My husband and I are now 21 and married at 19 together sense 12. Before we married he devoted himself to God and for the first year things were great. Then we move on our own and he did a complete 360. He now thinks it's ok to chew and EAT his nails as well as dry skin and his wart. I explain to him how that makes it hard for me to be affectionate with me so he refuses to give me sex. It is nasty he is a cable guy so he is always dirty and this also makes me afraid to give him kids. He also see's no need for church and is just feeling invincible and no one can nock him down or tell him anything. I felt after so many years I knew him and after years of discussing marriage I understood there would be issues but not this. I want to stay with my husband but he says he doesn't want to mature, have responsabilities but be married and will play the dangle the string game if you tell him other wise. I swear this is not how it was before we got married. Any advice?
2007-06-11 06:09:39 · 5 answers · asked by maria_crittenden 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Uhh...no advice really!....I'm kind of at a loss for words.
2007-06-11 06:18:37 · answer #1 · answered by fonzarelli_1999 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get back to the church now. This guy is old enough to realize his responsibilities. I think maybe his pastor or family needs to be called on this one he is being an irresponsible jack a ss and is resorting to a inmature goofball so he doesn't have to grow-up. Your both 21 and you say he devoted himself to God before marriage. I think you need to ask him this question would would jesus do in your shoes. He is disrespecting you and this marriage the way he is behaving and treating you.
SEEK GOD'S HELP AND SOME PROFESSIONAL ASSISTANCE.
God Bless and Best Wishes
2007-06-11 06:54:09 · answer #2 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you guys are young, he's going through that stage were he relizes he needs to grow up but gets freaked out and decideds thats not for him...my b/f is in this stage right now and it sucks. guys do nasty things they chew and fart and pee on the toilet, im sure you do things he dosent like its all apart of living togther you find these things out...tell him how you feel just calmly sit him down and talk to him...maybe on the weekends party with him alittle...he will come out of this
2007-06-11 06:16:14 · answer #3 · answered by lovely 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Choose your battles. If he does those things in front of you, walk away so you don't have to see it. He feels invincible because, as you mention, he's still maturing. You are so young and technically, your brains are still growing.
2007-06-11 06:15:31 · answer #4 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe Huggies come in adult sizes
no seriously, the man sounds gross. why would you want to sleep with him? women mature faster then guys, so it will take a while for him to come around
2007-06-11 06:16:36 · answer #5 · answered by Jahpson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋