Marriage & Divorce - 11 June 2007

I just seperated from a woman that I have been with for more than a year. But, I have known her for more than 3 years now. 6 Months ago she told me she was married but we would always be together either on the phone or physically. So I never questioned if she was or not.

Her husband found out about me because her phone rang and I picked up the phone a few months back. He didn't say anything to me, he wasn't upset nor shocked. But, now he is trying to win her back.

She told me the scary thing about their marriage is that she just stopped loving him and she doesn't know the reason why. It just stopped! Luckily there are no kids involved and they have been married for 3 years. She stopped loving him a year after that but they have known each other for so many years.

before all this, I send her flowers every week, write her letters, and talk to her about anything. But, now she needed some time to think and I decided to back away for a very long time!

2007-06-11 11:54:17 · 40 answers · asked by Cerealkiller 2

my wife and i have been married for 3 years now. she is disabled and no longer gets her money from the government because of the marriage. this makes it very difficult to pay the bills and put a little away for a rainy day.we have a thirteen year old boy and would like to be able to take him places and do things as a family but the money is too tight to be able to plan anything like this...we're talking about getting a divorce so we can get her money back. what is the best route to go remembering there's not much money to fork over for this situation..........please give input

2007-06-11 11:52:07 · 2 answers · asked by garyc1970 2

2007-06-11 11:39:09 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband cheated on me about a year ago. I forgave him coz i didnt want to hurt myself by holding a grudge. It has taken me this long to make the decision to divorce him. I guess i just don't trust him. More than that i do not feel secure in our marriage becoz he put my life at risk when he had unprotected sex with her. And he still insisted on not using a condom for our greater intimacy even after the affair. Luckily we had always used condoms becoz i was not ready for kids. I'm in my 20s. i lost some respect for him. I just cannot see this man as the father of my future kids. So i decided divorce would be best for both of us, coz he can find someone to start fresh with. And i can find the man I'm truly passionate about whom i respect, admire and love. But it's so hard! I've told him about my decision, and he broke down. He said he won't get the chance to make it up to me now. We were both crying. I feel I'm losing my best friend and my husband!

2007-06-11 11:35:49 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

Personally I don't feel that way, I think there are more important things to marriage than sex,

2007-06-11 11:31:05 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

I love my wife dearly! However, whenever I even touch her breasts, she says they hurt, and pushes me away. If I try to gently rub her lower region, she pushes me away sometimes, saying I am too rough, but I cannot be any softer. I just don't know what to do, I have talked to her, and she just seem to think I need to be gentler, but I am being as gentle as I can, and I happen to like rough, and wild sex, so even though our sex is great ( no sex is bad) It isn't what I desire I guess. Looking for sex elsewhere is NOT an option, I am not like that, I am faithful, I just would like some of my desires met. Am I wrong for asking this? I just kinda feel let down in the sex department sometimes you know? The only thing we do is just the old in out in out, and maybe sometimes I can orally please her, yet I rarely ever get orally pleased myself. I think about her before myself, and I try to please her, but can't I have needs also, and how do I go about it? Thanks everyone

2007-06-11 11:22:44 · 25 answers · asked by ironman 2

husbund does not want me to hang out with her. They used to be friends so he know how she is. I don't do what she does, we just go to the clubs together maybe once amonth. Im my own person and I know what I can or should'nt do when im out. He does't mind when I go out with other girls to the club so why does he not want me to go out with her.

2007-06-11 11:18:23 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

they want gender equality but when it comes to making money, they are horrible at it and expect the "man" to support them. Why don't women admit that gender equality is a myth ? If you all are so independent then be responsible for half your crap.
(oh and please show your immaturity with negative comments..it helps build my case)

2007-06-11 10:51:55 · 23 answers · asked by twarner81 1

My friend has been faithfully married for 20 years, despite her husband 's frequent neglect and careless treatment. Recently, she had a brief emotional affair with another man. Of course, her husband found out. They are working now to rebuild their marriage. But she tells me that now he watches absolutely everything she does, checking her phone records, insisting on reading all emails, keeping close record on where she is at all times. Even though she can sympathize with him, she is going mad with the lack of privacy. Suggestions from anyone who has gone through this on how she can deal with this?
Also, he continually confronts her about whether she is still in love with the other man. She does still love him, but that relationship is over, and she is working steadily at her marriage. How to set her husband's mind at ease without tearing her heart apart any further?

2007-06-11 10:23:43 · 16 answers · asked by heaven eyes 2

My husband is very insecure, every time I hang out with my friends he thinks that I'm going to meet with another man. I love him very much and have never cheated on him. I was in my previous relationship for 6 years and I think he feels threatened by that. I think we have gotten past the point that he thinks I still want to be with my ex. Once I broke it off with my ex I had no intentions of getting back with him...he still doesn't believe it. Now everything I do, which could be as simple as going to the dentist gets him all suspicious about whether I'm with someone. I have always been truthful, faithful and open with my husband, it really upsets me that he's constantly accusing me of things that I have no thoughts/intention of doing. Please help me out!!!

2007-06-11 10:17:46 · 15 answers · asked by flakka 1

after being married for 8 month one night she left its been 4 months now we been meeting and talking about getting back together even took her away on hoilday for a 1st anniversary she never eva gave me a strate answer why she left.......a few weeks ago 1 of my mates sin her at this party with this bloke i asked her about it she said it was just a gay mate. i spoke to her old boss aswell because she lost her job 2 weeks before she left i found out she was sleeping with 1 of her clients at work !!!! and now iv found out that she been living with him all a long she went to his on the night she left and now i dont know what to do?? i love her so much but she still wont admit whats really going on!!!!! can anybody tell me what she is playing at????

2007-06-11 10:05:14 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

My daughters Father, whom I have been apart from for almost 2 years gave me a poem this morning that implied he was miserable w/o me and wants me back. We had a very messy break up in which he burned me and every one in my family. But I still love him and would love to have my family back. Only thing is how do you restart something like that? I don't want to confuse our daughter so...does anyone have any input on making it work after it's been severly broken? Do marriage counsellors work?

2007-06-11 09:45:25 · 28 answers · asked by anjilla_kohl 2

2007-06-11 09:44:16 · 19 answers · asked by Scoupers 2

My husband and I were married a month ago. We had lived together for 18months before the wedding and our sex life was okay 2-3 times a week. But since we got married it has been incredible. Every night and sometimes in the afternon. He will come home earily from work just to have sex. I am not complaining at all---I love it. But why is it like this now? and is it going to last? We also have been trying all these new positions and watching porn and using sex toys. It is like a dream come true, I married the best sex of my life!

2007-06-11 09:43:25 · 21 answers · asked by Uhg....... 3

Before I married my now ex husband, we both had children from our first marriages. We had a daughter together. All the kids go with my ex at the weekends. Yesterday after the kids were dropped off, my 6 yr old daughter told me that daddy had been really mean to my son all weekend. Apparently my son was sitting in my daughter's spot on the sofa and my ex told him to move. My son ignored him (is diagnosed as oppositional defiant and is ADHD). My ex grabbed him by the ear and dragged him across the floor. Another incident occured when they were at the mall. My ex's fiancee put a quarter in one of those toy machines where you try to grab a toy. She was doing this for her son but my son jumped in and pressed the button. My ex husband immediately slapped my son across the face twice. I am livid about this. I told my son that he is not going with his stepfather any more but mys on is really upset about this and insists he wants to go. Should I insist he stay home with me?

2007-06-11 09:41:15 · 42 answers · asked by MO 1

I was with my HS sweety for 9 years before we decided to get married. 6 years later, she left me for another man, We got divorced 1 year later. We had no kids, a good life, we did lots of things together, I was never a couch potatoe, and here I am 10 years after the divorce, and finding out that I can't trust
a single woman on the planet. I have tried to 'love' again, but my heart just wont let me. Will this ever go away?

2007-06-11 09:40:09 · 39 answers · asked by -R 4

Do you think young couples who marry are MORE likely to get divorced??

2007-06-11 09:27:09 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-06-11 09:26:03 · 21 answers · asked by sepatterson32 1

My wife and I are going to have a baby soon and she thinks we should start putting money away for his education. We both have lucrative careers, but I don't agree with the idea. I worked my way through college and med school and feel like I appreciate it more having worked for it. I don't want my children to go without, and they won't, but I don't feel the need to pay for their educations in the future. Is this selfish, or does anyone else agree with me?

2007-06-11 09:16:45 · 11 answers · asked by Yogi 6

he goes out and spends money on rediculous things such as rentals from Blockbuster and Junk food when really we can put that money to better use. What can I do?

2007-06-11 09:14:55 · 11 answers · asked by raemom05 2

We have seen several counselors about this and other issues in our relationship,and he goes along,but blows off their advice to him concerning areas he must work on.We are financially 'ok',not poor,nor wealthy,but when it comes to him spending any money,he is a miser.I have to 'ask' for everything,and 99% of the time get told 'no'.So,I have to sneak behind his back to get necessities for us,even underwear from Walmart.Im tired of the sneaking part,I just want him to give in,and say 'yes' once in awhile,show some support of the home,etc....My kids are grown,so its only us two.My income goes towards bills,but some has to be used to supplement where he refuses to budge.His income is used for bills,and such too,but he only allows me to spend $75 for 2 weeks grocerys,so I supplement from my stash.

2007-06-11 08:57:40 · 13 answers · asked by ms ellimae 2

My dad and his almost wife Paige are gettin' married. I'm really nervous because last time my dad got married,it didn't work out and they got devorsed. I'm afraid that Paige won't be the right girl and they'll get devorsed,too. This is a sticky situation for me. I'm the flower girl in their wedding and my dress is the cutest little thing I have seen. I'm really excited that we get to keep it!(I think we'll get to keep it,and if we do,I wanna bring it home w/me!) NE ways,I need advice! I'm scared!

2007-06-11 08:56:24 · 3 answers · asked by grace_hansen_2015 2

That marriage is 50/50? Shouldn't it be 100/100? thoughts?

2007-06-11 08:54:50 · 15 answers · asked by juda75 3

I have been working for this company for a year now, and I really enjoy it alot. I get along with everybody like a family. The problem is that it is a 45 minute drive, and I have requested a raise, and it has not been granted. I know that several of my collegues did get raises, and I did not. My performance is good, I think, and everyone always tell me that I do a great job. My financial situation is tight, and I really need to bring home more money. I have 2 kids, and my husband already works overtime. I got the heads up on a possible job 10 minutes from my home, and I don't know whether or not to go for it. I would not quit one job, unless i have another, but I really need a raise, and I really like this job. What should I do?

2007-06-11 08:50:39 · 17 answers · asked by ACE Tx 1

I kind of saw this question a bit late. If you are a catholic and you are looking for one. its one of the most difficult things.

As what Mr. Vijay mentioned legally irrespective of the Church Anulling a marriage only a Divorce through a court is valid.

But keeping the religions sentiments which many of us in India are bound to, to have the second marriage recognised by the church: below is how it goes -

Catholism kind of preaches against Divorces and its only Annulment that takes place. For this you would need to go to the local Bishop Palace / Archdioce and meet the Church's Judicial Vicar, present your case. Once the Judicial Vicar accepts your case you and your spouse would be put before the Church's panel and cross questioned, there would be arguements, submission of evidences and after this the Legal team of the Church investigates and only if convinced gives a decree of annulment.

Now this rarely takes place unless Adultry is proved and which is next to impossible!!

2007-06-11 08:44:12 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ive been in a relationship for almost 3 years now. We have alot of strong feelings for eachother but lately we have been arguing non stop. So we have decided to "take a break". We are still going to communicate but just not see eachother since it always seems to turn in to a fight. Even though this was my idea, i feel a bit abandoned. Even though he is on my very last nerve i dont want to be apart from him. Do breaks really work? I really dont know what can be accomplished other than just cooling off. The problems will be there when we get back, if we get back. Please understand this is a serious (adult) relationship, we have been through alot together and have really stuck by eachother and we had planned on eventually getting married. But does this break really mean we are at the end?

2007-06-11 08:42:39 · 48 answers · asked by persian princess 2

Women seem to always want more out of ther men for no other reason than they want it.
However, men seem to be bending over backwards to try and make their women happy.
Sex seems to be something men want, but when asked how to increase the sex men are told to be more romantic. This answer seems to tell men to buy sex with romance. Like usual woman give bad advice about relationship. Women seem to try to constently inprove their standing, but what their spouse is willing to do for them. This makes me think women may be very good at sexual economics, but completely heatless when it comes to romance.
Romance should be given freely, just like sex and to put restiction on like women do is just wrong.
What are your thoughts?

2007-06-11 08:22:45 · 5 answers · asked by snack_daddy10 6

why is it that if a girl cheats on a guy it must be cuz hes doin her wrong or he's a jerk but if a guy cheats on a girl he's a dog ..its never that the girl's a B I T C H and probly deserves it..
and more girls cheat on guys than guys cheat on girls so why do we get the blame for everything?

2007-06-11 08:21:19 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

This question is for men only...

Men..if you're in a serious relationship...either with a girl-friend or wife...and you found out they had cheated on you and lied to you about it...would you end the relationship and choose to never talk to that person again. or would you still want to be friends with that person?

2007-06-11 08:14:47 · 26 answers · asked by Ray Dog 1

i married my best friend after 5 years (?!!).I sold my house & we bought 1 together.I put 90% of my money in it & paid off our debts..a tidy sum. He contributed " 0 ", not even a stick of furniture..but iwas v. happy My dream of travelling RTW became a reality, after 1 year of marriage we sold up & went. obsessed with climate change & politics, he became obsessive and depressive,writing a book : 95% of worlds population would die in man made catastrophic series of events 15-20 years from now. The further we travelled from home the weirder he got, manipulating and destroying all my self-confidence blaming me always for ..well every negativty.4 wks before we came home he left me. In the Uk he blamed the breakdown from my mistrust of him in all things, meanwhile stealing most of the £ & refused to return my belongings stored @ his dads.A year on i learn he cheated on me, several times with MEN.Am penniless,an emotional wreck, payin stupid money in rent ...what the hell do i do next??:

2007-06-11 08:00:05 · 6 answers · asked by pichu 1