I'm a young-looking 38-year-old man who has been looking for a wife since I was 18. I have a fabulous job and own my own home, so I'm the farthest distance from a deadbeat. Why is it easy for some men to find spouses, but impossible for others?
2007-04-23 08:54:59 · 18 answers · asked by Steve S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
are u talking to the women ? are you going to chruch ? are you talking to them in the market ? ask some of your friends to set u up.
2007-04-23 09:00:22 · answer #1 · answered by dounut 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Women can sense if a guy is on the hunt for a wife. It scares them, simply because desperation can mask true feelings. I'm not calling you desperate by any means, but if you find a woman who finds you attractive and interesting, you may be more willing to quickly enter into a relationship with her rather than go slowly and learn all you can about her.
I didn't get married until I was 30, but I met and was friends with my intended for a year before we ever dated once. Because our relationship was built on friendship and respect for each other, our foundation is stronger than if it had been built on nothing more than butterflies in the stomach and mere physical attraction.
She's out there - make yourself available, but go cautiously. Volunteer at your church, or local hospital - anywhere where you can meet new friends (both male and female). Once your sphere of influence has broadened, you will most definitely find that your choice of dates will too!
I wish you well!!!
2007-04-23 09:04:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you date often? Have you ever thought about asking an old girlfriend that you may still have some contact with what she thinks turned her off to you being Mr. Right? Most of the time when you aren't looking for someone to come into your life is when someone does. Don't scare someone off too early in the relationship by talking marriage. I'm not saying not to bring it up a few months into the relationship just by getting to know her wants and needs but don't rush it.
2007-04-23 09:07:07 · answer #3 · answered by KM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya gotta look for em in the right place. You're not gonna find them in some smoky bar. You'll find women there but not any that are gonna want to settle down. They've got their wild oats to sow first.
Try church, Starbucks, grocery store, bookstore, Walmart. Join a club. Try the Single's section of Y/A (This is M/D section). I really am not up on places to meet women. I knida don't remember what it's like to date. But you never know these days with what's going on in my life.....I may be right there w/ ya.....soon.....
2007-04-23 09:04:53 · answer #4 · answered by prouddaddy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop looking for a wife. Look for a friend. Look for someone you want to hang out with. Enjoy the process (dating, getting to know people, etc.) and stop focusing on the end result (marriage). Yuo are probably coming off as desperate and girls really don't like that in guys. Also, open your mind to women of different shapes and colors and backgrounds.
2007-04-23 08:59:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Odd that you started looking for a spouse so young! Maybe you need to chill out and just date. Mrs. Right will come along when you least expect it. Maybe you're scaring the girls away because you're taking such a critical look. Perhaps you're starting to look desperate. Stay cool, man.
I wish you luck!
2007-04-23 09:00:29 · answer #6 · answered by love2travel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the first answer. You don't just want any spouse, you want the right one.. for YOU.
Try not to be impatient. It is better for you to take more time and find the woman that you will spend the rest of your life with.. than to fall into the majority, who marry quickly and divorce just as fast!
Be patient, and keep looking. Hey, have you tried match.com?
Good luck
2007-04-23 09:00:20 · answer #7 · answered by michaeljazz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No offense, but clearly there is something wrong as it is easy for all men to get married.
It would be interesting to see what is going on with you, as something kept you from making the typical male mistake of marriage.
2007-04-23 09:03:55 · answer #8 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what you want and have standards. I think it's better to be alone then in a bad relationship. I am sure you will meet the one for you. Look at the type of woman you want and the type of woman you are dating.
2007-04-27 04:50:21 · answer #9 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Finding a spouse is NOT hard... finding a GOOD spouse is ;)
Then again, maybe your standards are a little too high.
From personal experience... The moment you STOP looking... is the moment she will come. Stop being so desperate!
2007-04-23 08:58:10 · answer #10 · answered by Leroy Studying Law 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Gpd should have put everyone with who they should be with--but we make the wrong choices. Keep looking the right woman will come alone. Stop thinking about how you think it is--because it is not like that just because you are a good catch. Maybe you like nasty woman. Your sex drive.
2007-04-23 09:00:36 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋