i love my husband,he is kind, very supportive and he loves me so much but i cheat him last year,i feel so guilty after that.am i bad girl? ofcourse i am yah ryt...
2007-05-25 06:04:03 · 22 answers · asked by valit 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well first off this happens all the time unfourtunantly. I always say if the relationship isn't working for you better to get out then cheat. Cheating is horrible and hurts.
Having said that...you need to sit down and think about why it is that you cheated. Is it that you are not sexually satisfied in the relationship? Is that he mistreats you and you found a guy who treats you well? Are you being emotionally abused?
There is always a reason for cheating, the bottom line is to find the reason and decide what to do about it.
First things first you need to see a counsellor, they will hlep you with telling your husband and make sure it's a marriage counsellor. You can decide to tell your hubby and hope that he forgives you and you two can attend counselling and work it out, or you can decide to tell hubby that you aren't happy and leave the marriage.
Either way he deserves to know and you both deserve to work it out or split up.
Just make sure you can identify why it is that you cheated. I don't condone cheating and actually it's my one biggest pet peeves but.....I don't think you are a bad person, there are reasons why people cheat find it out and do something about it.
It's only bad if you keep doing it without trying to work it out whether it be marriage counselling so that you and hubby can work it out or whether you're done with the marriage and tell him so.
either way work it out hun.
2007-05-25 06:13:09 · answer #1 · answered by *Sbaby* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one is perfect. Make sure you have a plan as to what will keep you from doing it again. Woman typically cheat because there is a lack or emotional void. What can you do to connect with your husband better. Never mind what you did in the past, yeah it was wrong, but what counts is the right now...Guard yourself against falling in the same trap again.
2007-05-25 06:09:00 · answer #2 · answered by Wisdom 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you continue to cheat then your a bad girl, but if you have no intentions on doing it again then your OK. Everyone makes mistakes! Your husband is a good boy and I'm almost certain that you cheated on him with a bad boy!!!
2007-05-25 06:10:14 · answer #3 · answered by kind1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is a pretty low and uncaring thing to do to someone you are supposed to love. We don't need to tell you that you are a "bad girl"...most reasoning people know the difference between bad and good.
Karma will find its balance though...what goes around, comes around. Learn the lesson and don't do it again...
2007-05-25 06:07:24 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You must not feel too guilty if you would try to be cute and ask if you're a "bad girl". No, you're not a "bad girl", you're a filthy wh0re and don't deserve him. You should've told him. You're lying to yourself about loving him b/c if you did then you would never have betrayed him like that. How would you feel if he did that to you???
2007-05-25 06:20:22 · answer #5 · answered by Kelly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No matter how you feel don't tell him. You feel bad and you should. Deal with your own pain, no need to make him suffer for your stupidity. You're not a bad person but you made a bad decision.
2007-05-25 06:13:00 · answer #6 · answered by Jane Marple 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not a bad person, you just mad a bad decision. These things do happen from time to time. The question is…Did you learn from your mistake? And are you going to do it again? Recommit yourself to your husband and you will be fine.
bob
2007-05-25 06:17:51 · answer #7 · answered by Dragonlair 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It really doesnt matter much of what we think you are. The most important thing here is how you now see yourself and how much self respect do you have for yourself. We allmake mistakes and suffer the consequences fron them and regrets are one of them so now you must learn to live with yourself no matter what we think of you
2007-05-25 06:09:48 · answer #8 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well just to let you know, cheating is a very bad thing to do.
but if you really believe that you didn't mean to cheat and you promise to never do it again, then you deserve a second chance.
-just to let you kno, if ur husband knows about this, i dont think ur gona be with him again
2007-05-25 06:10:29 · answer #9 · answered by trueblaze 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are a bad girl. YOu better make it up to your husband by doing every thing he wants you do to always forever.
2007-05-25 06:07:52 · answer #10 · answered by Toosense2 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋