accurate assesmant on this situation
My ex and i can't seem to be with each other(we argue alot)
But we can't be without each other( we miss each other alot)
this is not in my mind, it true, whenever we break things off, we stay so for a while but then we call and this has been going on for about 2 yrs now.
Can anyone help with this we need some closure but not sure what we need to do. i will accept any input. please and thank you
2007-06-11 05:51:09 · 20 answers · asked by jules 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This has happened to me too. There is no arguing, but we break up every month it seems. We just broke up again...
Anyway, from my perspective this is what happens:
You meet someone. There is an attraction. You start dating. You like each other. Feelings build between you and this takes time. The sex is good - or at least there is a lot to like. You grow used to this person being in your life and you start to have thoughts of the long term. Time passes. You begin to have arguments - stupid ones, but still. You say fine! He says fine! A few days go by and you miss what you had - the good parts. You dread the thought of having to go through all of this again with someone new. He misses you - especially the sex. He calls. You cave. or You call and he caves.
It's a vicious cycle. I'm going to try and end it for myself.
Good luck!!
2007-06-11 06:00:22 · answer #1 · answered by J F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one, I have been through this before. Me and my ex argued all the time and then when we were not with each other I was sad. It's okay to argue, but not all the time like that. Maybe you both should think about what it is that you are arguing about. Is it stupid stuff, little stuff ect... Maybe try to make some changes and not get mad as much. If it continues then you probably need to break up and move on. We broke up and it was hard at first but now I am better off being with something that I don't always get into an argument with. The relationship you are in might not be as healthy as you think. Good luck.
2007-06-11 12:59:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love something let it go, if it comes back to you, it's yours, if not, it never was.
Look up the lyrics to the song: The Hardest Thing
By: 98 degrees.
I agree, if you really are tired of putting yourself through all this pain and confusion, you really need to quit cold turkey. Just stop taking calls and stop making calls. It's going to be very very hard the first couple times, but you may know in the end that it is right. Or you may just do it for a year with no connections and can't stop thinking about the person and realize you just can't live without this person for the rest of your life and the good do outweigh the bad and you do want this person in your life?!?! But if you are asking for closure, then you need to tell this person that you need time and space and you can't, go on, loving like this anymore.
2007-06-11 13:06:52 · answer #3 · answered by Cali654 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Let go of the security blanket" The only reason why you have not let go all the way is because you feel insecure about let him go. I know it is hard being alone again and not having someone in your life. But you will over come this and move forward in your life. Why do you still want to hold on to something that has caused you nothing but to fight and argue all the time your together? Bottom line if you still have feelings for him then go see a professional counselor who might be able to help both of you.
2007-06-11 13:06:44 · answer #4 · answered by angels 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah sounds like you need to live in two different places and see each other about every week or so . If you stay together its going to escalate into violence . I can see it coming ! Just enjoy each other for a few hours then get the H away!
2007-06-11 12:57:03 · answer #5 · answered by wishingstar5555 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's your ex, why do you need to be with each other? If you are trying to work things out, remember that it takes two people to argue. You don't have to participate. Just think that if you really love him, you don't have to argue about every little thing.
2007-06-11 12:55:30 · answer #6 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be better off just friends. The arguing is a strong indication that you are not compatible as a couple. Face it and move on with your lives.
2007-06-11 12:56:46 · answer #7 · answered by extra_37 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck on this one. You both need to understand that the familiar, even if painful, is still comforting on some level.
You also need to know that a relationship that gives pain is not a healthy one, and you need to separate and go your own ways, for the good of both of you.
2007-06-11 12:55:42 · answer #8 · answered by Yesugi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just because you love each other doesn't mean you belong together! life is 2 short for this drama let each other go remain good friends and get on with your lives!
2007-06-11 12:55:43 · answer #9 · answered by notyochic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to sit down and and talk things out. Find out *why* you argue so much. Something like this is not healthy.
2007-06-11 12:54:46 · answer #10 · answered by Pepper F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋