life with and dont think that just because you have your whole lives to get to know each other that this one weekend doesnt count...every moment counts that you have with that person!
There is no greater joy than to learn and explore new things with your spouse, so sit him down and get to the bottom of the matter about why he really doesnt want to go and then remind him that each day together is a blessing, each means one more day that you have survived as a couple, together!
2007-06-12 12:12:16 · answer #6 · answered by o4_babygirl_o4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its entirely up to you if your in laws can accept the fact hes a busy man and he couldn't make it you should go. But if you know they'll ask question about your husband and be sort of mad he didn't come again and you wont have as much as fun with your husband tell your husband that. And think it twice.
2007-06-12 11:35:42 · answer #7 · answered by ThisIsMyYahooId 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is ask. Tell him that you can alternate years to go camping, and maybe he can get alot of work out of the way so he won't get behind. If you and your happiness means anything to him, he will do it. It isn't like you are asking for the moon or a bunch of diamonds!
2007-06-12 11:33:56 · answer #8 · answered by maureen g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make some sort of deal with him that if he goes camping with you then you will give him extra uninterrupted alone/work time when you both return home so that he can catch up on his work. Also remind him that even when he dies, his "in box" will not be empty. Life's too short to pass up opportunities to live!
2007-06-12 11:35:56 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your Husband that you are looking forward to him going,and would love to have him join you. If he don't wanna go, let him know it's never too late for him to change his mind and have a great time. Before you leave on your trip, bring up that you hope next time he will be able to go. ~Have a Great Trip~
2007-06-12 11:36:27 · answer #10 · answered by Charley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋