okay, if you suspected your spouse was cheating on you, so you did some private eye stuff, and you uncovered a website reputed to havre your spouses nude/pornographich pix (that were taking during the marraige, during rocky times) but your spouse seemsm genuinely yto want to work it out, but you know seeing the pix will end it. you dont want to get a divorce, but you need to know. what do you do?????
2007-04-23 06:30:30 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You accept what you've got there, someone who is going about this as if he is a kid. Not your marriage per-say but his own life. Realize that he is just trying to survive, not thrive in his life, so your always going to be dealing with a male that sees ways out. Why you if you geniune love him, can't see that. See understand what divides boys from the man. It isn't money, it isn't penis size, it isn't age, it's purpose! Which is why your so unsure about this guy because what is his purpose? Why does he even try? Is it just for the sake of what he feels is love? Are does he see that path with you, that his life needs you in it? This isn't a kids game, but you've got a kid there, understand that and try to help him see the real issues here, namly that he feels compassion for you and this marriage your trying to make happen? Or is it just him that he feels for? This isn't an easy dilemma to get past and destroy marriages everyday. Thats why its better to have a friend and make them your lover, then to find a lover and hope they become your friend..... he isn't being a friend with any of this.... so maybe you should ask yourself is he worth saving. This goes beyond marriage/divorce society cheaping that along time ago, this is about some day making a family that loves itself and the people around it, its not about you two at all.... but if you don't have a parnter thats willing to help you build that castle, find someone who can, love comes with the territory you have a human heart... its being in the right territory that helps....
2007-04-23 10:58:24 · answer #1 · answered by Brutal Honesty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter whether it was during rocky times of your marriage, your spouse should not have done that. If the marriage is to work, you have to work through the hard times, not post such pictures on websites. That is not trying. Anyone can make an excuse for anything, but that doesn't make it right. You have to do a lot of soul searching and but one important thing you have to come to terms with is will you be able to trust that person or will you always wonder if they will do it again. Don't let someone tell you to divorce or not too, this is your life and you need to take the time to find out if this is what you want. Only you know deep in your heart what you want. Take time and make sure the decision is the right one for you.
2007-04-25 13:33:30 · answer #2 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your spouse about it. Could this reputed website be a scam? If they are there, maybe it's not with your spouse's knowledge.
2007-04-25 13:36:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋