Marriage & Divorce - 25 May 2007

I have hurt my daughter in many ways - emotionally. I have not been there for her like a mother should have been.

She is 15 and I gave her Dad sole physical and legal custody during the divorce. She lives in another state.

I really don't know how to heal the relationship. She probably feels abandoned and alone since now her Dad moved away due to job reasons.

I feel very, very said when I hear other people at work talk abou how much they do for their children. She is a sweet, innocent child and did not deserve what she got in life.


I had not called her for some time. Yesterday, I spoke with her and she said its as if I don't care and not normal.

She is right that my actions are not correct. I said I was sorry and she said that was not good enough.

What can I do to heal the relationship? My ex-husband does not follow the visitation rules and is not willing to give custody to me. I live in another state.

2007-05-25 06:57:31 · 8 answers · asked by Stareyes 5

Honestly, even when I've answered a question where I didn't agree with the person, I've always been polite. Perhaps Americans are just terribly harsh? I'm Australian and wouldn't dream of saying some of the things to others that have been said to me.

2007-05-25 06:44:03 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-05-25 06:40:52 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband has a history of ACTING OUT when frustarted. He has thrown tv remote, kicked shoes across room, beat on my car dash popping out the vents,rammed office chair into desk, punched truck steering wheel repeadtly, drive recoutlessy, threw a cell phone at me while i was driving, slams doors, slammed fist down on table infront of my face, hit a plate of cookies across the room, punched in a bag of potato chips and dumped it all over my living room floor, has told me to shut up in anger, and said F** you.He is in the MARINE CORP BAND, and went to anger management in NOV of 04..I am tired of it, and last night in an arguement in the car about how to drive he slammed on the brakes in the Jeep while going down the highway AT 75MPH!!!! I have told him that in our new home I am not putting up with him and his temper, but here it is AGAIN. WHAT can I do???? Should I go to his Superior? PLEASE HELP ME, he blows off his anger as nonthing.

2007-05-25 06:39:42 · 30 answers · asked by ilih2006 1

I am 24, amrried with 2 kids. I have been trying to be happy in my marriage since we got married. I know I rushed into it and that was not at anyone benifit but what is done is done. I recently revealed to my husband that I am not happy and I don't know if I love him. I think he is a wonderful father and he genuanly tries to make me happy. We have both done major damige in the trust department and I have not been able to see past those issues as faults in our relationship. Here is the other part, I am in love with my best friend ( a man ) he and i have a conection I have never had with my husband. I see my self being happy with him. I am at odds with myself right now- do I stay and live a copesetic life where the kids are happy, or do I divorce my husband and be happy. I know I am going to get the response that I need to take time away from men and I plan to be on my own with my kids for sometime before entertaining the thought of blossoming my relationship futher with my friend. Help

2007-05-25 06:39:02 · 8 answers · asked by Sun of the Dark 1

2007-05-25 06:38:59 · 66 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-05-25 06:32:47 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

My girlfriend got married in Jamaica in 2001 and she split with her husband early last year and we got together last October, they both worked hard for the house that they bought and now they have split up. he dumped her, so is she entitled to a "normal" divorce and claim her financial side of the marriage even though they got wed in Jamaica. The marriage was organised through a reputable agency.

before people start i am not after her for her money, we have own own money and thats the way I like it.

Buit i am worried for her where she stands

All help is greatly appreciated

2007-05-25 06:23:03 · 7 answers · asked by Paul C 6

My husband and I have been together for 8 ys. I found some e-mails of his talking about sex and the past w/ this one girl form his childhood(the school slut) . I was really hurt by him talking to her "dirty". Would you feel hurt by this? Am I making a big deal about this? He has told me million time and express his love for me since. He told me he's really sorry.
The thing is this isn't the first or second it's the third time this has happened. Once before we first starting dating then when we got engaged and now. He doesn't go out and have sex but he talks about it and gets emotionally attatchd. I see it as cheating because it feels like he has betrayed me. Am I right to feel this way?
I don't think our sex life is bad it's actually quite good. If anything my drive is going strong but his seems to have lower.
I just don't know if I'm overacting or if maybe I should be more upset.
I'm more hurt then mad.
So ladies let hear your thoughts.
FYI My mother thinks I should leave

2007-05-25 06:20:48 · 25 answers · asked by blazinleti 2

is marriage a viable option? Her mom is retarded and her sister is a pretentious ***.

It's important to me to marry a girl who's family I get along with but I do love my gf.

This is tough seeing how increasingly attached they are to her. The mother calls everyday and always wants to be around/medle in our live.

The sister controls her. She has little sis syndrome and I can't really intervene. Her sister uses her, manipulates her and ditches all responsibility of the crazy mom on my gf. But she defend her pathetically so.

I hate it. I've had enough of it.

2007-05-25 06:09:24 · 20 answers · asked by 46&2 2

i love my husband,he is kind, very supportive and he loves me so much but i cheat him last year,i feel so guilty after that.am i bad girl? ofcourse i am yah ryt...

2007-05-25 06:04:03 · 22 answers · asked by valit 1

2007-05-25 06:02:03 · 19 answers · asked by william m 1

2007-05-25 06:01:49 · 14 answers · asked by tweety 1

I just got married second time. I am 42 and husband is 51, he has a 9 years old son . I work full time as a teacher, he is self employed in construction. I have no idea how much money he makes, I am on a set income. I give him $700 a month towards the $2600 house payment, other that that we have separate money that we use at own discretion. I kinda like it, but it bothers me because it doesnt' sound right. We dont' even have a joint account, and I have no idea what is our financial situation like. He doesnt like talking about "issues". and never initiate any discussions. How shoudl i approach this issue? How do other other people deal with the similar situations?

2007-05-25 05:58:06 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have a sister and she is younger than me. she is my only sister and I don't have any brothers. She was raised up correctly by my mother . When she got married , she cheated on her husband after maybe 2 to 3 years. I knew she realy ment it and I did not care to forgive her , but her husband did . So I spoke to her but our relationship was not the same . Now she cheated on him about two more times and still expects me to forgive her for that. She says it is a mistake. I told my parents that I did not want to speak to her again. They took her side and she is totally wrong and because she has done so much things that I didn't even mentioned here. I make good money and I have my own house and I don't owe for it . I built it myself and with my money. Now my mom said that the house they have they will give it to my sister because she feels if something happens to them I will leave my sister out in the road. I told them it is there house and that they could do with it what ever they want.

2007-05-25 05:49:02 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband works with this female "Robin." At the place where he works there is only 5 people that work there as counselors at a mental health retirement center. It is a very laid back enviornment and they just sit around a room and talk. I have told him that I have problems with his and Robin's relationship. They will call each other on their cells while at work and she calls him while he is at home for questions that she should be asking her husband--like car trouble and kids problems. They sit right next to each other at work even though there are four tables with over 30 chairs. I have also found out he has ytaken her home from work several times without telling me. They talk constantly about very personal stuff. I am just fed up. I don't know if he's cheating or if they're just friends. Any ideas??

2007-05-25 05:46:57 · 48 answers · asked by steeler_chic 3

My husband went to the lake for this week leaving me here working full time and also taking care of our eight month old daughter.He had also just taken a week to go to the lake at the end of april.His aunt heard about land for sale there for a reasonable price, and feeling sorry for me, she asked me to take a day off of work to go visit him with her.She said, "I'm sure he misses you both."(He is with his parents)They knew what time we would be there, yet we couldn't reach them on their cell for over an hour.(they were on the boat)When we finally got them to answer the phone, his mother tells me that they are catching so many fish that they are going to fish a while longer.It wasn't as if we were going to stay a while....we drove 4 hours just to get there and could only stay for that day. I have never been so heartbroken and furious. Do I have a right to be angry? Do you think that it's wrong for me to recent my husband for loading all responsibilities onto me?

2007-05-25 05:39:57 · 11 answers · asked by flowerbug26 3

2007-05-25 05:37:29 · 8 answers · asked by had enough 1

I've discovered that the wife of this mate of mine is cheating on him. Now, it has always been my policy to keep my mouth shut---in fact, I've covered for my mates when they've cheated and they've done the same for me, but this is one's wife who is cheating, and I'm tempted to let him know. The only problem is that usually in cases like this it's a matter of "shoot the messenger" and I don't want to have a rift with my friend. I was in a similar situation years back and when I told then I was accused of trying to break up the marriage, wanting the wife for an affair myself, etc. You can see the pickle I'm in---any advice?

2007-05-25 05:33:48 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-05-25 05:27:26 · 49 answers · asked by Anonymous

did not want to hurt me. Does he really want to be with me and eventually marry me ?

2007-05-25 05:16:46 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-05-25 05:15:07 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

My neighbours son is just 19 years of age and intends to marry his girlfriend later in the year.
When he was just 12 years of age, he sexually molested his younger sister, who was only 4 at the time.
He had extensive counselling after it occurred.
Should his fiance know about this offence and should he be allowed to marry and lead a normal life?
We all make mistakes and I suppose we are entitled to a happy life.
Do you think it will affect his future with his wife and possibly, children, if they have any?
thanks.

2007-05-25 04:57:36 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

i have stayed at home since i had our son in november. my husband has his own business. i have no clue as to how much money we have. i have no access to any money unless he gives it to me. i have run out of gas and had no money. if i need to go to the store or run errands i have to get money from him first. he gave me 110 dollars for groceries last night. i got to the check out and was 20 dollars short. i was kinda mad about it. he got mad at me and said he is the one working for all the money and i should be happy with how much he gave me. what should i do?

2007-05-25 04:49:02 · 13 answers · asked by mandyleigh 2

hello welll ive been with my b/f for 3 years and i want to marry him, well sex was perfect for the first 2 but latly it has sucked! he dosent get fully aroused and finishes within 2-5 mins, i finally got fed up with him and told him as nicley as i could its not the same and im not happy...what i dont get is sex used to be amazing but latly its completly different. what can i do to fix this, what could be casuing it...we dont have many chances to have sex becuase i had to move back home, so could that be it he's not getting it enoff so when he does he gets to excited but then he should be completely hard right! im so frusterated please any advice..

2007-05-25 04:29:06 · 12 answers · asked by lovely 3

My soon-to-be-ex husband has been putting 100% of the blame on our marriage ending from day one. He says everything is my fault, and that he is not to blame at all for what has happened. I know I had my faults, yes, who doesn't? BUT it takes two ... why is he belittleing me and trying to make me feel worse than I already do?

2007-05-25 04:17:20 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

Am I shallow and thinking I am good, and he doesnt appreciate me?

2007-05-25 04:09:39 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

me and ex-wife divorced when the kids were young she re-married and then 7 years later she filed for child support how can she do that now i am 51 and have to pay 700 a month when I only make 2000.00 should I get a lawyer and if yes can someone recommend one

2007-05-25 04:07:50 · 23 answers · asked by Theresa L 2

2007-05-25 04:05:49 · 6 answers · asked by Rob H 1

I am completely in love w my boyfriend,believe he is my soulmate. We have been dating for 1 year 2 months. I am turning 33 this year and he just turned 30. I've been living on my own 10 years and am ready to take the next step. He just moved out of his parents 2-3 years ago and bought studio co-op. The place is definetly too small for me and my cat. He likes his studio and will not sell it untill Oct 2008 due to tax. Might be a way of renting it? His parents visit 4 times a year and stay at his place. In January he casually was asking if I want to live together sometime and I said yes. Then 2 weeks later when I asked he "backed out" saying he looked at his finances and also that he did not mean it anytime soon!? I got upset and this has been causing insecurities and fights since February. "he needs several months of not mentioning it and no arguments to consider it" I don't know what this means time wise. I need to sign my lease by 7/15 for 9/1 renewal 1 year. What do I do?? Say? Act?

2007-05-25 04:03:35 · 6 answers · asked by losing my mind 2