i'm 19. i like one man that is 41. what can i do to get his attention? and do older man avoid women that are still virgins?
please, i know, that he's old enough to be my dad. but apart from this, please, give an advice. don't keep saying that he's old)
2007-05-25 01:47:23 · 13 answers · asked by Rose M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well I am sorry but he is way to old. There is a twenty year difference and it just will not work in the long term. By the time you are in the best years of your life for good intimacey he will be going through erectile dysfunction. He could take viagra but that is only if he does not have heart problems and isn't on high blood presure medication. If you have a child together he will be in his 60's when it graduates from high school. By the time the child needs college he will then be getting social security. I guess if you are up for all that could entail and you truly do love him I imagine you will work it out just fine. Many people are married to others much older than them and if you are both content and happy with each other right now that is what is important. So if this is what you want to do you are old enough to make that choice. Best wishes sweetie.
2007-05-25 02:06:19 · answer #1 · answered by Lindsey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you looking for an affair or a relationship?
An older man might be a wonderful first lover since he is experienced and at an age where he will be more likely to take his time and please you. He might also be a good lover in other ways...mature companionship, benefit of wisdom and life experience etc. If thats what you want, than go for it! Spend time in his company, start conversation, invite him for dinner or drinks. Find out what his interests are and plan outings that he will enjoy and invite him along.
If you are looking for a long term relationship, I would say move on to someone closer to your age. I know a few women I grew up with who married men much older than they are. The relationships were good for a time, but as the men become almost senior citizens and the women are reaching their mid 30's there have been many problems relating to everything from political beliefs to sexual satisfaction to spending time participating in activities outside the home to how to raise the kids.
The fact is that no matter how much you are attracted to this man, reality will eventually intrude and you will find yourselves at very different places in your lives.
2007-05-25 09:07:06 · answer #2 · answered by Melanie J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have nothing in common with someone with that much age between you, you may not want to hear it but you will anyway. And you already knew so it isn't much of a shock to hear people say it. And he ( if he has any sense ) knows you are not in his age group. So the next thing i would ask is he married? If so you will be considered a home wrecker. So my advice is to find someone who is around your age or even a few yrs older. Not someone your dad's age.
2007-05-25 09:04:47 · answer #3 · answered by sweetemtation_123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ewww....okay the initial shock is over. lol
I think older men respect a "legal-age" virgin more; not avoid them. The best way to get his attention is to be forward. I hear that older men like aggressive women.
Don't try to play any head games with him; he's more than like BEEN THERE and DONE THAT.
2007-05-25 08:52:16 · answer #4 · answered by Jay's Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He`s not paying attention to you cuz HE knows he`s to old for you. Maybe he`s married. And yes, he probably does have a daughter your age and doesn`t feel right having a relationship with you.
2007-05-25 09:22:29 · answer #5 · answered by MISTY 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man of that age will not interpret your signals.... so If you want his attention, you have to act as an adult and go to him and speak with him.
On that age the courting, hide and seek is over.
So, if you want something just walk up to him and tell him how he is doing and start a conversation and if you are still interested, just tell him YOU THINK HE HIS........
2007-05-25 08:53:00 · answer #6 · answered by John Th 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You 2 have nothing in common--you will be missarable in 10 yrs. he will be 51 and you 29.
2007-05-25 08:50:53 · answer #7 · answered by keithleyjustin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think virgins are evil! Ha Ha Listen there may be such an age gap that there may not be much to conversationalize about. Try and be realistic.
2007-05-25 08:54:59 · answer #8 · answered by Devdude 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I say, "What do you have to lose?" If the two of you care about each other, and bring each other happiness, what difference does it make what the age difference is? Go for it!
2007-05-25 08:53:41 · answer #9 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There seems to be no reason for u to fall for him. May be, he wud have u for short term enjoyment.
2007-05-25 09:35:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋