after being married for 8 month one night she left its been 4 months now we been meeting and talking about getting back together even took her away on hoilday for a 1st anniversary she never eva gave me a strate answer why she left.......a few weeks ago 1 of my mates sin her at this party with this bloke i asked her about it she said it was just a gay mate. i spoke to her old boss aswell because she lost her job 2 weeks before she left i found out she was sleeping with 1 of her clients at work !!!! and now iv found out that she been living with him all a long she went to his on the night she left and now i dont know what to do?? i love her so much but she still wont admit whats really going on!!!!! can anybody tell me what she is playing at????
2007-06-11 10:05:14 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
this bloke is 36 my wife is 21 hes got a nice car big house and a good job is she just with him for his cash???
2007-06-11 11:05:50 · update #1
I think she was too young and never had enough of looking around. My son is 19 and has been with the same girl since they were 14- i worry that he hasn't had a youth- he hasn't done the things young men should be doing and i know he feels trapped somedays but he loves her and doesn't want to hurt her. It seems to me that your wife felt the same and once realised that she hadn't looked around and had some fun and leaving you was the way to do it. She hasn't given you an answer because she's leaving her options open- when shes finished playing she can come home- if you are still there!!
2007-06-11 10:16:46 · answer #1 · answered by Ellie 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I got married at 20 myself and have now been married for 2 years. We're not what you'd call childhood sweethearts as he is older. . . However, I would not be surprised if she was just terrified of missing out on life and experiences so in a panic she is grabbing all she can. If this is the case, then maybe she will come back - only you can decide though if you still want her! Good luck. . .
2007-06-11 10:36:07 · answer #2 · answered by c_landy85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesnt deserve you and probably never did. She has hurt you badly and in the worst possible way. How can anyone be to hurtful I dont know but you are the better person here and she will be the loser. You have to pick up the pieces of your life and move on you are better off without her however much that hurts right now I so feel for you. She has lied and cheated not a nice person. You are and you will find someone who is equally nice.
2007-06-11 10:27:50 · answer #3 · answered by Magster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is available. a pair I went to extreme college with have been given married basically over a year in the past (they have been 21). yet I informed my extreme college boyfriend that there replaced into no way we've been going to get married. We began relationship a million/2 way with the aid of grade 12. It lasted a year and a 0.5. Now i've got moved 7 hours far flung from residing house and am relationship a guy that i replaced into basically pals with in extreme college. we've been at the same time for 3 years (lived at the same time for a million.5). not engaged yet, yet quickly i'm hoping!
2016-11-10 03:32:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is gunna be so hard for you, but its the saying if you love her let her go, if she come back, and I mean really comes back to commit then its love and ment to be.
Other wise Im so sorry to hear all that but ur gunna have to get cold and drop her. Shes used to you being nice and always there for her. so show her you refuse to be used. Get a divorce too. She must be on drugs or something usless shes been like this thought out the whole 5 years of your relationship.If you can find ne proof of drugs contact the police or a intervintion center to help.
2007-06-11 10:16:49 · answer #5 · answered by corrick_1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your wife doesn't want the life she agreed to by getting married. I don't believe you are the cause of her running out. I believe she didn't realise the implication of marriage, the responsibilities and growing up.
I married a guy who I knew very well and whilst still on our honeymoon I realised I didn't want to be married. The marriage lasted 8 months.
You'll continue to get hurt if you keep on trying to get her back. As hard as it might seem you're better off without her as she will mess you around and you'll never get a straight answer from her. Don't waste your life you're still young. Good luck.
2007-06-12 01:06:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
look she is 20 years of age, she prob taught being married she was missing out on some thing, at 20. some 1 wilth a big car, big house, could be very exciting, but she is so young, she thinks that what she wants, give her some time & she will realise what she gave up. its all exciting to her now, but that does not last,and she will soon realise this. (remember everything happens 4 a reason)
2007-06-12 00:30:25 · answer #7 · answered by scooby doo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you really want her back after finding out she has been sleeping with someone else? It doesn't sound like she is interested in coming back, I am sorry to say. I would let her go. I know it's hard to hear that because you are still in love with her. It's hard to let go of your childhood sweetheart. But she is wronging you. She is playing with your heart and she doesn't seem to care what she is doing to you. Be brave and let her go. File for a divorce and move on to better things. There is someone else out there that will treat you better than that. Good luck hun and hope things work out for you!
2007-06-11 10:18:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
5 years of good time is pretty nice, people grow apart, seem like you two are growing apart too. Both of you are still young, and school life and real life are really different, so pack up your heart and go on with your life without her. when a relationship goes sour, even if you two reconciled , there will be a hidden bomb in your relationship that could explode any time. leave when it didn't gone worst and remember the sweet time you've had.
best wishes!
2007-06-11 10:23:06 · answer #9 · answered by angie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand you being in love with this woman but why are you bothering when shes hurt you so bad?And she doesnt even have the bottle to be stright with you about whats going on .How can u possibly consider getting back together if she wont be honest
2007-06-11 10:11:12 · answer #10 · answered by Alicia27 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋