2007-06-11 09:44:16 · 19 answers · asked by Scoupers 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Youre just a human being but, acting it out would cause so much problems later on in life. But, if you feel that you don't love your wife anymore then, that's that! Until then I think you need to sort of fantazise and not act on it. Remember, sex is just that...sex. It's a big deal until you get it then that's all folks!
2007-06-11 09:48:08 · answer #1 · answered by Cerealkiller 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It seems to me, after reading the threads here, that a lot of women are interested in being with another woman at some point in their lives. I will give you the same advice I give everyone. Sex is a physical expresion of an emotion. If it feels right, find a person for whom you care that much and enjoy yourself.
If your husband finds out, be ready for the request for you to "fullfil the typical male fantasy". This could lead to some very passionate and exciting times. Of course, it could also lead to some very stressful times as well. It all depends on the attitudes of you and your husband.
No matter what, if the interest and emotions are there, be true to yourself and give it a try. I would be totally supportive if this was something my wife want to try. But then most would say I am strange. LOL
2007-06-11 09:51:10 · answer #2 · answered by s1lvermidnight 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you talking about introducing a woman into your current relationship, like a threesome? I say yes, go for it!!
Or are you saying, divorcing your husband and moving in with a woman?
It depends on the relationship that you have now. If your living in a abusive relationship, then by all means, move out and move on.
But, what if it turns out to not be your cup of tea?
Only you know the answer to this.
2007-06-11 10:17:32 · answer #3 · answered by Cheryl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel this way too. I have never tried it, but discussed it with my husband, he was all for it. That doesn't surprise me now though after finding out he was already having an affair. We are seperated now. I say you should go for it. I'm glad you posted this because I have always been too scared to ask my friends if they felt the same in case they thought it was wrong. Have fun and let us know if it was as good as you fantasied.
2007-06-13 00:44:12 · answer #4 · answered by Channy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the "norm" for one relationship may not be the "norm" for another. Personally ... if I was married and my wife expressed an interest ... I would be open to it.
2007-06-11 10:52:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Curiosity" is what separates us from the 'animals.' Despite the sure to be vocal minority who will dump on you, there is nothing wrong with having a fantasy. Whether you choose to follow through is your decision, but please do not do so without having an honest and open conversation with your husband. He does not have to be 'involved' but for both your sakes, he should know what you are thinking. That's all about honesty and trust right? Is it 'normal?' Well, if you're having the thoughts, then it is normal for you. Nobody else matters. :)
2007-06-11 09:56:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not that you want to be with a woman on a intimate level. More on a help level. Men don't understand the frustrations that we as wives and mothers have. They go to work, come home and watch TV. We work, come home work, when the house is sleep still work, wake up while they are still sleep and still work, none stop. We are under appreciated and only our female friends and female family members understand. Find ways to make you happy and do more for you.
2007-06-11 10:03:33 · answer #7 · answered by sassy lady 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pretty normal. Most sociologists these days say that all women are a little bi especially compared to men. Give it a shot. The best approach is check out your local swingers club. It is as safe as it will ever get and you won't have to worry about jealousies or bruised egos.
2007-06-11 09:56:01 · answer #8 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Normal is relative. First be sure if this is just a fantasy or not. Secondly, discuss it with your husband. Too many marriages fail from dishonesty. And these days, having a wife who cheats on her husband with another man is more acceptable than cheating with another woman. Magor ego blower!
2007-06-11 09:55:19 · answer #9 · answered by beafoxx1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to feel all kinds of things, including murdering your mother-in-law, ignoring your screaming baby or running away from "home."
Sex (with a woman, with your cat, with your kid brother, with Brad Pitt) is just one of a million fantasies you will have in your life. They are fun, or disturbing and harmless.
You don't have to ACT on any of them, and in fact, they usually disappoint, and make a mess!
Sounds to me like you are bored/neglected. When did you go on a DATE with your husband? No kids, more sex toys, and lazy morning? When was the last time you took a class? Basket -weaving? Feng shui? Pilates?
After you do all that, then tell your husband your FANTASY! Let him know what you are feeling. This is good for your marriage. It is good to hear it come out in words, to someone who loves you, and thinks you are wonderful.
Most women (and men) are bi- and lean heavily one way or another. The fact that you took THIS long to entertain this idea means to me, you are not bi-enough to DO IT-you are just grasping at anything to spunk up your life.
Most girls experiment with this prior to marriage and children, when they are still searching for their comfort zone.
You will have to GIVE UP a LOT to live this out- and then what? You will find that women are just as boring and unreasonable as men are.
2007-06-11 10:14:58 · answer #10 · answered by Lottie W 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋