Married 5 years, argued maybe 3 times. Had a small arguement about money. I chose to walk away to cool down, went into the bedroom and locked the door. I fell asleep. Woke up the next morning to her knocking. When i got home that evening, found a note on the desk. "By locking the door, you have demonstrated that you do not love me, i am going to stay with my family, i think we should get an attorney to finalize this." She told the Pastor i should have seen it coming. We are both Christians. I tried to call her to offer money, since she has none and I have control of the joint account, but no response, she is staying with her mother locally. I do not want a divorce, and i dont know what to do since she has shut down any communication.
2007-06-11 05:33:01 · 8 answers · asked by Bill D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We have both talked to our Pastor, He said she had not mentioned to him about any attorneys. She did ask him what she should do, he told her she needs to tell me why she is leaving. He said neither of us were fabricating any stories, we both had the same things to say. The pastor also mentioned it was kind of piddly, its not like someone is cheating, drinking, drugging, or beating someone up. Mother sent me a card saying she was very sad, but would be praying for us.
2007-06-11 05:53:55 · update #1
Is this the whole story? To weird for a Christian women to leave like this, unless she was looking for any excuse that she could. There has to be more to it.........
The fact that she asked her Pastor what she should do is a good sign. Your Pastor's reply concerns me though, for two reasons. First, he told her that she should tell you why she's leaving, so maybe you don't know the whole story yet. Second, I don't like that advice, he should be telling her why she should be staying.
She God's property and she's not following God's will by getting a divorse. Mathew 5:32-33 and 1 Corinthians chapters 4 and 7 should be brought to her attention by him. In the meantime you need to pray and ask others to pray for you and her. Use this time to get close to God and put her in God's hands. Trusting in God is always the best thing, especially in times of trouble.
2007-06-11 05:42:13 · answer #1 · answered by Phil 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should think about your options especially if it was so easy for her to walk out like that. for better or for worse-if a small argument about money had this as an end result then maybe she was just using this excuse to leave rather than giving you the real reason-If she says you should have seen this coming and she won't tell you anything else or explain her side then may be she's keeping something from you. Just because you locked the door that doesn't tell someone that you don't love them- it says I'm upset you need to leave me alone for a while while i cool off-I'll talk to you then-if she bails out like that then there's more to the story then she's letting on.
2007-06-11 05:46:11 · answer #2 · answered by EspysMom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak with your pastor immediately. Ask him to act as a mediator between the two of you. Once he is able to open a channel of communication, you can get at the real root of the problem. It sounds to me like your wife wanted out anyway. What you have to do now is find out why. Good luck
2007-06-11 05:47:57 · answer #3 · answered by John Timothy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have a sensitive person with fragile emotions.
Perhaps you are also a bit too sensitive..
What does the word forgiveness mean to you? Could you walk across and speak to your wife.
forget the words she has used focus on her emotions and win her back.
can you send her a card
tell the pastor how much it hurts to you and you have empathy for her hurt feelings
cheers God be with you both
2007-06-11 06:05:31 · answer #4 · answered by emmy d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your pastor, so he can see your side of the story and hers, and ask him for advice, I doubt she decided to get a divorce overnight it might of been quite a while thats shes been thinking about one and just waited for a fight to tell you.
2007-06-11 05:43:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call your Pastor to discuss what happened. Maybe your Pastor can help intervene.
2007-06-11 05:39:02 · answer #6 · answered by I do 26.2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you my friend, My wife did kinda the same thing to me. Except she filed for divorce. She won't respond to me anymore.She has cut me out of her life completley.Its hard being the one that was left.
2007-06-11 05:43:09 · answer #7 · answered by Rodger M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Would God want you unhappy.
She wants out, so let her out of the marriage.
Just live your life and be happy.
You have done nothing wrong so end it and learn to not marry again.
2007-06-11 06:11:15 · answer #8 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋