Marriage & Divorce - 23 April 2007

I'm a young-looking 38-year-old man who has been looking for a wife since I was 18. I have a fabulous job and own my own home, so I'm the farthest distance from a deadbeat. Why is it easy for some men to find spouses, but impossible for others?

2007-04-23 08:54:59 · 18 answers · asked by Steve S 1

he bought it from Walmart 3 months after I proposed to him & no wedding date has been set??

2007-04-23 08:44:42 · 13 answers · asked by Happy go Lucky 4

My wnderful husband and I will be celebrating our 1st anniversary shortley. I want to get a really nice, senimental gift for him. The kicker is that he is currently serving in Afghanistan. Can anyone think of some thing that would be a good gift. Being that it is our first and under such special circumstances, I want to make it really nice. HEEEEEELP!!!

2007-04-23 08:42:04 · 8 answers · asked by LadyRico 3

Mt bf & I have been 2gether for 2.5 yrs, he has always been lovely, sweet, caring & gentle. we got engaged last yr & I thought everything was great. On Xmas day, his phone rang with 'Kelly' i asked who Kelly was, cos I thought i knew all his friends, he said she was a girl at work, i said 'why dont you answer?' and he got v.v. annoyed (which is not like him) he confessed eventually he had feelings for her but hadnt done anything & they had just been texting. i didnt believe him & said i would call his bluff & ring her myself, i did & she told me they had been seeing eachother for 2 weeks & had kissed, he had told her he had split up with me! i told him to get out my flat & didnt see him for a week. we started talking again in the new yr & decided to give it another go - he quit his job & changed his mob no. & as far as im aware has had no contact with her, he's been good & has answered all my questions & has been patient but i cant get over it. its killing me. he is 19 & i am 25.

2007-04-23 08:41:08 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

If you've seen the movie, "The Notebook", then you somewhat know my problem.

I'm currently with an amazing man that is responsible, caring, and nice. We've been together for 5 years. I love him dearly, but I'm not IN love with him. We have very little sex life, no passion, never say "I love you", never kiss (intimately). We're best friends. It didn't start this way. It's just how HE likes it. Yes, I've tried talking. We have a business together.

I have 2 children from a previous relationship and 2 years ago their father revealed he's still in love with me. He hasn't dated anyone else in 10 years. He's had girlfriends, but not for more than a few weeks. I tried to blow it off at first, but I'm still in love with him, 2. He's the complete opposite. Irresponsible (though, slowly getting there), passionate, romantic, etc. He remembers EVERYTHING about us- down to the color of socks I was wearing when we met 16 years ago. (I DON'T remember everything.)

I have not physically cheated.

2007-04-23 08:34:20 · 13 answers · asked by funnyface 1

I found a gorgeouse lookin lady, but she is 15 year older then me,is it ok? to marry her,

2007-04-23 08:32:20 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

Is it better to be alone or stay with someone that makes you miserable.

PS. You can support yourself easily.

2007-04-23 08:26:46 · 26 answers · asked by Ker Plunk 3

For those of you married to someone with a personality disorder (like narcissism or Borderline personality disorder). Is it difficult for people to understand what you’re going through? Does your spouse hide it very well with everyone else and play the part of a great person but does some of the nastiest things to you? I find it very difficult to discuss anything about what goes on in my house with anyone because they look at me like I’m nuts. They look at you like “not the person you’re married to. They’re great”. And others just find it impossible that a marriage could be like that. They almost think you’re lying. For those of you that are married to someone like this, you know exactly what I’m talking about. It drives you mad. How do you cope without wanted to shout to the world “Hello I’m not the screwed up one. My spouse is insane at home. She saves it only for me to see!” I want to expose her and say “see this is what she’s like”. She’s not some great therapist for kids! Actually she treats her own kids like crap! It’s maddening. I even taped her and played the tape for her about a month ago during one of her outbursts where she was yelling profanities. She couldn’t believe I did that and doesn’t trust me now. I told her I just wanted to record her just so she could see how she gets! She was only concerned with whether or not I let anyone hear it. Hello? I did! How do you cope!

2007-04-23 08:21:19 · 8 answers · asked by golf4everdude 1

would u tell your wife so you could rekindle w/ her or just say it not knowing if you WILL do it again ? {an AFFAIR}

2007-04-23 08:11:59 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

can we get married without our parents getting to know?....we are of age and residing in the UAE. what are the formalities for court marriage ? can we get married in a temple in trivandrum, kerala?

2007-04-23 07:50:26 · 10 answers · asked by aparna v 1

2007-04-23 07:17:27 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am just fed up. I kicked him out, changed the locks, and told him enough is enough. He's continues to use drugs, he won't get a job, he stays away for weeks at a time, i pay all the bills and provide for our children by myself, and has been doing this for 3 years. He's mad at our oldest daughter for finding his drug paraphenelia in her bathroom, now she has lost all respect for him. I refuse to let him back in, and I've told him I want a divorce. He's not on my lease, and has never been on any lease with me. He calls out of the blue and tells me the police says because we're married I can't kick him out. Now let's be real, if I chose not to live with someone anyone(married or not) that is my business, and no one can tell me to live with someone who's not only a danger to himself, but to me and our children. He's out, and he's staying out, the locks are already changed, and his name will never be on this lease.
My question is:" Do I have to let this man back into this apartment?

2007-04-23 07:07:31 · 3 answers · asked by soon2bfree 1

My husband just bought a house and ever sense we moved here he has been very rude and cruel. We are so not getting along. He made me scrub the bathtub when we thought I was losing our third baby. I have had no jobs and I have no education and no place to go. I am scared and I dont know what to do or where to go if I leave. We live in a small town and there is nothing here to help me through this. If you know of anything I could try to get out please let me know.

2007-04-23 07:00:31 · 18 answers · asked by Amber T 1

2007-04-23 06:49:57 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

i hold in my hand a culmination (sp) of 5 weeksn work or private eyeing. its a website put on by on of her friends, and everyone says shes having s ex in the pix, but recently she calmed down, and started trying to work it out. i want it to work, but if i see those pix, i know its over. this has been killing me for 6 months, and i need to kinow, but i love my family, help!

2007-04-23 06:48:07 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

What should I do, my wife is not a dyke and would be deeply offended by my friends advances, I don't want to loose a friend or upset my wife.

2007-04-23 06:43:41 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

okay, if you suspected your spouse was cheating on you, so you did some private eye stuff, and you uncovered a website reputed to havre your spouses nude/pornographich pix (that were taking during the marraige, during rocky times) but your spouse seemsm genuinely yto want to work it out, but you know seeing the pix will end it. you dont want to get a divorce, but you need to know. what do you do?????

2007-04-23 06:30:30 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

what are your views on it? why is it that people say that it won't work? why is it that people say "your to young" "your not ready"? When your in a marriage, you grow together...right? why is it that people don't want to settle down until they are thirty?

Im 16 and i will be married next year. Moving to new york with my soon to be husband and I will complete my senior year in highschool there. Hes graduating this year and he is 17. So he will be starting college this year.

People have suggested we wait until im 20 or atleast finish college before we do but I think if it is possible to do this then why not? If we both know what we want then why not? whats wrong with getting married to the person you love? Nothing.

Ofcourse we all know marriage isn't just about love. I'm just saying. My dad disagrees completely but he has no say so in what i do because he does not have custody of me and besides, I think hes racist. He doesnt like my fiance because he isn't fully black and...

2007-04-23 06:29:14 · 28 answers · asked by Aubri's Mommie 4

I am 39, my husband is 47.
For all of our marriage, he was not intimate - even before. Before we were married he said he was insecure and that once we were married he would feel better and be more open. Well, seven years later, and we went from our highlight of sex (maybe once a week, with no foreplay, no kissing EVER and no eye contact) to about once every three months if that, always in the morning before he goes to work, and again, very fast and robotic.

In the past, I would try to talk to him. I bought books for me, for him, for us. I tried everything. I am thin, attractive enough, and often get attention from men as young as 25 and as old as 60 when out, and I dress classic - not sleazy.
I do not have hygenic issues and if I did, I would address them. I never had this sexual issue with anyone else. My sex life was always wonderful before. I thought this would be a security issue with him, and he'd relax.

2007-04-23 06:23:33 · 17 answers · asked by sadandconfused 2

through our addiction to Wheaties. I just picked up Frosted Flakes today, and we'll make the switch. It'll be hard, but I'm not paying some nimrod to counsel us.

2007-04-23 06:16:52 · 13 answers · asked by Sausage Fingers™ 3

he was with me before,I broken off with him, because I found out he cheat, but He use my e-mail address to start groups a woman to start sex with her,is it wrong for me to get in my e-emil address to read the e-mail?

2007-04-23 06:07:55 · 25 answers · asked by sska 1

I noticed a lot of single moms want a father figure for their kids. I have two, but their father is involved and I don't want to bring another one around. I'd rather date a little (get my needs met every once in a while) and focus on my kids and job than put forth more energy into a relationship (I've been through two busted ones in the past few years).

A lot of friends don't think this is a good idea, they seem to think that mothers should find someone to marry and live with, but my situation is different. My oldest son is autistic, and he may never be able to live on his own, and I feel it would be better to raise him alone in my house with visits to his father's house. A lot of women don't understand my position. What's your opinion?

2007-04-23 05:35:47 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous

I found out our 9 yaer old son is not mine,she let me believe he was.We just had another baby which I am now questioning,because she would hang out all night on our deck with our neighbor,some times till 4 am,2 or 3 times a week. All she says is they have alot in commen.I get home from work at 3 pm and she is still sleeping,(tired from being up all night),this went on for 2 summers.In the winter he would have bon fires,and she hates being out in the cold, but she had to go to his fires.He moved to another state a week before the baby was born, it just dont seem right to me.

2007-04-23 05:33:26 · 31 answers · asked by screwed over 1

Me and my husband have been together for nearly six years and we are expecting our first born this summer. We have just recently been married although not much has changed.
He is absolutly addicted to porn. He says it has nothing to do with me, and promises not to do it anymore when I confront him, but sure enough I catch him again...always on accident. I want to experiance a more sexual relationship with him, but I feel akward when all that he shows interest in is porn. I love him with all my heart, but I feel that if this is not resolved, our marriage could crumble. Is this all in my head or do I have a point? I understand "boys will be boys," but our sex life is always put on the back burner- no matter how much I try to engage in sexual activity, he shows no interest in it. This has gotten dramatically worse in the last few months, and being pregnant makes it even more emotionally draining. Is it really me?

2007-04-23 05:33:18 · 2 answers · asked by girlipits 1

An Indian boy/man (age 30), after two years, repeatedly refuses arrange marriage meetings his parents continue to set up for him. He continues to tell his parents that he is in love (and wants to marry) a caucasian girl, but they refuse to even consider this. He says if he marries someone in an arranged marriage that he does not love, he will make their life miserable. What will his parents do to him, over time, if he keeps refusing arranged marriage meetings and his parents refuse to accept his choice for marriage?

2007-04-23 05:23:17 · 21 answers · asked by cj.blue 1

d since birth i want to make him happy

2007-04-23 05:22:06 · 13 answers · asked by Shaheerah S 1

Would you, let your spouse fulfill "past regrets" in life to save your marriage?

Pasted regrets is what you spouse wanted to do or wanted to have done before marriage, but was unable or never had the opportunity to do it at the time; but your spouse is trying to see past the regrets by talking openly about them, telling about all the desires wanted to do in life, but also feels a little cheated in life because your spouse believe's that they got married a little to soon. Now there is no regrets about the marriage, just regrets that your spouse never had a chance to do the things or wanted to do the things in life before it's late & will get to old & die. With that thought in mind, (even though trying to move past it) it is starting to affect the marriage.

Would you, let your spouse fulfill their past regrets,(too personal to list here) or even help your spouse fulfill those regrets it to save your marriage.

Even though it is something you would never allow, or even considered?

2007-04-23 05:14:21 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

my currant bf is in a detention center, he says he doesn't want to hold me back by keeping me all to himself, should i date someone else or keep crying, after all i have known him since i was seven

2007-04-23 05:13:45 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

Scared, Paranoid, lifeless, etc. ???????????????

2007-04-23 05:04:54 · 7 answers · asked by sxycpl4ya 1

Most of you idiots think that if you have sex with anyone besides your spouse that it will be an automatic STD. LOL you people are the most paranoid freakazoids I have ever seen.

STD's are not a problem in my world and we have multiple partners. Your pastors have brainwashed you all.

2007-04-23 04:56:29 · 19 answers · asked by sxycpl4ya 1