She was working at a contractors office and a man caught her eye. She said he made everyone laugh and was just laid back and got along with everyone. She found herself completely attracted to him, then found out he was married, she said "oh well, its too late now, I already want him" and she actually went for it....he told her he was happily married (contractor working FAR from home for almost a year) and yet she still pursued him in a subtle way to begin with by befriending him, then after a month or so when he was out with his friends and they were all drunk she went up to him and grabbed him by his shirt and told him he was coming home with her...and he did. NOW I KNOW HE CHEATED AND HE SCREWED UP....my question is.....Why would a woman do that intentionally? Why would she pursue a married man? She told me that she just found him attractive and fell for him and she deserves to be as happy as anyone....well he told her he had no feelings for her and was working on marriage with...
2007-05-25 01:53:51 · 31 answers · asked by hurtand still in love 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
his wife. Now she is upset and said that she did not deserve to be hurt like that. That he told her he cared about her once, and that she did not deserve to be treated like a S***....then she got mad at me because I told her she got what she deserved, and she was treated like a sl** because she acted like one. Please settle the debate.....I say she got what she deserved, she said she was hurt for no reason.
2007-05-25 01:55:48 · update #1
She also took every chance to "harrass" the wife and call her with "details" and she thought this was HIS payback. She took pleasure in hurting the wife. Our friendship is almost over because of this situation.
2007-05-25 01:57:22 · update #2
This woman got what she deserved. Actually I think she deserved for the wife to find her and knock some sense into her. I have had the "pleasure" of dealing with someone just like this. They are all pieces of crap in my book. She gives women (and men, that had intentions of being faithful) a very bad name.
2007-05-25 02:19:19 · answer #1 · answered by Nothing but the truth...!! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow... drama... I can't believe there r women that would try thier hardest to break a couple up . Does he really believe his wife that the other woman wanted to hurt him ? It sounds like you said she wanted to be happy and she cared for him so I would find it hard to believe she would tell the wife anything at all .. maybe the wife is a Drama Queen and is not happy unless she has him eating out of her hand to the point of lieing for attention. I ask you why would the other woman tell the wife anything at all ? If you care or love someone you do not want to hurt them. Why would she hurt the man she wanted to be with . Is she a dumbas s not realizeing if he wants the other woman he would surely need to go after her so that she is never gonna wonder if he wanted his wife ...if they were ever together. Your story sounds so screwed up . The other woman must be very evil ... this is so wierd b/c i do not think your husband would have chosen a evil woman to cheat on you /.. Men do not leave thier wives unless the wife is evil.. why would he choose a loser to cheat on the wife with? Doesn't sound too bright 2 me..... If he was away from home for 1 year... how could he have been happy w/ his wife? A man does not leave his wife if he is happy...... A man will leave his wife if he finds that special need fufilled in and w/ another woman.... but this is rare b/c it is too easy for a man to give in w/ w hat is easier and that is wife. There are alot of unhappy men out there b/c they have controlling wives. Are you 1 of those wives? I am single and the last thing i would ever want is a married man.. I want a man who adores me .......... not a man who cannot make his own decisions . Sounds like you have issues in your marriage so you need help to figure out just what a marriage is......
2007-05-25 09:47:23 · answer #2 · answered by lilly l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course she got what she deserved.....she went after a happily married man. She took advantage of him when he was drunk....she was the pursuer. She knew what the score was before she blatantly went after him. The hurt she is feeling, maybe isnt hurt at all....maybe its her bruised ego. If she is really hurt, then she bought it all on herself. Why people do this kind of thing is crazy. Maybe it was the thrill of the chase......to get her man at any cost. She's a pretty nasty type of a woman actually and if I were you, I wouldnt let her anywhere near your husband or boyfriends....she is bad news....she doesnt have a conscience and is so self absorbed that she doesnt care who she hurts. I wouldnt want someone like that as my friend because you could never trust her. I guess if she liked your wallet, she would just take it because it pleased her. Beware of a woman who will deliberately set about to destroy a family.
2007-05-25 09:05:39 · answer #3 · answered by rightio 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She got exactly what she deserved...The man told her he was married not only married, but happily married and your friend didn't believe it...Well, now she has no other choice but to believe him...I guarantee the man felt so bad for his actions that he went home and told his wife everything including how she had tried to pursue him earlier on before the incident occurred.
The guy didn't hurt her, she hurt herself...Tell her to get over him and find herself a "single" attractive guy who will appreciate her for who she is
2007-05-25 09:07:05 · answer #4 · answered by plumprump26 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The wife should get her for harrassment and stalking.
Why would a woman do that? Because she can't get her own man and a married man was probably a "challenge" to her, much more that a single dude. You seem to have morals--ditch her as a friend--she is only out for herself and one day hurt you too in some way. She needs to grow up and get her head out of her ***...or some other hole.
2007-05-25 09:38:07 · answer #5 · answered by Irish Ellen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right she got what she deserved. She has a behavior disorder and this could have been responsible for her attitude and aggressiveness towards the contractor's wife. She needs to turn to Jesus. Her problem will be over and she could soon become happily married.
2007-05-25 09:08:18 · answer #6 · answered by JAMBAM 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree w/ you totally. Your friend sounds like she has low self esteem, any woman in my opinion that feels like she has to go after other peoples men has some serious problems.
How can she ecpect to be loved and respected my a man truely when she doesn't love or respect herself. Any women willing to share a man w/ someone else has problems.
Sounds like she is not very happy w/ her life, so she is wanting everyone else suffer along w/ her. get your friend some help, there has to be some reason she can't find a man that is not taken already, or does she just love the challenge. Good luck
2007-05-25 09:05:12 · answer #7 · answered by LISA R 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are some people in this world that are incapable of thinking of anyone aside from themselves. That is exactly what this woman sounds like. After reading what you had to say, I just want to smack her upside the head! How dare she say that she didn't deserve what she got! If you're going to play with fire, you're going to get burned!!! She needs a good lesson in morals and values. It is woman like her that give the good, strong, compassionate woman in this world a bad reputation. How dare she be so selfish. By calling and harassing his wife, she also sounds a bit psycho and should seek professional help! What a B#$%&!!!!!
2007-05-25 09:03:41 · answer #8 · answered by Megan B 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Woman can be bitches - I say it all the time- if women didn't go out with another woman's husband - then men couldn't cheat. She is a nasty, selfish pig and deserved exactly what she got. If I was this guy's wife - I would send him back to her so they could be pigs together. Men are so weak. (sorry guys - most of you are helpless when it comes to turning down free sex) ( and for those of you that have resisted - I apologize)
2007-05-25 12:07:29 · answer #9 · answered by Babycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She got what she deserves. She should be treated like a slut because she is one. She should have taken what he told her in the beginning at face value and left it alone!! She caught him when he was most vulnerable about he feels guilty and should hate her for what she did. He made a choice too, but under the influence.
2007-05-25 09:07:32 · answer #10 · answered by MISTY 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋