Husband has temper problems, PLEASE HELP ME!!?

Question

My husband has a history of ACTING OUT when frustarted. He has thrown tv remote, kicked shoes across room, beat on my car dash popping out the vents,rammed office chair into desk, punched truck steering wheel repeadtly, drive recoutlessy, threw a cell phone at me while i was driving, slams doors, slammed fist down on table infront of my face, hit a plate of cookies across the room, punched in a bag of potato chips and dumped it all over my living room floor, has told me to shut up in anger, and said F** you.He is in the MARINE CORP BAND, and went to anger management in NOV of 04..I am tired of it, and last night in an arguement in the car about how to drive he slammed on the brakes in the Jeep while going down the highway AT 75MPH!!!! I have told him that in our new home I am not putting up with him and his temper, but here it is AGAIN. WHAT can I do???? Should I go to his Superior? PLEASE HELP ME, he blows off his anger as nonthing.

Answer 1

He needs some serious help. He is extremely aggressive and will start acting on you if you don't do simething. He's already throwing things at you and slamming his fists in front of you. That environment is very unsafe and you should be worried. He obviously has no problem endangering your life if he'll throw things at you while you're driving and slam on the brakes in the middle of the highway! You should leave him and tell him that you'll never get back with him until he gets help. Good luck.

Answer 2

wow your hubby and my bf sound somewhat alike. My bf has serious anger issues and I just told him I won't tolerate it. I've had to give him the ultimatum, either he does something about it or I'm out. Now that's not exactly an easy thing to consider doing since you are married to him. Encourage him to seek help. If he refuses, do it for him(as in find out where he can go to get help and talk to those places/people). It's abusive behaviour and no one should ever have to feel afraid of their significant other. I told my bf it scared me because what's to say his fist doesn't come slamming into my face when he's on a rage? He swears up and down he'd never do it but I explained to him that it doesn't feel that way to me. We did some councelling together and we have had some improvements for sure. When he gets all worked up I leave him alone, I don't talk to him - in fact I refuse to until he's calmed down. If he doesn't leave me alone then I leave the house, I go for a walk or meet a friend for coffee. So, yes, go to his superior and explain that you'd like your hubby to go back into anger management. At the same time you should also have someone to talk to about this because often times it affects us and we also need to work through our feelings and learn how to effectively manage the situation overall. (us/we = women)

Answer 3

I dont think its anything against you. People have different ways to deal with there anger. If you truly love the man, there is no reason to leave or divorce him like some people said, that is unless he is hitting you, than thats a red flag to leave. But as long as he isnt physically hurting you just try to come him down. I have done stupid things before when im mad, you probably wouldnt understand because your a girl. But I have punched the dash board and broken things. I think it is something in guys genes, but not all act that way. Going to his superior might be an option. I also think its a military thing too, because myself and all my military buddies usually deal with anger agressively. Hope I helped out, good luck.

Answer 4

I think going to his superior is a bad idea, he just may get madder! I would just walk away, just like a kid acting out, don't let him show you how mad he is, walk away, if it is out of the house and down the block so he wont bang on the bedroom door all the better cause then there will be people around. Every time he tries to engage in arguing, just say I am not doing this and walk away. If you don't give him the chance to throw the fit, he will eventually stop. At least i would hope. If it ever turns towards you...KICK his A$$ out! And then go to his Superior!

Answer 5

properly because of the fact which you do properly known having this temper situation that's truthfully a stable start up. Now you may desire to discover out why , what triggers it , while does it oftentimes take place. you have the episodes for a reason. start to demonstrate screen your self , record them. and you may probable be extremely shocked in case you video taped your self. you may certainly be on the exterior finding ...properly exterior. in case you have a camcorder or a webcam which you will set up and purely pass away for awhile that is super because of the fact which you might have the skill to sit down down lower back and watch it and notice precisely why you have been being that way and it is going to additionally furnish you with a various look at it. all of us tend to get into arguments and tempers flair yet while its recorded there is not any denying the fairly actuality to the subject, so in different words you wont have the skill to be one sided (your edge) you will discover from husband edge besides. stable success !!!!

Answer 6

You need to call his superior while at the same time separate from him for your own safety.

He is unstable and obviously the anger management in the future did not help. If he is not acknowledging he has a problem then nothing will get fixed if he does not see anything needs fixing.

I am sorry this is all happening.... you can only protect yourself right now so do so.

Answer 7

Maybe he needs a refresher course in anger management. He's not doing what they suggested if he's having to act out this way. Anger management means taking different actions when the wife, hubby, kids, dog, car or whatever else seems to create stress.

I just hope you don't try to stand in his way when he does his anger management thing. If so, you may have inadvertently "proven" that the anger management technique doesn't work. For example, one good action is to walk away, but it's impossible to do that when your spouse is physically blocking the door insisting on "talking it out".

So you may need anger management too.

Answer 8

His anger is definitely a problem. Try to encourage him to work out at the gym to blow off the steam, and do your best to remain netural whenever he's on the verge of blowing up again. This is a definite health issue as if you have kids...it might be extremely dangerous. Nevertheless, you are putting yourself in a risky situation. Tell him that he's going too far and needs to find some other means of letting off the heat. He's putting you in danger and he might not even know it.

Answer 9

What a mess. I am truly sorry. I have to agree that he has had a real good opportunity to get help, and he has failed.

I might attribute part of his behavior as a reaction to the anxiety of a possible deployment, but as a band member it seems unlikely that deployment is a large risk. You can answer that better than me. I am afraid that you may need to leave with little warning or with the assistance of his supervisor and/or commander. I fear that you may be in danger from escalated violence.

Good luck.

Answer 10

you need to find a new life my dear i have had my last girlfriend act that way to the point i lived in fear anything i would say may set her off! yet i was the one that seem to go to jail everytime! she kicked out the windows of our home and i grabed her off to jail. she broke full beer bottles over my head yet the cops tryed to take me.even knows my head was a bloody mess! she would act like nonething happen! all nice and sweet when they came! yet behine closed doors (wow) not again! over things like what do you want for dinner or hearing a woman on t.v and thinking she was in the room with me. or talking to my ex wife or my mom or even if we were at the store and some woman looked at me! so get out of the mess my dear they never change and only seem to get worse as time goes along! they seem to only look at themself and our feeling don't mean alot..sad to say! good luck but you will aways be walking on egg shells! and i only pray you don't get hurt one day from the foolishes!