Marriage & Divorce - 23 April 2007

When a couple get married do both parties have a reasonable expectation that there will a sexual relationship between them on a regular basis for many years to come? If one party starts refusing this part of the relationship does that give the party who wants to still have a sex life to look elsewhere? If not, dosen't it seem a little unfair that a spouse expects his/her partner to remain faithful but they won't be intimate with them.

2007-04-23 03:26:52 · 14 answers · asked by tcb396 2

counselling.. leaving..holidays.. working at it.. agreeing with him.. ive lost plot i dont think i respect him..he told me tonight i have lots of things wrong with me and if i undressed a man would run off...but HEEEEEEEE loves me...then apologised said he was being silly.. meanwhile im left reeling

2007-04-23 03:21:46 · 18 answers · asked by cleo_alter_ego 2

Experiences only please!

2007-04-23 03:12:34 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

he says things that are rude to me...and then says he dont mean em...he puts my figure down but when we go out he lavishes praise...he pays me back with pay backs when hes thought of something way back and then out fo the blue he says somethig to payu me back... at times he astounds me

2007-04-23 03:07:51 · 5 answers · asked by cleo_alter_ego 2

i dont know if i am being selfish or not, last week i asked for your help and you guys really helped. My sister in law just got seperated from her husband and now is living with us with her three kids, there is no space in our house, everything in my life is falling apart but i cant say anything to anyone, on your advice i had a heart to herat chat with my hubby and asked him if we can move out of the house and live on our own. He said its not that simple, his mother and sis are concerned that everyone will blame them for it, but the thing is if we live together and cant b happy then who is at the losing end here, icant eat or sleep or cook or cant be happy even by my own free will, i feel so stuck and suffocated in the house. i hate it every second of the day. its like i have made up my mind to move out of the house but since i cant i am depressed and stressed out most of time, i am on relaxants now,what should i do , how should i adjust or talk again to someone... help!

2007-04-23 03:06:21 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm black. Before my husband and I got married, he told me he only prefered to date black women but AFTER we were married, he started going on the net looking up naked black, white, asian and latin women.

He even told me that he can't stand manly looking women but also looks up naked female body builders on the net that look so manly. Why would he tell me he only prefers black women but then turns around and says beauty has no color. If you are attracted to all women, why not date them? I don't understand him. Why would he lie about something like this?

2007-04-23 03:04:34 · 4 answers · asked by sweetness 2

and did your relationship come back normal or did your in laws and you break from each other forever? I don't miss to be back to warmth, but also wonder if this is a new chapter not to be close to them for being nasty the fact that i was making my own nest and didn't want them around with their pesimism. I'd like to hear experienced women who did their new home and naturally didn't want a mother in law involved.

2007-04-23 03:01:28 · 2 answers · asked by Spark S 5

My Inlaw's don't pay their bills.Their house has almost been foreclosed on twice & their phone is off.My husband says his dad hides the bills from his mom,that still doesn't give them an excuse not to pay them. They expect my husband to help them everytime.We were saving up to have the actual wedding this summer & those funds got depleted to help them out. We live in a 3Rm apartment & we're trying 2 save for the party,a house and the car we have. Everytime they ask my husband for help they ask "Doesn't Mel make enough" or you guys just bought whatever. I tell my husband he doesn't have to explain how we spend OUR money, we're not children & we're almost 30. Everytime my husband talks to them it's as if they don't care how this is affecting us. He has helped them in the past but they expect him to continue to do this even though they owe him almost $8,000 within 2 years. I've already told him that if we have kids this can't continue we would have to take care of our family.

2007-04-23 02:59:42 · 15 answers · asked by Melody Z 2

2007-04-23 02:49:21 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-04-23 02:48:11 · 3 answers · asked by george F 1

This morning, my wife informed me that she loaned a friend of hers $300.00 and didn't even ask me? Not only did she do it without even consulting me...it was my money she gave the woman? Should I be pissed, or let it go?

2007-04-23 02:47:51 · 26 answers · asked by Big Daddy 3

I just got insulted by 3 bitches who don`t even know me. One of them, even said I am ugly just because probably her husband is not having sex with her anymore. And you stupid ugly whores, you think that a marriage certificate means love? SO WHO IS THE PROSTITUTE? You are doing it for money!

2007-04-23 02:43:26 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

It is annoying the c***out of me that when I am driving my husband start to give instruction and direction even though you KNOW how to drive and KNOW where you heading? I ask so many people around me and 99% said their husband or boyfriend or partner does the same...why???

2007-04-23 02:28:04 · 15 answers · asked by lilac 7

Under what criteria are they granted?

2007-04-23 02:26:01 · 5 answers · asked by Yellowstonedogs 7

I have only been married for three months, we dated for 4 years before that. My problem is that I love flirting with guys, I love the attention and I love the beginning of a relationship when everything is new and fresh and exciting. I love trying to see if I can get a guy to want me. I Know this is a huge problem. I don't want to cheat on my husband because I truly love him and take my vows very seriously. How do I get over wanting to flirt and trying to get attention from guys? How do I recreate those feelings of a new, fresh, exciting relationship?

2007-04-23 02:14:55 · 17 answers · asked by bmorediamond 1

how i can say my husband is man/women because he wearing my dress at night daily suit salwar , sarees , lipistick , bindi & then drinking & torcher me whole night .when i asked him why you wearing my dress then hi beat me & say wear my pent shirt & give your ear ring or nose pin & he wear it. i fed up this man.

after comleting the make then he start drinking & force me to drinking .
our marriage time maximum 6 months only.
he say i like wearing ladies cloths & what can i do.
our aaya working in home on sunday early he is sleeping with my dress & with make up.

i am not satisfied this man.

suggest me ?

2007-04-23 02:07:28 · 29 answers · asked by ritu 1

First - thanks for your responses to my first question. This Q&A thing is a god send! Secondly - if I take my husband back does the pain of what's happened ever go away? And if it does how can I aid that healing? I have offered (maybe stupidly) that I will get the Decree Nisi then give him until Sept to be the person he says he wants to be. He did drink every night, 6-8 cans during the week and alot more at the weekend but has now stopped the weeknight drinking (2 weeks). In all the time we have been together he never took me out. I used to go out for meals on my own. Since I found out what he did he has taken me out twice but that has now stopped. I feel he does want to change but I'm not sure he can. Perhaps RELATE may help.

2007-04-23 02:05:13 · 20 answers · asked by LoulouBelle 1

A spanking?

2007-04-23 02:05:05 · 20 answers · asked by Lily P 3

And why ask knowing the answer and you aren't going to like the most logical answer? And why is the most common answer "DUMP HIM!"?

2007-04-23 01:42:38 · 21 answers · asked by Tall Chicky 4

it was a love marriage its been an year.........everything going on fine with little differences over me being called sardarni by my in-laws and other issues involved in an inter-religion marriage.....i ignore them. now comes my problem.....we are planning for a family but i feel insecure that my inlaws will surely make him / her a sikh.......i will not be allowed to give my child the name i wish to give......what shud i do?

please dont tell me i shud have decided before marrying.....at that point of time it was marriage on my mind and not kids........i just loved him.....i discussed this with my hubby bt.......no answer from him.....

2007-04-23 01:24:35 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-04-23 01:15:51 · 21 answers · asked by Woody 2

im a married woman with kids, but most of the times im at home alone. I met someone online and now im very much attracted and addicted to him.I know this is a futile relationship but still i cannot control myself from chatting with him,and the more we chat the more attracted we get to each other. How do i get over this chat addiction ? I try to keep myself occupied ,but then this urge to chat with him takes over .I tried deleting my hotmail account too .How to control this urge to NOT to chat? Pls help!

2007-04-23 01:11:24 · 10 answers · asked by . 2

This man in a dating site is seeking a woman who will accept this kind of setup: They will both get married and have a lot of kids, and she will have no complaints whatsoever if the man brings home another lady, marry her and bear her kids too. He wants both women to be his wife, live in the same house and get along perfectly well. He wants to create his own loving and happy "community".

Note: He's not muslim. He calls it "plural marriage". What kind of b.s. is that? Does this happen normally to some countries? What are your thoughts on this so-called "plural marriage"?

2007-04-23 00:30:41 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I want to know, is it legaly permisable marring first cousin (father's sister's son)in india, Can one register this marriage as per marrage act(hindu).

only serious ans only, please don't give unwanted advise.

2007-04-23 00:24:11 · 13 answers · asked by sampita001 1