i married my best friend after 5 years (?!!).I sold my house & we bought 1 together.I put 90% of my money in it & paid off our debts..a tidy sum. He contributed " 0 ", not even a stick of furniture..but iwas v. happy My dream of travelling RTW became a reality, after 1 year of marriage we sold up & went. obsessed with climate change & politics, he became obsessive and depressive,writing a book : 95% of worlds population would die in man made catastrophic series of events 15-20 years from now. The further we travelled from home the weirder he got, manipulating and destroying all my self-confidence blaming me always for ..well every negativty.4 wks before we came home he left me. In the Uk he blamed the breakdown from my mistrust of him in all things, meanwhile stealing most of the £ & refused to return my belongings stored @ his dads.A year on i learn he cheated on me, several times with MEN.Am penniless,an emotional wreck, payin stupid money in rent ...what the hell do i do next??:
2007-06-11 08:00:05 · 6 answers · asked by pichu 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Move on and learn from this. Never tie your money into something even with someone you love until your sure it will work. I know you didn't see this coming, but when someone will not put a penny into something for the sake of a marriage, you can almost bet they are using you. Been there and was stupid to believe in someone who I thought loved me. I was homeless for a few months(staying with my kids), but got back on my feet and doing okay. You can bet no one will ever do me this way again. Believe in yourself.
2007-06-11 16:57:30 · answer #1 · answered by Krinta 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The one thing you do is thank God that you're out of this relationship. You don't mention children, so I assume there are none. If that's true, thank God again for making this a clean break. You don't ever have to deal with this bum again. You can recover from your financial losses and you can regain your self-confidence. You married the wrong man. That's all there is to it. It happens a hundred or more times a day, that a woman marries the wrong man. Accept this reality and start getting your life back together.
Paying rent isn't the worse thing in the world. It doesn't take away from who you are. Pay the stupid rent and continue to get yourself together. Start looking and acting like the beautiful person you are (and I know you are a beautiful person), and put the past behind you. You may be penniless and an emotional wreck, but you're free of him and that's worth at least something! Sorry you had to deal with this crap, but it happens to the best of us.
2007-06-11 08:15:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what to tell you about the financial mess you are in. When you got married you guys became as one so you did it to yourself(s). That is not meant to be mean, just true. The thing that has helped me most is not finding another relationship and keeping to myself. I found that I had quite a bit of discovering myself was necessary. If you cannot be happy being all alone with yourself, you will never be completely happy with anyone else either. I won't try to give you advise but I would like to suggest that you spend a little time with yourself in self exploration. An example of why follows: would you give someone a gun without making certain that they knew all about how to use it? Well, would you give yourself to someone else without even knowing how to use yourself? Good luck.
P.S. you might want to look into the kind of person you fell in love with. he couldn't have changed that much and you not have had clues as to WHO he REALLY was to begin with.
2007-06-11 08:24:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce would be the only option in my opinion. You should not deal with any of this. If you do not have much money, then seek out financial aid attorneys. I used one in a custody battle. He is a family friend now, no longer practicing law. He was fresh out of law school and he won my very long, horrible case. He was not seasoned, but very eager, and willing to do the work.
2007-06-11 08:11:25 · answer #4 · answered by Ivy_Woman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure this is your life or are you just reading a book my mate?
what can i say? better he has gone with a man, than with another woman. Don't blame yourself, put your shoes on, and continiou walking your next chapter.
you will find a better man, a man that will show he is a man, he will have something that shows the MALE EGO
2007-06-11 08:06:25 · answer #5 · answered by Spark S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should write a book.
2007-06-11 08:04:25 · answer #6 · answered by boohoo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋