husbund does not want me to hang out with her. They used to be friends so he know how she is. I don't do what she does, we just go to the clubs together maybe once amonth. Im my own person and I know what I can or should'nt do when im out. He does't mind when I go out with other girls to the club so why does he not want me to go out with her.
2007-06-11 11:18:23 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He just does not want me to hang out with her no matter where we hang go.
I don't want to give him the power over me and what I should do.
2007-06-11 12:02:28 · update #1
Well it seems pretty obvious to me why your husband feels the way he does. It doesn't seem like it's really a trust issue or your husband would be really giving you the 3rd. degree. He is just concerned about you and you being influenced as one of the other answers you got on here. Would you like for your husband to hang out with another guy who wants to go to nudy bars? I don't think that you would. It is my opinion that married women do not have any business going out to parties but out for a drink or two is ok. I also do not think that it is good for a married man to go to nudy bars or topless bars I guess is the better term. I got married to be with my wife. And in turn my wife married me to be with me. I have never understood why married men or women find it important to "hang out" in bars with their friends. Having friends and spending time with them is fine, but why at a bar? I just don't get it. Just my opinion.
2007-06-11 11:32:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your husband is just looking out for you. Sometimes when you hang out with someone who has a certain reputation, others may assume you are the same. If you are hanging out in clubs, you may end up in a situation you don't want to be in. I am not meaning you would do anything, but someone else could try. If you still want to be her friend maybe find somewhere else to hang out instead of the clubs either that or go with other people as well.
2007-06-11 18:27:42 · answer #2 · answered by CARM 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there could be a lot of reasons, but apparently she is not the right kind of person to be around and friends of a feather flock together and your husband is probably trying to protect your image as his wife and as a woman. You should not want to be around a woman who is promiscuous because others will automatically put you in that category and not to say do not hang with her but maybe find other things that you two can do together. There are more mature and professional things to do then just the club, museums, movies, hiking, real friends have other things they can do.
2007-06-11 18:23:46 · answer #3 · answered by karamelchem_1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it seems that your husband is worried that this particular person will have very negative effects on you. i know you have your own mind and can think for yourself...BUT, when alcohol and partying get into the mix all bets are off. Its very easy to be convinced into doing something you wouldnt normally do when you're under the influence. Your husband just wants to make sure you're surrounding yourself with positive people with good morals. if you husband used to be friends with her then he know what he's talking about and you should take what he is saying seriously. if she's is that type of person that im picturing, you dont want to associate yourself with her anyways because you might not be like her but to the outside public your guilty by association. thats what you need to be careful of...rumors being spread about you because of who you party with.
2007-06-11 18:25:01 · answer #4 · answered by j t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I think you should honor your husband wishes, if he doesn't want you hanging out with this girl, I don't think you should. And his reasons are valid. Second, you are a married woman and you should really not be going to clubs and hanging out with a partier.
2007-06-11 19:19:04 · answer #5 · answered by Annie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He know she is a bad influence on you.
I have friends that are a bad influence on me and choose NOT to see them, because I know I'm more likely to be stupid around them.
2007-06-11 18:44:57 · answer #6 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope they never had anything going on.
But, personally, I wouldn't even let my husband tell me who I can hang out with. It would be totally my decison to stop hanging out with her. What's next?
2007-06-11 18:23:41 · answer #7 · answered by BossLady 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its possible he feels like she may influence you or men will think you are like her because you are with her. Regardless you need to talk to him about this.
2007-06-11 18:21:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋