ive been with my boyfriend since i was 14 and he was 15...i lived in new york my whole youth years moved to florida when i was 15..i left him but we still managed to continue our relationship...we love each other very much and i feel that the distance is messing us up now...we've been having so many problems and arguements i really dnt want to lose him....i do believe we met wit a purpose i met him in church i myself was raised in a christian house hold im 17 we complete 4 years in november im going to finish H.S....2008 and am starting to save money for a huge wedding im not sure what im going to tell my parents but i would like for us to get marry..
he agrees with me but feels we're going to have no support from anyone and everyone is going to bring us down....
i plan to move back to new york go to a university for speech pathology n work my way to raising a family in 6 yr after marriage...many other stories out there i have a teacher he got marry 2 days after hs n has 25yr marry
2007-06-11 05:19:10 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you are christian you ahouold that you should honor or mother and father. You are to young to marry if this guy is so great and he thinks the same of you then he should not have a problem waiting until you both finish college/university before you get hitched. Since this will make everyone happy to see that you are both being wise, and thinking about family and financial stability before jumping into the biggest decision of your life.
Just because you had a teacher do this 30yrs ago it was alot different back then this day and age you have higher costs of living, higher education prices, and well huge divorce rate.
I believe you know what you need to do as a fellow christian
I would tell you to ask yourself this question. WHAT WOULD JESUS DO?.
God Bless and Best Wishes
P.S. remember divorce is one of the biggest sins so be sure this is the guy you want for life. This may all be just silly high school puppy love.
2007-06-11 05:35:52 · answer #1 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I had 5 long term relationships, after thinking I would spend the rest of my life with my high school sweetheart! I am glad to have had the experience of getting know other men! My parents, however, were high school sweethearts and have been married for 37 happy years. Many of my best friends married theirs, and are still happily married after 15 years, while some didn't make it. I think you should not worry about other people, but rather know yourself, your sweetheart and what works for you. However, if there are doubts, you should think very very deep upon those thoughts!!! I had absolutely none when I married my husband, but always wondered what else could be out there for me when I dated my H.S.S.H! It is a personal, individual thing!
2016-05-17 08:36:45 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, I'd say wait to get married for at least a year after high school, I understand that you've been together for a while, but life in high school is not the same as the real world. I got married right out of high school, but it only lasted a few months before I had to leave because he was so different once I had to live with him 24/7. Just be careful whatever you do.
2007-06-11 05:25:53 · answer #3 · answered by Xotchil 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are right. You won't have the support of your parents, and with good reason. They are looking out for you. You sound pretty mature. Have you searched the cost of a huge wedding? If your love is true, it will with stand the test of time. Go to college first. You may be feeling insecure because of the arguments you are having. Marriage will not fix that.
2007-06-11 05:25:36 · answer #4 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If anything can come between and bring you down marriage isn't for you yet.
You won't listen to a stranger but please wait until at least after college to get married. You're not finished growing up yet....and you deserve to go into a marriage as adults.
Marriage is wonderful but at times it can be difficult and you need all the maturity you can gather up to make it work.
2007-06-11 05:25:13 · answer #5 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Prove everyone wrong, get married and have a kid when you're ready and prove them wrong. Aww good luck I hope you do get married. My parents got married really young...my mom was 16 an dmy dad was 19 and they're still together today, for 33 years. Proof that young marriages do last.
2007-06-11 10:27:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, you don't NEED to get married after high school. 18 is far too young to make that kind of commitment. If the two of you care for each other and have no intentions of going anywhere else, you have plenty of time to enjoy your youthes together before tying the knot.
2007-06-11 05:23:59 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel-Pit Police-DSMG 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you're arguing and having problems, the last thing you should be doing is planning a wedding. See about a premarital counseling program. Your church might have info on that
2007-06-11 05:27:51 · answer #8 · answered by The Naughty Librarian 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I got married when I was 18. And I don't regret it, but I wish I would have waited a while longer. And I must urge... live with your man before you get married... There are some things you can only understand by living with him.
2007-06-11 05:25:56 · answer #9 · answered by Nikki 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't recommend marriage after high school - you are both still very very young and it is possible you may grow apart as you mature. If you grow apart and see no future together, your love for one another will turn sour.
I would recommend keeping in touch and let things flow naturally. If you two are destined to be together, there will be no stopping it.
But if you two are apt to grow apart and find others, then there is no stopping that either.
2007-06-11 05:28:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋