my insecure husband constantly thinks I'm going to cheat?

Question

My husband is very insecure, every time I hang out with my friends he thinks that I'm going to meet with another man. I love him very much and have never cheated on him. I was in my previous relationship for 6 years and I think he feels threatened by that. I think we have gotten past the point that he thinks I still want to be with my ex. Once I broke it off with my ex I had no intentions of getting back with him...he still doesn't believe it. Now everything I do, which could be as simple as going to the dentist gets him all suspicious about whether I'm with someone. I have always been truthful, faithful and open with my husband, it really upsets me that he's constantly accusing me of things that I have no thoughts/intention of doing. Please help me out!!!

Answer 1

I understand how you feel. My husband use to be the same way. I finally told him that if I wanted someone else I wouldn't have married him. He got over the insecurity and realized he was all I wanted. Hopefully he will see that you love him and only want to be with him. Good luck.

Answer 2

I would say just tell him if he cant trust you then things aren't going to work out, because they wont you have to be able to get out of his sight sometimes. He should trust you, unless you have given him a reason not to, and you stated that you haven't. Or maybe he is cheating or has cheated and thinks that if he accuses you of cheating then you wont think he is. I think you should talk to him about this situation and tell him he is going to have to trust you.

I know what you are going through my husband used to be the same way, but I guess it wore off with time.


Good Luck!

Answer 3

Let him know that his insecurity will be the death of your relationship. Tell him that you never even contemplate cheating.

I'd be awfully suspicious of him cheating though. Usually the accusers end up being the accused. They worry that you will cheat because they've cheated.

Answer 4

I have been exactly where you are at. My husband went through my cell bill, timed my ride to work and basically drove me up a freakn tree with his constant belief that I was out there doing something. It almost broke us up. It wasn't until I had enough and told him that I was done with the relationship because I couldn't live that way that he wised up. You just have to lay it on the line with your husband.

Answer 5

People who always accuse their partner of cheating are often the ones who are doing the cheating. Cheating is something on their minds because that is what they have been doing. So they talk about what is on their minds. They use this clever little technique to always keep you focused on defending yourself instead of noticing what they have been up to themselves.

Answer 6

He needs counseling (both of you, probably) to deal with his insecurity. And they always say (whoever "they" are) that if your bf/gf/spouse is suspicious of you cheating, it could be that they're paranoid you will find out they have been...is this a possibility?

Answer 7

Sit him down and simply say " You know your going to drive me to cheat on you if you keep accusing me .Stop inventing my life " . If he doesn't understand the plain logic behind that then I feel for you and good luck

Answer 8

Tell him to either get secure or get a new wife. Part of marriage is trust. He's acting like a damned baby.

Answer 9

Lots of times, a man who is preoccupied with what you MIGHT do is concerned that you're capable of what HE is capable of.

In other words, a man who always accuses YOU of cheating is probably cheating ON you.

-Faith

Answer 10

Your husband has self esteem issues. He things every other guy out there is better then him. He needs to see a shrink.