Marriage And Sex Life?

Question

I have been married to my wife for 3 years now and I we are both 23 years of age. I have to admit that I am a very handsome young man and I have been told this before. With that being said why does my wife not want to have sex with me on the regular like we used to do before we got married. I didn't know that they snuck no sex in the marriage until a week has pasted. I was thinking that maybe the birth of a child will dimenish a females sexual appetite. I need some help because I find myself really horny for her and I wont cheat on her. Let me know what I need to do to spark up my sex life.

Answer 1

well, how long has it been since she gave birth? Do you know if she is suffering from post-partum depresson? This could be one reason why she is not interested so then you need to help her get some help for it by finding a reliable therapist.

now, are you both working? Are you both sharing household duties once you are both home?

Is she a housewife? If so, do you look at being a housewife as an easy job and come home from work and don't help her out? It could be from watching your child for a half an hour or an hour so she can take a nice bath or so she can get a little nap.... Being a housewife it a tough job and a lot of housewives don't get enough time to themselves while their husbands get the chance to because they come home from work and sit to watch TV or get on the computer while their wives are still taking care of their child and doing the cooking etc...

another thing that happens also is many women make their child ALL of their priorities. And what happens is they don't have their husbands anywhere on their priority list. then they see sex as a chore.

also, before her sex drive diminished are you sure that she was feeling satisfied in bed? if not then is could have just gotten too boring and so she doesn't feel like it anymore.

another thing too is, many women don't get romance from their husbands like they used to before marriage. Are you keeping the romance alive and making her feel special?

to get some alone time, do you ever have the chance to ask your parents to take your child for one night? Or can you hire a babysitter so you can go out with your wife for a romantic dinner?

it is hard to know what is going on, but first and foremost, you have to openly communicate with your wife. Tell her she is sexy and that you love how she moves, how she looks, and that you want her badly. Tell her she is the only woman in your eyes and that you are always thinking about her. Maybe words like these can get her to get a bit excited?

If not though, you do need to try and talk to her about what compromises you can both make for each other... so if you were used to having sex 3-4 times a week, agree to having it once or twice a week.

Hopefully you both can come to an understanding to satisfy each other.

Answer 2

Maybe you were both riding on your expectations before and then got hit with reality? It sounds like you may both have been so excited about having sex that it was enough to make it passionate but maybe you are now faced with technical difficulties? I was a virgin when I married and it took me a LONG time to get my sex life where it should have been in year 1. Virgin Christians have a lot of trouble talking about "dirty" things like sex. But the truth is that nothing that 2 people do behind closed doors that they both agree to is anybody else's judgment. I say talk openly and experiment. Buy books and read them together. If it doesn't feel good, don't do it. If it does, tell each other and no one else. Sex is sacred, private and a HUGE part of an intimate, loving relationship. It is a form of communication that requires other forms of communication. Work at it. You should never treat sex as something that comes "naturally" because it simply doesn't. It is something new to learn about yourself and your husband and it should not be left to the wayside because you have lost interest because neither of you is good at it!!! GET good at it! I can't begin to tell you what it can be when you get over your inhibitions and get on with it... If you do, it will become a shared ecstasy that binds you together. If you don't it will become the disappointment that will hold you apart.

Answer 3

See this is why there needs to be a customer service department for wives. If there were I would take her back to Sears and tell them that the sex broke.

But since you cant do that why dont you try this:

STOP WORRING ABOUT IT SO MUCH THIS IS NORMAL. Sex drives go up and down over a lifetime. She will come around in time. Just spend a few nights giving her pleasure (massage, cutalingus, hold her close...) and dont even try to receive pleasure. Also you got married way to young so this is going to be a problem with her or with anyone else, so just understand that IT WILL GET BETTER and IT WILL GET WORSE. Thats just life my friend.

Also try reading (or listening on audio) to a book titled "SHE COMES FIRST" it will change your life.

Answer 4

O that's so sweet.

Well #1 It takes a while for us to get our sex drive back up sometimes after having a baby.

2. Get her out of the house. Go out to the club. She will see other women looking at you and that is a turn on.
In her mine she'll be thinking this is my man ladies.
3.Go to a hotel . Or just anywhere out of the house.
4.Tell here to learn about kegels(exercises for the vagina) Worked for me.
5.She's still young and haven't really found her true sexual side.
Get freaky baby.
Lick her softly but hold her tight with a lot of passion.

She needs to know that you still find her sexy. I didn't feel sexy anymore for a while after my son. Because the changes my body had gone through and feeling sexy is the No.1 to great sex.
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Answer 5

Sure, the birth of a child can really decrease a woman's sex drive. Babies are a lot of work! Plus, if she is suffering from postpartum depression and is taking medication for it, that can really hurt her sex drive as well.

Don't worry, it does improve. You may just have to give her a little time, that's all. In the mean time, talk to her and tell her how you feel.

Answer 6

After reading the book, "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands", I realized a lot of things that I thought about marriage were not true, including misconceptions about sex. I, too, got married at 19, and I have taken advantage of my husband, and not given him the respect he deserves so much. Getting married at a young age is hard because we are involved in a very mature institution when we are not finished maturing ourselves. It takes a lot of work, and it takes a lot of mature thinking to make it work a lifetime.

I suggest you go out and buy the book, and read it yourself. You will understand a lot about the way your wife thinks now, and you can (gently) request that she read it. If she has an open mind, she will understand a lot about the way you think, too.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

yes, the birth of a child will decrease the sexual appetite for a while.. it's nature, really.

the mother's attention is focused on nurturing the child now.

you can do romantic things if you like, and TALK WITH HER about this issue....

if you can't talk about sex, you've got problems!!!

it doesn't matter what a person looks like.. just because a man is good looking doesn't mean all women want to have sex with them, by the way... if the man is not respectable and doesn't treat others decently, most women wouldn't want to have sex with them. we are EXTREMELY picky!

Answer 9

woman give sex for marriage . . and men give marriage for sex. The problem is that we pay upfront. . . . therefore the only way to get results is to threaten to take back the payment .. . Notice I said threaten, . .you dont actually do it unless you really want no sex and lots of misery. Oh before I forget . . get a vasectomy on the qt quick.

Answer 10

Be romantic, do something spontanious that she isn't expecting. Or you can try talking ot her about this and let her know what kind of effect this is having on you! She should be able to accomidate some for you-- Men have needs as well as women! good luck*!