Why do women have double standards ?

Question

they want gender equality but when it comes to making money, they are horrible at it and expect the "man" to support them. Why don't women admit that gender equality is a myth ? If you all are so independent then be responsible for half your crap.
(oh and please show your immaturity with negative comments..it helps build my case)

Answer 1

Why are you so bitter?

Answer 2

I just read your question and most of the answers that were given and i must say we have quite a conundrum. On the one hand some say we are weaker and need a man to take care of us and on the other hand we have some who say we don't need a man to take care of us. I say why is this even a problem. We (women) do what we do because the male ego is so fragile that the mere thought of an independent woman makes some men want to shrivel up and whither away and we women know that so, we give the appearance of a little neediness while at the same time taking care of ourselves our children and the household all at the same time.

We want and get equality most or all of the time simply because we demand it, but what woman wants to be the strong, responsible one in a relationship or marriage all of the time? We want to be taken care of sometimes too, just like anyone. We are stronger because we have to be. Breadwinning just happens to be one of the many hats we have to wear. If you don't like it, tough. As far as support we should be able to support each other equally and if someone feels he or she is doing more than thier fair share then they need to speak up and not hold it in simply because they will feel taken advantage of and it will breed resentment.

One more thing. You may want to start dating a different class of women because you do sound more than a little bitter. Hope this helps.

Answer 3

I agree with you to some extent. It is one thing to want to be treated equally, but there are women out there who expect more than their equal share. You have to understand that not all women are the same. Some women do pull their own weight, while others expect the man to pay for everything every time they go out. They even expect men to financially support them and buy them things. Unless you have a marriage and both agree that the wife stays home to take care of the children until they are old enough to go to school, both should be responsible for half their crap. It was different long time ago because women weren't allowed to work and therefore had no choice but to rely on the man for anything and everything. Things are different now and women can earn a good living and can be an equal partner in everything. That means paying for their share. My advice to you if you are single and are tired of having to fork out for dates all the time, start looking elsewhere for women who are independent. They are out there and are responsible for their own crap and will even insist on paying for half.

Answer 4

It's not a realistic generalization...there are people of both genders that "expect" their spouse or gf/bf to support them. I'm a married woman in a doctorate program and am planning on retiring my husband as soon as my practice is up and running. Does that sound like I'm whining about gender equality? Sounds like you've been wronged a few times...maybe go find yourself an ambitious, independant partner that doesn't mind doing some footwork...and can support themselves. There are a few of us out here

And to address what the guy above me said...we aren't "week"-er than men. Most of us are properly educated and can spell simple words, which will make it much easier for us to access rewarding jobs. Can you say the same, Mr. Hotshot?

Answer 5

This is quite the sweeping generalization.

I make more than my man. I also do the bills every month because he's admittedly bad with remembering to pay them on time.

We were living independent for awhile. I was completely able to support myself and wanted to move into my own place after I moved out of my parents' house. My boyfriend convinced me to move in with him. But we still kept our finances separate. We did not combine finances until about a year ago, and we did this to pool our money to pay off collective debt. It was a mutual decision, not one based on desperation, dependency, or need.

I don't think financial responsibility can be broken down by gender. I've known both men and women who are bad with money.

As for financial independence reflecting on the feminist ideal of gender equality, I don't think the correlation is quite accurate. There are simply some women who don't want to be independent and/or some men who want to support their women.

Furthermore, not every woman is a feminist, and not every feminist comes from the same subdivision of feminism.

Answer 6

You seem to have had a really bad experience with a woman who was insecure or who couldn't take care of herself. I agree with you about double standards, it isn't fair to want equality and expect someone else to take care of you.
Personally, I believe all people have their own unique talents. Some are good at making money (men and women), some are great at raising kids (men and women) and some are wonderful artisans (men and women). The key is not to generalize. Not all women expect men to support them and there are men who would really rather stay home with the kids than be CEOs.
Equality is a myth in general because we are all so different in our beliefs, backgrounds and standards. No one person or gender is better than another. I hope you find someone more compatible with your beliefs. Good luck.
Signed,
A truely independent woman.

Answer 7

a lack of gender equality is the reason why women are "horrible" at making money, right out of college a woman will make 10% less then her equal male counterpart, 10 years later, that difference has risen to a 60% pay deficiency, just because she is female, women are the ones with a double standard?

Answer 8

Maybe they only expect a man to "support" them because they have been raised a particular way where they saw their father financially supporting their mother... it sometimes depends to how they were reared as a child.

And gender equality is most certainly NOT a myth. And you sound like a masculinist (er, for a better lack of a term for the opposit of "feminist") =P <== there, no immaturity here bro' I gave you a tongue face.

Answer 9

Have you lost your mind. Read your question you need to be open minded you see the women on one side and men on the other. The right person for the job at the same pay. As fare as a man supporting his wife, well they are a team and there are many woman who do very well making money.

Answer 10

I'm not going to be negative I'm just going to say that well I made more than my husband but after having kids and him joining the Military I had to give that job up to raise our 3 girls and move every 2-4 years......I don't need for him to support me I can do that myself... BUT....in order for him to stay in the Military I cant go back to my high paying job.....so I guess that means he has to support me and our kids until we are settled and no longer moving around so I can go back to working....sounds like you have been F**KED over one to many times but you don't have to lump us all into one category.....and one more thing you sound very negative and immature...what does that say about you? I rest my case

Answer 11

Women have a tendency to have a double standard because they are not arguing a logical argument, but rather an emotional argument.

Yes, you are right they want to be equals and taken care of at the same time.

The emotional side translates to "I can only be weak with someone as strong as me." The reason of why they have to be weak isn't answered, but I would guess it has something to do with self image of femininity. To be feminine is to be needy, but women want to be with their equal. I guess is has something to do with being with someone who will keep them striving to be the best person they can be.

So you are right logically, its still an emotional argument.