Marriage & Divorce - 23 April 2007

Given this hypothetical situation, what are your feelings. You have fathered a child. The mother leaves you, taking the child with her. She has totally cut you off from her and your child. You were a responsible father, she left for her own selfish reasons. Father's Day is here. You see other parents with their children. What are your musings upon seeing other fathers being given the opportunity to excercise their paternal instincts.

I understand that this may not be a hypothetical situation for many, I would especially appreciate your responses. Your responses will be incorporated into a character that is being developed for a piece of fiction.

2007-04-23 04:52:13 · 11 answers · asked by yodeladyhoo 5

so lets see...how about bigamy marriage...one man marries two women...

1. advantages...the man gets to sleep around...
2. the women have someone to actually talk about their emotional problems that actually listens and really cares.
3) double the children, double the fun...

disadvantages...
1) the divorce contracts could get messy...
2) cat fights
3) now the man has two women that hate him as opposed to just one.
4) double the children...double the fun...

all right...do you have something better?

2007-04-23 04:41:29 · 6 answers · asked by ? 3

I know it sounds dumb, but everytime he sees her now that they are grown up, he comforts her when she is down and he takes her to lunch. The few times that he sees her he treats her better than he ever treats me. So thats why im a little jelaous, he says that they are just friends. Am i making a big deal? by the way i didnt find out they went out to lunch till today ( and it was through a text message i found on his cell phone) and that happened last year. HElp please?!!?!?!??!

2007-04-23 04:39:29 · 20 answers · asked by sourgirl 3

you and your spouse "make love"? I am just curious as how often other married couples are.

2007-04-23 04:36:22 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

does anybody truly love their spouse/significant other so much and are so completly happy with them? I would just like to see the light in the darkness in here. For me...I am totally HEAD OVER HEELS for my husband of 3 years...and it is only getting better!!

2007-04-23 04:33:33 · 26 answers · asked by Boo 3

My husband has a hard time with emotions, anger, and loosing his temper. And he puts so much emphasis on what he DOES for someone, like opening car doors, sending me flowers, giving me massages, etc.And will often say in pride no other guys do that stuff for women, and that's how i show you that I care. But what he fails to understand is that, all of that stuff means nonthing if he is yelling at me in anger, throwing things at me and hitting things, and cursing around me in anger. I don't know what to do, i feel like he's afraid to see his REAL side, maybe this is why he only see himself and the THINGS that he does. Why does he put so much emphasis on what he DOES instead of how he behaves and acts?

2007-04-23 04:28:45 · 11 answers · asked by ilih2006 1

2007-04-23 04:24:11 · 9 answers · asked by maricela v 1

My husband has always been proud of my appearance and has always wanted me to dress to "accentuate" my figure (specifically my large bust) when we go out. Other than a topless beach in Europe a few years ago, I'm really your typical conservative "soccer mom", and other than a little cleavage here or there, I don't go around flashing my breasts. Recently he asked me if I would post pictures of myself on on of those "look at my rack" sites. They don't show the face, just your bare breasts. He says it would fulfill a fantasy for him. I feel a little funny about it, but we've always been open to eachothers needs/wants sexually, so should I play along?

2007-04-23 04:23:27 · 35 answers · asked by Kelly C 1

is anyone eals in that kind of marrige and what do you think of it. i need advise

2007-04-23 04:22:00 · 33 answers · asked by vampirellasbite 2

i love a person but he is a famous person among serials what should i do to get married with him

2007-04-23 04:20:55 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

My boyfriend and I are celebrating our 6th year anniversary. I want to do something different and special this time. Last year we stayed at the Sheridan hotel, with jacuzzi, breakfast in bed... the whole nine yards. what else can we do besides hotels and dinner? Also, we're a on tight budget right now, but we can squeeze out a few dollars for our one special day.

2007-04-23 04:19:43 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

I want to report my brothers in law that live in the house because they are bad people? will they pick up them
theyt are bad people i want to report them will they get pick up at my house if they live with me.?two brothers in law and their wives.b REPORT TO ICE OR INS my brothersinlaw.

2007-04-23 04:17:14 · 21 answers · asked by nanuk 1

I have been married for about one year and now it seems that this marriage is all about him; (his wants, his feeling and needs) I gave up my house, my family, and friends, plus all the material furnishing, to move in to his house in another state. I stay at home and take care of the house, the yard and the pool. I cook and clean and make sure everything is done. Now the other day I ask for $10 to go to a rummage in the neighborhood and he had a fit! He said "he spends enough money on me". Now I have no choice but to find outside employment. I need money for little things and feel that I cant ask him for it. Is this a marriage or am I just his grounds keeper What is your opinion?

2007-04-23 04:16:19 · 12 answers · asked by Bonduesa 6

My husband had an affair (circumstances to complicated to even go into) over a year ago. It lasted 5-6 months when he was out of state working for 10 months. It has been over for more than a year. We went to counseling...etc...and even renewed our vows on our 11th anniversary. I know that he regrets everything he has done and would take it back if he could. He takes ALL the blame for it and has never blamed me for anything. I thought I had forgiven him. I love him with all of my heart. Things have been going great and we have been closer than ever. The problem is the past few days, I cannot seem to get the affair off of my mind. I have been consumed by it. It was this time last year that I actually found out about it. Maybe that has something to do with it? Is this normal? Will all of the feelings and doubt go away again? What can I do to make myself feel better and et the awful thoughts out of my head?

2007-04-23 04:12:48 · 14 answers · asked by Nothing but the truth...!! 3

What do you argue about the most?
How often do you argue?
How in depth are your arguements?
Do you ever feel you can't take it and you want to get out, then after cooling off you don't want to leave?

2007-04-23 04:07:37 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

after 15 yrs with living with a man who is insecure i feel attracted to this younger man who i know feels attracted to me..yet my mind says be sensible what is sensible putting up with crap and mindless discussions about nothing..and fights about nothing...or leaving..i cant get this fella whos lovely to me out of my head.. tried to for a year now. I know insane crazy and fed up here.

2007-04-23 04:05:25 · 19 answers · asked by cleo_alter_ego 2

Now that my husband is married, is it appropriate for his ex-girlfriends mother to be calling him when his ex-girlfriends car breaks down? The ex-girlfriend just recently calling him everyday with one thing or the other supposedly about the kids that they have together, but up until she found out that we finally got married, he wasn't even aloud to see his children. what's so different now that we are married than before he was married. He hasn't changed he's still the same man. Why is her mother calling him to come to her rescue?

2007-04-23 04:01:41 · 18 answers · asked by stella 2

Recently I found out that my husband was looking for an ex on the net. He told me that they only kissed, no sex, and that she was more like a friend to him. When I asked him, why after all this time would he try to find her and this was his response. "Because I just did." How lame is that? Don't I deserve a better answer? Stuff like this is the reason I don't trust him.

2007-04-23 03:57:57 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been married for 4 months...now Im suffering from it... he seemed like a confident, fun man b4 I married him...but now I realize he is not confident at all, I admit that I dont love him, but he blames me for not showing enough love to him...then how can I fall in love with him after hearing that... he always says he loves me very much, and makes me feel guilty that I dont have feelings for him... although he has some good qualities, he's intelligent, loyal, responsible, he is not romantic, not confident, doesnt have a good body type, and we have different personalities, Im an adventurous person, I have a lot of interests, but he is very conservative and he doesnt like the things I like, I find it so bored with him...and bcos of the different personality, we carry different views all the time... in addition, our sex life is not satisfied... I only had sex with one man b4 getting married, and my exbf is a lot better than him in bed...
I dont know what to do, should I divorcehim

2007-04-23 03:56:01 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

there is a no contact order that i didn't put either than him but i still love him, how can i make him forget about the girl and lov me

2007-04-23 03:51:51 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

Is it right to live together before marriage and if we do should we have seperate bedrooms?

2007-04-23 03:51:05 · 30 answers · asked by My little babba born Dec 09 3

I am a mom with 3 little kids. I still love my husband but I can't live with him anymore, now I move to a forgian country with my kids. My husband won't sign the devoice paper, he might think I might go back to him one day. He is a good man and father after all. I meet this guy in this country who have family and we fall in love with eachother. I try to leave him but won't able to since we work together, and he won't agree to. He try to get devoice since their relationship already have some problems. But after she find out our relationship, she did try to suicide to keep their relationship. What should I do?

2007-04-23 03:48:25 · 10 answers · asked by Siu 1

2007-04-23 03:45:42 · 12 answers · asked by MeShel G 1

Why is it, I have a loving husband, 2 healthy kids and my own health, but my marriage is really boring. Anyone out there been married a while and still happy? How do you stop a marriage going stale? if you have talked about it and tried most things? I don't have the same loving feeling anymore, how do you get that back? Can you get it back? Is it best to go your own ways or try and work it out?

2007-04-23 03:44:57 · 40 answers · asked by Vixx 2

my boyfriend has taken so much credit in his business n is struggling to repay it.. to make matters worse he suffered another huge loss today..he's completely finished.
this bad phase has been goin for around 4yrs. He has completely lost hope now. Im still studying, so thrs nothin i can do to help him.
what do i do?

2007-04-23 03:44:27 · 7 answers · asked by ? 2

2007-04-23 03:43:47 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

he tooks me and my kids on but my kids always seem to upset him..( u know what kids are like) im 50 but look 35 Im fairly good looking and of course I have 50 yr old health issues..re womanly parts..which he makes fun of..however, only whan i am relaxing does he tend to want to come home from a party,, not that i go out often as i usually work..when i dont want to go out he wants to stay..we are always at odds..Ive put up with his depression and controlling ways as i married him...hes a good man meaning he works hard and he cares for the home and i am confortable.. but he runs it like a tight ship...and orders me around like a kid..ok i wanna leaveeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee but im 50 and not that financial.

2007-04-23 03:41:07 · 6 answers · asked by cleo_alter_ego 2

2007-04-23 03:38:14 · 5 answers · asked by kristi c 1

I am in the prosess of leaving my husband. He no longer shows any warmth all love towrds me, Refuses to open up and discuss things, and wont come to marraige councilling, my self confidance is shattered.

I have decided to go it alone. I hope one day I will meet my true soul mate, im 29 and hope some day to settle down again as I would love to be a mother.

But How do i get through the emotional rollercoaster im on at the moment?I do still love him, but I am fighting a loosing battle to keep my marraige together. I would rather be on my own than with someone who makes me unhappy. Advice from people who have experianced the same hurt and confusion would be appreciated

2007-04-23 03:34:51 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I looked into my husband's cell phone. There was a text asking was he busy the text was sent at 7:20 pm however i saw it around 11:00pm. So I called the number it was a girl. She said she has been knowing my husband for 2year now, since she was 16 now of course she is 18. She claim he was just someone to talk too. I ask if they ever had sex or even made out, He said no, but she did kiss him once. What do I do? We have been married 7 years, one son.

2007-04-23 03:30:33 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous