Marriage & Divorce - 11 June 2007

My husband and I are now 21 and married at 19 together sense 12. Before we married he devoted himself to God and for the first year things were great. Then we move on our own and he did a complete 360. He now thinks it's ok to chew and EAT his nails as well as dry skin and his wart. I explain to him how that makes it hard for me to be affectionate with me so he refuses to give me sex. It is nasty he is a cable guy so he is always dirty and this also makes me afraid to give him kids. He also see's no need for church and is just feeling invincible and no one can nock him down or tell him anything. I felt after so many years I knew him and after years of discussing marriage I understood there would be issues but not this. I want to stay with my husband but he says he doesn't want to mature, have responsabilities but be married and will play the dangle the string game if you tell him other wise. I swear this is not how it was before we got married. Any advice?

2007-06-11 06:09:39 · 5 answers · asked by maria_crittenden 1

My husband has been doing that over the duration of our marraige, which is almost three years. I am 29 and he is 28. We have no kids. If we get into an argument he will up and leave the house without saying a word. He will come back hours later. When I tell him this is not okay, he will say he is going to leave the house to cool down regardless of what I think. He either leaves or goes into another room in the house and if I try to talk to him he will get upset. My tone of voice doesn't even matter. I can try to talk to him softly and gently and he still just wants me to shut the **** up and get out of his ear. What can I do if he won't talk this out. This has been going on for almost three years.

2007-06-11 06:04:27 · 23 answers · asked by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4

How and when will they catch my Ex-husband for not paying child support?

2007-06-11 06:02:34 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

hey frenz....
how do i cope up with people i dont like.....i hate them...but they are dear to my hubby....i wanna avoid them but i cannot....i get so angry that i end up speechless.....i dont wanna get angry or feel so negative like this.....
wat shud i do??

2007-06-11 06:02:31 · 4 answers · asked by libran_beauty 2

2007-06-11 05:54:08 · 12 answers · asked by Gypsy Gal 6

accurate assesmant on this situation

My ex and i can't seem to be with each other(we argue alot)
But we can't be without each other( we miss each other alot)

this is not in my mind, it true, whenever we break things off, we stay so for a while but then we call and this has been going on for about 2 yrs now.
Can anyone help with this we need some closure but not sure what we need to do. i will accept any input. please and thank you

2007-06-11 05:51:09 · 20 answers · asked by jules 3

On a recent ivillage message board that question was posted. The woman was saying she's been married for 10 yrs and the spark is gone even though her hubby looks better than ever.

I've never been in a relationship that lasted more than 4 yrs and that was my marriage and I'm divorced now. I'm afraid to get married again for fear of wanting to get out once I'm in it for some time.

On the ivillage message board every response was a "I'm on the same boat" type of answer. I would like to hear if anybody (ANYBODY!) has had a different experience. Can your spouse still do it for you after many years? Is that possible? How do you cope- deal with it?

2007-06-11 05:47:10 · 20 answers · asked by soda7nb 2

I am in need of some ideas my husband loves the movies and I am kind of tired of watching them all the time what other things can we both do that will be fun and help bring us closer to one another. I love the out doors he dislikes it what can we both do with out it involving sitting in front of a tv all day? ughhh... I need him to do what i like to do as well, walking at the park, going to the beach, riding bikes etc. any ideas will help thanks.

2007-06-11 05:41:54 · 19 answers · asked by WhErE Do I BeGiN??? 1

We are both 20. He now says he thinks we should have waited. We have been together for 4 years. I didn't force him into marriage and I was totally shocked when he proposed. I just don't know what to say or how I should feel about this. All I feel is hurt.

2007-06-11 05:41:34 · 13 answers · asked by myworldwillneverbewhatiexpected 2

It seem that society support the working woman who don't want to help inside the home too. Also don't help with the household expenses. What is your oponion.

2007-06-11 05:35:11 · 17 answers · asked by . 3

We talk about having a threesome, but i am thinking more along the lines of another guy to play with both of us. I want to make sure she is not going to be freaked out when i ask her.

2007-06-11 05:34:58 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

i am in a relationship that has never been ideal or good, my man was incarcerated for awhile and has been out for about 5 months we don't really get along there is no spark there , he has hurt me ALOT in the past and is very insucure., but we have a son together ... i love him , but not sure i am in love with him, do not want to hurt him either...... i am stuck what to do ....

2007-06-11 05:34:04 · 15 answers · asked by Jess 2

she promised the fire department she wouldnt do that again!!!!

2007-06-11 05:34:03 · 21 answers · asked by james l 1

Married 5 years, argued maybe 3 times. Had a small arguement about money. I chose to walk away to cool down, went into the bedroom and locked the door. I fell asleep. Woke up the next morning to her knocking. When i got home that evening, found a note on the desk. "By locking the door, you have demonstrated that you do not love me, i am going to stay with my family, i think we should get an attorney to finalize this." She told the Pastor i should have seen it coming. We are both Christians. I tried to call her to offer money, since she has none and I have control of the joint account, but no response, she is staying with her mother locally. I do not want a divorce, and i dont know what to do since she has shut down any communication.

2007-06-11 05:33:01 · 8 answers · asked by Bill D 1

2007-06-11 05:31:55 · 27 answers · asked by hamthugger 4

My Wife & I have been separated for nearly a year, A couple of months ago she told me that after this time apart, even though we have actually been getting on well as a family ( we have 2 kids 5 & 2 yo) she does not want to try to get back together. I still love her & want to be with her & the children but she insists that she doesn't want that.

She has started dating again & is doing a fine job of 'moving on' much better than me anyway! My question is, now that we have been separated for this time & she has decided on her course of action, should we divorce & make it official? We are both equally to blame for the breakdown of the marriage so unfortunately this is more a question of 'what next?' than who deserves what.

2007-06-11 05:25:59 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

Someone told my husband a rumor about me and another man. What do I do now?

2007-06-11 05:24:19 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Recently left the SOB.....Now starting to have some feeling's for a GF of mine! Need some advice!

2007-06-11 05:21:23 · 4 answers · asked by jenny a 1

ive been with my boyfriend since i was 14 and he was 15...i lived in new york my whole youth years moved to florida when i was 15..i left him but we still managed to continue our relationship...we love each other very much and i feel that the distance is messing us up now...we've been having so many problems and arguements i really dnt want to lose him....i do believe we met wit a purpose i met him in church i myself was raised in a christian house hold im 17 we complete 4 years in november im going to finish H.S....2008 and am starting to save money for a huge wedding im not sure what im going to tell my parents but i would like for us to get marry..
he agrees with me but feels we're going to have no support from anyone and everyone is going to bring us down....
i plan to move back to new york go to a university for speech pathology n work my way to raising a family in 6 yr after marriage...many other stories out there i have a teacher he got marry 2 days after hs n has 25yr marry

2007-06-11 05:19:10 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

should I take it out on his tip? or is that taking this too far?

2007-06-11 05:16:19 · 16 answers · asked by james l 1

and if a man is going through this there help?

2007-06-11 05:10:27 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I've been with my husband (not married legally, been with him for last 7 years) for a while now, but in January I noticed the change in him. Well, found out he was having affair, and knew who the woman was. After many months of fighting with the other woman, she finally realized he was playing games with her too, as I told her he would, and she told me everything that happened between them. Call me crazy, but we started talking, and now we are friends and every time we talk, he gets pissed off. I personally think that this is very funny to see him angry when we talk. What do you think??

2007-06-11 05:10:07 · 25 answers · asked by Queene-77 2

I'm feeling very stressed and emotional about it , and I can't see why ... we've been together for 5 years , and we are very happy . . I just feel like things might change between us . . We already live together , so it's not a fear of moving in with him . . I don't know . Could be because I'm pregnant I'm feeling this way . . But did anyone feel like this before they got married ?

2007-06-11 05:07:53 · 11 answers · asked by Chante Alexis 4

My boyfriend (of one year) and I love each other, but whenever we talk about progressing further, he refers to not being IN love. What is heck is that anyway? I'm not "head-over-heels-butterflies-in-my-stomach-in-love" either! But that doesn't mean I don't love him and don't think we're working out. He's the same way, but thinks we should wait til he feels "more", so he doesn't have to force it. This shouldn't be so hard....
So - Is "love" and "in love" really that different? Perhaps we're just the kind of people who, since we've never been "in love" and all goofy-like before, in previous relationships, that we just will never get that way with anyone. I think our source of love is just being ourselves and being comfortable with each other....not waiting to wake up one morning & realize you're in love. I don't believe in that. I also don't believe we should deprive ourselves of a lasting relationship, waiting for a feeling that maybe we already have and just don't recognize?

2007-06-11 05:02:05 · 19 answers · asked by chaotic_mum 4

first of all, i love my b/f. we been dating for about 5 years. please dont tell me about "size doesnt matter" or "u sure u love him" kind of crap. dont want to hear it. i just want what u guys think...

we are same age, 28, and we been dating for about 5 years. i love him and i know he loves me as well. (no questions about love plz) i have a steady job and make around $100,000/yr. i am a designer and work for sean john in ny. i graduated from parsons.

my b/f, he's not so financially stable. he graduated from stonybrook... barely. works in time warner cable as a broadband tech. gets paid around $40k. he promised me he will go to graduate school. he is currently studying for GMAT.

being of where i am and where he is financially, all i want from him is 2 carat tiffany engagement ring. obviously he cannot buy on his own, but his parents tell him thats too much. am i being selfish? or is it his parents being selfish?

kinda long... sorry

2007-06-11 05:01:49 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

He is very wealthy and well respected in the community, I am a stay at home mom, and dont have any friends as people keep on running to him about stories of me bad mouthing him. I can't deal with his ex or his daughter, neither can he deal with mine. He has a very aggresive streak, which scares me, but for the first time he hurt me, hit my head against the wall, gabbed me by my neck, pulled my hair out, I hit him back, all this happened infront of our kids that we had together (ages 2 and 4) He demands me to get out his house, if I dont he will disconnect the electicity, show the world I cant look after my children, he takes away the car. But when he calms down he cries, says what a bad man he is, bad father, and I forgave him every time.
Now 2 weeks after the abuse, it hit me that THIS is what I never wanted from a relationship, this is not me. But I can not speak to him he will get angry again and ......knows what he would do, should I go for councelling?

2007-06-11 04:59:43 · 18 answers · asked by Ella 2

Yes, It is Monday, Yes, I am tired and really do not want to be here at work. I am going to be married 20 years soon... (second marriage for both of us) kids and step kids are gone, no more of that drama, husband is semi retired, but I work full time. I am just wondering if I am happy. I used to be. I am in a rut, (my husband is happy with this rut) I am not sure if I want to continue with this content life. I love him, like my life, but don't know if I am really "happy" or if I am really able to experience happiness. Sometimes I think if I was alone, I would be happy, but who knows. I ask my husband all the time to try different things, but he wont.. I do things by myself or with my friends, concerts,walks, (things that he will not share with me) I want to do things together, but he just says sure, but we never do them, but I share in things that he wants to do that I have no interest in just to be with him. Has anyone ever had doubts about continuing with a long relationship

2007-06-11 04:52:12 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-11 04:50:05 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-11 04:47:50 · 20 answers · asked by foreignclown 2

My family has owned a piece of land for 40 years. Gifted to my wife and I to build our house. Divorcing after only one year of marrige. Is she entitled to the value of the land?

2007-06-11 04:45:46 · 11 answers · asked by vncforte 1