Why do so many say?

Question

That marriage is 50/50? Shouldn't it be 100/100? thoughts?

Let me clarify if you are giving 50% of yourself to your marriage than aren't giving half of what you have to offer to your spouse. If you are giving 100% than you are giving everything....just as if they are giving 100% they are giving everything they have to offer?

Answer 1

When you marry.... as most people in these forums don't seem to understand.. or cannot grasp the concept....

Your husband or wife should be the Most Precious person in your life. Both spouses (if they view their partner this way) will automatically contribute 100%.

100% of consideration, respect, love, etc..

Answer 2

Sure you are right in a sense. Lets think of it this way. If you use the 50/50 then you and your husband share the work equally. Now lets say the dishes need to be done, YOU do 100% of the dishes, what percentage is left for him to help you do? 50/50 works out to complete 100% of the tasks that are at hand. You should both equally contribute to the marriage, but to expect one person to provide 100% of everything is unfair. Another way of looking at that is, you perform 100% of the inside household chores he performs 100% of the yard work, together you each contributed half to get all of the chores done. Does that make sense?

Answer 3

My education is my own.
My career is my own.
My choices are my own.
There are many things in this world that even though I'm married that are my own.
To give 100% to a marriage is silly and stupid, because first we have to ourselves. Its only from the strength of who each of us are that we are capable to give to others.
Think people and links in a chain and marriage as the fact they are linked together. If one person has the strength of character of steel that would seem like a good chain, but what if the other had the strength of lead. One simple twist or yank against that chain and the weaker link would break and with it the chain would be gone. So in the end by making sure the individual links strong you make the chain even stronger.
As for everything connected to the marriage being 50/50 that means you may not be fully responsible, but you are are still in part responsible for everything.

Answer 4

50 + 50 makes 100%

Answer 5

My folks hit me with that sort of garbage when I was going through a divorce. They said that each person had to give 70% so that overall it was over 100% and that is what makes it work. In my folks caes they needed 140% to survive each other. Mine would not have survived if I put in 200%. Second marriage and 50 50 works fine.

Answer 6

If you put 100% in your marriage you would not have time for anything else . a marriage of 50/50 is a good thing . you need time for yourself and friends too .

Answer 7

I completely agree.

And for those who don't understand, each couple should be putting in 100% to the relationship, not worrying about it being exactly equal. Putting in 100% doesn't mean neglecting yourself and your own interests; it simply means you're giving it your best effort.

Answer 8

You are right, couples should put 100% into there marriage. I am but my marriage still isnt working out too well. But that is very true never thought about it though.

Answer 9

because when you marry the two become one. therefore it can never be more than 100 total. 50/50 is great but you women want your 50 to be about 75.

Answer 10

110%......

Always try to go above and beyond for your partner NO MATTER what you think they are or aren't doing......


....any other way just causes resentments and problems...once you start keeping score, you'll always feel "short-changed".....

You married people (well, SOME of you) have no idea what your marriage vows even meant. Better or worse means just that! If things are worse and your partner starts dropping the ball, YOU STILL HAVE TO GIVE YOUR ALL!!! YOU PROMISED TO!!!!