I've discovered that the wife of this mate of mine is cheating on him. Now, it has always been my policy to keep my mouth shut---in fact, I've covered for my mates when they've cheated and they've done the same for me, but this is one's wife who is cheating, and I'm tempted to let him know. The only problem is that usually in cases like this it's a matter of "shoot the messenger" and I don't want to have a rift with my friend. I was in a similar situation years back and when I told then I was accused of trying to break up the marriage, wanting the wife for an affair myself, etc. You can see the pickle I'm in---any advice?
2007-05-25 05:33:48 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
So let me get this straight...
Basically you're a giant hypocrite. You'll hide stuff for the guys but when it's the wife, you're all ready to tell? Stay out of it. You have no moral backbone whatsoever. Who are you to get into these people's personal lives, anyhow? If you're "one to keep your mouth shut" then close it and sew it shut if you have to.
2007-05-25 05:42:48 · answer #1 · answered by Clever_Cat 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
For the sake of your relationship with this mate, don't say a thing to anyone. Believe me, your mate will shoot the messanger. The best thing you can do is be there for him when he needs you, which may be very soon if in fact his wife is cheating. Hopefully she will end her little affair before he gets hurt. You stay out of. You are a good freind for wanting to tell him, but mums the word, ok?
2007-05-25 05:43:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know someone who was in a similar situation. He told about the cheating wife and the friend accused him of wanting her, she of course in order to cover her own tracks egged her husband on.
Keep your mouth SHUT... NOW... if my friend knew that the person I was with was cheating and didn't say anything I would be a little ticked. You might need to drop some hints or something, if you know she hangs out at a certain spot with this guy then you could take him there for drinks one night.
The key is to let him know without letting him know that you know... You don't want him to get mad at you for not telling him... so that is what you have to do.
Good Luck
2007-05-25 05:42:14 · answer #3 · answered by Its Just Me! 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Now this is just my personal opinion...but Would you want to know? I mean really? If you were in your mates position and your wife was cheating would you want to find out by your friend or on your own? I personally would want my friend, especially if we have been close friends for years, to tell me if they thought my hubby was playing hanky panky with some other woman. But a word of caution, are you prepared to give up/ or take a break from the friendship if your friend gets up set with you?
2007-05-25 05:46:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you wanted him,just wasn't women enough to get him,anybody can get false document to keep screwing you,he is not sick and twisted,you are the one that got use,mother told me when a man mess off on his wife he look for a women weak that is willing to give in and believe what ever is said to get you in bed,and to be honest after reading this it's still true,no married man when leave there home for those like you,you did get out when you did,he put you out and left you where he found you adn that on the street,you ask for an answer so here it is rather like it are not it is the truth.
2016-04-01 07:50:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People will say what they want to say but if you care for your mate and at the same time you don't want to be accuse, try diff. technique. send him a letter that will not describe it's you,or leave him a note by telling him to go to a place where his wife is meeting this man. You can do lots of it if you wish, just be more smarter when it comes of telling him without finding out it's you....
2007-05-25 05:54:21 · answer #6 · answered by islandgirl06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the boys cover for the boys!
do what u want - apparently you think its ok to cheat - u even did it! what are you in a club for cheaters!
I feel sorry for you and your wife.
u apparently dont care for her cuz did u even consider you might give her a STD or worse!
i hope she is cheating on you too! more than once!
2007-05-25 05:41:33 · answer #7 · answered by Trini Trixie 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You're a double standard PIG!
So, it's OK for you to cheat - and you're friends to cover up for you - and for you to cover for them - yet when it involves your friend getting cheated ON, you want to tell?
How is that fair?
If it's OK for you and your friends to cheat, then why is it not OK for your spouses to cheat? What's good for the goose is good for the gander.
MORON!
2007-05-25 05:42:15 · answer #8 · answered by jt 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are 100% sure and have proof then go to the wife and let her know that you know but that it is her job to tell her husband. Let her know that you will not be doing it.
Ball is then in her court.
2007-05-25 05:39:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you have had an affair and your mates are or have??
and now you want to crusify her
why judge her you have done it
you have covered for you mates keep out of it as you always have before
your in no position to do so
2007-05-25 05:38:42 · answer #10 · answered by Jeni W 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋