My husband went to the lake for this week leaving me here working full time and also taking care of our eight month old daughter.He had also just taken a week to go to the lake at the end of april.His aunt heard about land for sale there for a reasonable price, and feeling sorry for me, she asked me to take a day off of work to go visit him with her.She said, "I'm sure he misses you both."(He is with his parents)They knew what time we would be there, yet we couldn't reach them on their cell for over an hour.(they were on the boat)When we finally got them to answer the phone, his mother tells me that they are catching so many fish that they are going to fish a while longer.It wasn't as if we were going to stay a while....we drove 4 hours just to get there and could only stay for that day. I have never been so heartbroken and furious. Do I have a right to be angry? Do you think that it's wrong for me to recent my husband for loading all responsibilities onto me?
2007-05-25 05:39:57 · 11 answers · asked by flowerbug26 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
marriage should be 50/50. he is not carrying his share of the load
2007-05-25 05:44:36 · answer #1 · answered by RUSSELLL 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have every reason to be angry especially after the fact that he knew you were there and did nothing. Those fish will be there for another day or they could hve even returned to dock and picked you two up. I hope you learned something here too, that his parents have some kind of control on him. For him to even go there with his parents and leave you home with your daughter is wrong too. This should have been better planned and to include everyone. A husbands place is with his wife and family and vice versa not with his parents as if he was still growing up under their house. His parents should hav known better too on both accounts here. It sounds like maybe his parents dont care for you much and this is why you werent asked to come along? Tell himto discuss future outings with you and to include everyone although not everyone can go or not. Good luck
2007-05-25 05:56:28 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're wrong. It was selfish for him to do what he did. I honestly would let him know, not to be confrontational but let him know you didn't think it was fair for him to load everything up on you so you could go and have a good time. His parents also sound selfish. If that runs in the family; that's truly not a good sign. But you sound very intelligent, you'll know how to handle this and anything that comes up in the future =)
2007-05-25 05:56:53 · answer #3 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think I would be pissed, but my hubby normally asks me if Iwould like to go to the lake with him...I normally do. The next time take a vacation without him and the baby...take a week off and go somewhere and leave him with the responsiblities.
2007-05-25 06:01:03 · answer #4 · answered by ERICKSMAMA 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does he work too? Next time tell him to go ahead to the lake and then hand him the baby...
2007-05-25 05:44:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-05 08:51:32 · answer #6 · answered by deliberato 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds a little selfish and inconsiderate, but I wouldnt get divorced over it. Talk to him and tell him how hurt you are and that you don't begrudge him time away, but you also want that and if you only have a little time to spend with him, you expect him to be available.
2007-05-25 06:02:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a 3day weekend for some. So yes you should be upset that he's at the lake having fun. While you're at home.
2007-05-25 05:43:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
sounds to me his mummy is still controlling him
he needs to relaize you and your baby are his first priority and eveything else comes second
2007-05-25 05:54:35 · answer #9 · answered by Jeni W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES! I would be pissed off. Tell him how you feel about both situations.
2007-05-25 05:44:27 · answer #10 · answered by lissette 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋