Marriage & Divorce - 25 May 2007

I love this man I am with and he loves me. He has asked me to marry him but he wants to move to Costa Rica. I have said yes, and I don't regret saying yes. I am happy with my decision, I can't wait to go. I just want to know some people's opinion.
He is a wonderful man. He says he is very happy with me and all. Also, I am not a stranger to the spanish language, so that will not be a problem.
Would you run off to a foreign country to be with the one you love and leave your family behind.

Oh yeah, my family and I aren't very close.

2007-05-25 03:55:15 · 12 answers · asked by ♥Enamorada♥ 2

My husband sometimes works late on the weekends. The problem is.. Alot of the time, the kids are gone, im home alone and very bored and like to get together with my friend (female) and go out to the bar. Its nice to get out of the house and socialize. Im not getting into any trouble, i dont drink too much and I walk to the bar so im not drinking and driving. It really bothers my husband. He feels that if he is out working that I shouldnt be out having fun with the girls. I should be sitting home. I can understand that it bothers him and he is earning money for us and im out "drinking" but im not spending alot of money and im being good and not doing anything wrong. What do you think?

2007-05-25 03:52:03 · 18 answers · asked by sea_sher 5

Several months ago my husband decided to no longer drink, admitting he had a problem with alcohol. He can't drink one or two beers, he always in excess ALWAYS!! Anyway, within the last couple months he has started drinking again and last night when I got home from work he had been drinking for 4 hours, was drunk and hanging out on the internet (nothing seedy I knew what site he was on)...he then spent until 2 AM!! drinking and chatting on the net ignoring me the whole time. I even tried to explain to him that I was not comfortable being in an environment w/alcohol abuse (having grown up in it) and that there is a difference between one or two drinks to relax after a hard day and then there is drinking in excess everytime you drink...he says he understands and respect where I am coming from and then GOES OUT AND BUYS MORE BEER?!! WTF?!! Would you be angry? How do I make him understand why I am so upset and disappointed in him?

2007-05-25 03:51:32 · 11 answers · asked by Notagain 6

I have been married for 5 years. The first few we fought really bad, for that last year or so I thought it had been smooth sailing. But my husband blows up over nothing at all. Everytime something doesn't go his way he calls me names and says he hates me and that the only reason we're still together is for the kids. That I'm annoying and just like my mother. That I'm stupid and make him mad on purpose. I love him with all of my heart and I can't understand why he hates me. He says he would leave me and the kids and be selfish if it would make him happy. I love him and I can't live on my own (financially) and that also plays a part. We have no one to fall back on. It would be me and the kids and I just can not afford it! I always say sorry even if I'm not wrong just to make it go away but it takes forever for him to forgive and it go back to normal... I'm so upset it's depressing me beyone belief!

2007-05-25 03:35:30 · 10 answers · asked by Jamie 3

My husband cheated on me two years ago with his ex girlfriend/baby mama. It made me really insecure although we too have a child together because everyone in his family always amde a big deal of her having his FIRST kids. He only admitted it after 2 years of me pressuring him because i suspected the whole time, which was 2 months ago. Its even worse now because its been verified. I honestly believe he messed up that one time and i love him and he loves me. he treats me well, laways has is a good father and does everything he can to make it up to me and make me feel better. but these feelings just wont go away. when we have sex i cant stop thinking about them together and i keep wondering if he cared about me at al l at the time and things like what did she have that i didn't? It hurts so much because i have always been faithful and giving, the whole time. If i can't get over this, should I divorce my husband?

2007-05-25 03:35:17 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am very afraid about taking my wife back, she left me because I would not bend down towards her 3 kids( from past relationships she had with three different guys)and moved to another state and had affair. She said she was not going to tell me about it, but she felt guilty of doing. She said that I was better then the person she done it with. Because he did not give a chance to get, off. In addition, she asked God if he changed her thinking towards me about making love and gives her the desire to open up and please me more. However, its take affair to open yours eyes about your husband loving. She had past sexual problem when she was young she been abused. I deal with that during our marriage. I took a lot from her. Now she had affair now she realized how much I really love her and been patient with her throughout this ordeal. should I or shouldn't I?

2007-05-25 03:33:22 · 7 answers · asked by blkngd 1

I have been married to my wife for 3 years now and I we are both 23 years of age. I have to admit that I am a very handsome young man and I have been told this before. With that being said why does my wife not want to have sex with me on the regular like we used to do before we got married. I didn't know that they snuck no sex in the marriage until a week has pasted. I was thinking that maybe the birth of a child will dimenish a females sexual appetite. I need some help because I find myself really horny for her and I wont cheat on her. Let me know what I need to do to spark up my sex life.

2007-05-25 03:32:41 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

I love that dress. I know I should donate it to charity since I'm never going to wear it again but I just can't do it.

2007-05-25 03:28:56 · 14 answers · asked by sugarcarat 5

My husband and daughter do not get along although somedays are better than others. She has a dad that talks crap in her ear 24/7 about my husband. My husband has been in her life since she was 3 and she is now 11 years old. Last night we had a talk and she told me that she hates my husband and he is trying to take her dads place. I assured her that this was not the case that he just loved her and wanted the best for her. She then told me that she feels that I love my husband more than her because I always take his side when she gets in trouble which simply is not true. I just don't know what to do anymore. SOmetimes I feel I should leave my husband but other times I feel my daughter is just being silly. I'm confused about the whole deal. How do I help them get along? My daughter has now started to threaten me into telling the court she wants to live with her dad. I just can't see a judge giving custody to someone so irresponisible and immature but thats a whole different story!

2007-05-25 03:25:11 · 6 answers · asked by Mellycat123 4

Should a woman be suspicious of a man who kept going back and forth between her and a particular female while dating and engaged to all of a sudden just supposedly stopped all contact with her after getting married. Does it work like that.? Is it possible that she found out he was married? I heard she was one of those girls that didn't care whether a man was married or not..What could be going on?

2007-05-25 03:15:21 · 6 answers · asked by stella 2

This question applies to homemakers, and especially to working mothers. Cooking, house chores, taking care of children while having a career, do you think plumbing, fixing electrical stuff, washing the car, changing the battery of a dead wall clock etc..etc ( trivial stuff but it matters to you as a woman), should also be done by us, women? Is this ok, acceptable? What do you think the role of a man in the house should be?
What are shared responsibilities, wife's responsibilities and husband's responsibilities in building a good relationship and a lasting marriage? How do you communicate effectively so your spouse will accept that a woman should not feel that she is the man of the house, because if she does, then, what good is having a man in the house?

Please share your views. Husbands, your views are also welcome and will be very much appreciated.

I would also love to hear from the older generation, who believes that they are successful in marriage.

2007-05-25 03:14:51 · 14 answers · asked by brandscorpio 1

My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year now. Our relationship seems to be a happy and stable one. He recently went back to school in the evenings and he works full time during the day as do I. When he arrives home after school, I am usually asleep because I need to wake up early for work. Obviously, this has effected the frequency of our being intimate with one another. We have spoken about it and both decided that we could cope with the situation for the next few months while he finishes school. We make a point of spending our weekends together and making up for lost time then. Well, I was on the computer last night and I discovered that he had been looking at some nude pictures of women. Now, I know that men look at porn and I am for the most part fine with it. I have accepted that is a fact of life. But the pictures that he had been viewing were of an asian woman and a blonde woman. I am neither asian nor blonde. But his ex wife happens to be asian.

2007-05-25 03:06:58 · 30 answers · asked by Sophie 3

It is him who wants the divorce as he is "no longer happy" in the marriage. He says leaving lawyers out of it and doing the paperwork ourselves will save a lot of money. I don't know divorce law and I am very shocked and hurt by his sudden decision to leave. I should mention, we have a brand new baby daughter, a house that we owe more on than it's worth and our fair share of other forms of debt. I'm just overwhelmed right now and not sure at all what to do.

2007-05-25 03:06:39 · 20 answers · asked by Janie B 1

I have a friend who has been married for almost a year. This person owned a motorcycle and smoked cigarettes when they met. The person also plays the guitar in spair time and now is being asked not only to give up hobbies but, friends as well. Will this issue break the relationhip down if it goes on unchecked?

2007-05-25 03:06:03 · 18 answers · asked by jlaurentaylor2 1

I have 5 children to my previous husband, and 2 children 2 and 3 to my current husband, he is just so mean to my other children that are not his. Two of my older children have moved out, I am torn between staying for the two little ones, but also to not have to meet in a park for the rest of my life with my other children as they hate coming here.

2007-05-25 03:05:06 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-05-25 02:31:22 · 45 answers · asked by kiriti 1

My wife and I have been discussing threesomes. Yes, I know they will ruin our marriage. I have heard it all before. Anyway, she has been with a few girls in her lifetime and would like to explore it again, this time with me involved as well. I am willing to do it for her sake, even though I am not 100% sure that I wont mind later, but I WILL NOT be touching the other girl...It wouldnt really be a real threesome, b/c I would ONLY be interacting with my wife. My wife tells me later that if I wanted her to have a threesome with myslef and a male freind, she would! I was VERY disgusted with this. I dont think my wife should be willing to sleep with ANYONE but me, even if it WERE to be a fantasy of mine (which it isnt). She said it was only to be fair about it since I would go through with another girl for her. But remember, I dont want another girl, she does, and I WOULD NOT be touching the girl. Am I wrong to be disgusted by my wifes willingness to have sex with another man?

2007-05-25 02:19:38 · 30 answers · asked by williamjohnwelch 2

Im single and I have time off work.

2007-05-25 02:06:24 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-05-25 01:57:02 · 22 answers · asked by dcc 1

She was working at a contractors office and a man caught her eye. She said he made everyone laugh and was just laid back and got along with everyone. She found herself completely attracted to him, then found out he was married, she said "oh well, its too late now, I already want him" and she actually went for it....he told her he was happily married (contractor working FAR from home for almost a year) and yet she still pursued him in a subtle way to begin with by befriending him, then after a month or so when he was out with his friends and they were all drunk she went up to him and grabbed him by his shirt and told him he was coming home with her...and he did. NOW I KNOW HE CHEATED AND HE SCREWED UP....my question is.....Why would a woman do that intentionally? Why would she pursue a married man? She told me that she just found him attractive and fell for him and she deserves to be as happy as anyone....well he told her he had no feelings for her and was working on marriage with...

2007-05-25 01:53:51 · 31 answers · asked by hurtand still in love 2

i'm 19. i like one man that is 41. what can i do to get his attention? and do older man avoid women that are still virgins?
please, i know, that he's old enough to be my dad. but apart from this, please, give an advice. don't keep saying that he's old)

2007-05-25 01:47:23 · 13 answers · asked by Rose M 1

My husband and I have been having difficulties. He has this thing when we fight where its like he taking tally of who has won how many times.
This morning we had an arguement. I work nights most of the time so he is the one who has been getting our 3 year old son ready in the morning for preschool. Every morning our son is crying because my husband is rushing him. He only gives him 30 minutes to eat and get ready. I believe he needs an hour so he gets to do things for himself.
My husband said that he gets a half hour and he'll adjust. He told me that if I want our son to get an hour to get ready, then I can get my butt out of bed.
He was not like this when we were first together but in the past 2 or 3 years, he's like this the majority of the time.
Am I being stubborn or am I right to be upset and question our relationship. Please help. I am sick of crying.

2007-05-25 01:26:44 · 27 answers · asked by Rae247 2

usually go out looking for "strange" or are they usually pursued and seduced by the "strange"? I know nobody can be MADE to do anything and that cheating is a choice. But is it hard to turn down the "strange" when it keeps throwing itself in your face, and telling you "all the right things" to make you feel like you are a gift to this world. NO I HAVE NOT CHEATED.....Just Curious.

2007-05-25 01:11:35 · 7 answers · asked by hurtand still in love 2

She doesn't care of hearing my words.

2007-05-25 00:34:14 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous