hello welll ive been with my b/f for 3 years and i want to marry him, well sex was perfect for the first 2 but latly it has sucked! he dosent get fully aroused and finishes within 2-5 mins, i finally got fed up with him and told him as nicley as i could its not the same and im not happy...what i dont get is sex used to be amazing but latly its completly different. what can i do to fix this, what could be casuing it...we dont have many chances to have sex becuase i had to move back home, so could that be it he's not getting it enoff so when he does he gets to excited but then he should be completely hard right! im so frusterated please any advice..
2007-05-25 04:29:06 · 12 answers · asked by lovely 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like the two of you have gotten into the rut of having the same routines in sex. Help him by helping yourself by making the experience more fulfilling for the both of you. Try setting the proper mood through candle light and use various objects such as; blindfold, handcuffs, various dildos & vibrators, hot oils, sexy lingerie for the both of you. Use lots of foreplay. Take control, be on top and ride him during intercourse. Make him focus on your needs instead of his. Coach him by having him stimulate your clitoris during foreplay and the act of intercourse. Try various sexual positions.
The point is trying to get as far away from the mundane routine that has put the two of you into the slump. With imagination and creativity, each encounter will be great for the both of you.
2007-05-25 04:39:45 · answer #1 · answered by Randy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully this is just a sex issue and not something deeper in the relationship itself. A sex issue is solved through more adventuresome sex. Ask him what his fantasies are and then comply if you can. Ask him to buy into some of your fantasies as well. If its more of a general relationship funk that you appear to be in try and find out who isnt happy and why. Then work on those things. Remember relationship take cultivating or they will just die and go away. Its hard to maintain a closeness both heart wise and sex wise when you dont live under the same roof. That really may be another issue.
2007-05-25 11:38:17 · answer #2 · answered by Devdude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you dont turn him on like you used too? I dont mean that to sound like its your fault in any way! Its just that when 2 people are together for a long period of time you get comfortable and the exciting goes away! Maybe you should excite him.. add some thrill in your relationship! Go get a nice nighty or something and show him a thing or 2.. Treat him like you did when you first started dating and see if that excites him? For all you know he's just as bored as you are :( Good Luck hope all works out for you 2*
2007-05-25 11:35:49 · answer #3 · answered by 04/12/2008 :) 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look if you moved back home and he isn't screwing someone else he should be ready to go right away. If he's not getting fully errect you may want to tease him a little. I know that works. Kills the guy. He will be ready to explode. The one thing that he needs to learn and maybe you need to tell him is that it takes women longer to climax than men. SO i have learned to please women by holding off on my own organsm until they get their's then it's a rush to get mine. Try to tell him to do this for you at least one time even if it takes him stopping or switch up positions. Experiment a little. Everyone has there favorite position it's just maybe you guys don't have the same one. It's works. Grab him at times, before sex is coming up. When he's got his clothes on. Lead him a little.
2007-05-25 11:42:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could it be he's getting it else where? Though it doesn't seem like it, guys can have sex three times a minute and still be hard. I don't know what the issue is, but I know I wouldn't marry it. Wait to see if you can fix whatever is wrong, because marriage won't fix it. It will just carry over and then where you would you be? Stuck.
2007-05-25 11:46:51 · answer #5 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh, sounds like hes saving the great sex for someone else. Sorry, I cheated on a girlfriend for a year and it was just like you described. I had amazing sex with the other girl, but my girlfriend got the leftovers basically. Sorry..... hope Im wrong.
2007-05-25 11:40:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anthony R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what was his response, when you expressed your unhappiness with your sex life together?
Perhaps you both need to take a break from each other to help you determine if this is someone you truly wish to spend the rest of your life with.
2007-05-25 11:49:25 · answer #7 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might be 'getting it' someplace else other than you or the 'honeymoon' stage is over. It might not be the answer you want to hear, but this might be the time you seriously need to re-evaluate the relationship.
2007-05-25 11:38:42 · answer #8 · answered by sq 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not ready for marriage. Sex is too much of a priority for you.
2007-05-25 11:37:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
hello lovely you sound very hot love maybe he doesnt try to please you like you want to be or deserve to be pleased hon most of us good men always like to please our ladies but may be you want to move on sweetheart to some one who can hold a hard on until you can be completel y satisfied dear
2007-05-25 12:10:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋